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Hi. Have always thought myself bi, but now ID as gay. Because of conservative parents and society pressure when I was young, was in deep closet. Married, kids etc. Still married to a woman, but no sex for years. Interested to hear from any others in similar situation
 
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Married to a woman, I'm bisexual and she knows it (so I guess not closeted), love our sex life. Interested in bring another man in and explore that world together. I will never in my life time, go without sex. Unless there's a great reason for it. Death bed, cancer or any severe illness would put me there.
 
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Have always thought myself bi, but now ID as gay.

Is that because you were sexually attracted to women and men but the feelings toward women have vanished over time, or is it because you were gay and in denial all along?
 

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Is that because you were sexually attracted to women and men but the feelings toward women have vanished over time, or is it because you were gay and in denial all along?
That is a really good question. It is the first situation. I was attracted to both women and men and initially enjoyed sex with both. Over time the pleasure and desire for women diminished, to the point the thought of sex with a woman is a turn off. I cannot get erect watching str8 or even bi porn, only with gay porn.
 
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That is a really good question. It is the first situation. I was attracted to both women and men and initially enjoyed sex with both. Over time the pleasure and desire for women diminished, to the point the thought of sex with a woman is a turn off. I cannot get erect watching str8 or even bi porn, only with gay porn.

That's fascinating. How do you feel about that change: has it been upsetting, or do you not even miss having those attractions?

What sort of feelings do you still have for your wife? I'd imagine she isn't too happy about the sexlessness of the marriage
 

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That's fascinating. How do you feel about that change: has it been upsetting, or do you not even miss having those attractions?

What sort of feelings do you still have for your wife? I'd imagine she isn't too happy about the sexlessness of the marriage
I am happy with the change. Wife went through menopause and breast cancer so zero sex drive, so the no sex with her is not an issue and does not raise suspicion.
 
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A woman's sex drive doesn't usually get wiped out by either menopause or breast cancer, so I hope you've confirmed with her that's the case

At any rate, I hope you've talked about these changes with her, or intend to soon

It is good to know that it's not causing you any frustration or pain, at least