LeeEJ-- I hear you. I am not trying to pick and fight and, like Zora, my YOU was broader than anyone in this thread--it was aimed at the countless who read and don't speak up, who see and stay silent. I am sorry if you or Playa took what I said personally.
At first read, I did take it personally, but then I figured that you meant "you" in the broader sense. I was even sitting here going, "Wait -- since when did I become a Christian again?" :wink:
The only thing that I can glean that comes close to a negative reputation, is the fact that he was gay and the societal stigma that entails. If you watch the video clip, his orientation caused the team to not get calls from referees.
That's in the present, but in the years prior to his coming out, he also had a negative reputation as a coach, win/lose record aside. Apparently, lacrosse players looking to join a program sometimes decided to not play on his team because of his reputation as a coach (and, as far as they knew, he wasn't gay). You know what those situations are like -- you'd think of joining an organization or team of some kind, but you'd hear things like the boss/coach/leader is pretty much an asshole.
This is a good point. As a private club, they are not overseen and regulated by EEOC or other federal regulations. Private organizations and clubs are able to make choices that organizations that are overseen by federal regulations can not.
I'm not sure that they're entirely exempt from those regulations, though. It's stated in the article that, "The University of Missouri has a policy that does not permit discrimination on the basis of, among other things, sexual orientation." Since the team has a faculty adviser (who doesn't look straight herself, but my "gaydar" ain't exactly 100%, either), I'd expect them to also abide by University policy.
The
school didn't fire him, but I'll bet that the
team has to stick with school policy in order to be associated with the university. They wanted to dismiss him, but they also knew that it could affect the existence of the program.
Here's my
hypothesis:
From the perspective of the players, the team's fantastic 2004 season was followed up by a relatively dismal .500 season, and players didn't like the negative atmosphere that was brewing. As a player, not only do you want to win, but you also want to have a good time doing it -- a mildly competitive team that has a blast on the field, both in-game and during practice, is always preferable to a dominating team that you hate to play for. After shooting a wad in 2004, then doing much worse only a year later, along with simply not enjoying being on the team, the players wanted a coaching change. Like any group, they were talking about their boss before formally approaching him. Coach Hawkins hadn't yet come out to them, so his sexuality wasn't even a factor.
Hawkins was having a terrible time away from the field during the same time period. I can't imagine that having to come from suicide watch straight to practice was good for his mental state. Not only was his personal life a shambles, but he couldn't keep his team rolling in 2005 like they did the season before. Off-color remarks and comments from his own team and from plenty of others in the athletic community (who were all
still unaware of his homosexuality) drove him even further into depression. He was a lacrosse coach; that's what he did. When his time as a coach was in jeopardy, he cracked (much like having been under torture, I'll guess), and came out to his players as part of a wider explanation that his disastrous personal life was affecting his coaching ability.
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Anyway, that's what I think happened. It's quite a mess.
When ignorant people say bullshit like, "Gays/blacks/etc just want 'special rights', not 'equal rights'," they bring up situations just like this one. They say that it would be impossible to fire a gay coach -- no matter how badly he coaches -- because everyone would assume right away that it would be because of his sexuality instead.
If Hawkins were straight, OR if he had not come out to his team, he would have been fired; if he came out in 2004, he probably would have been the first openly gay championship-winning lacrosse coach. But it's the timing that makes it look like he was fired because he was gay (which
still could be true, too) and not because of his ability to coach.
We need to fight for civil rights on all fronts at all times. Some battles, though, just plain suck. One side or the other has to "win", but when nobody's in the clear, people on both sides can easily discredit the whole thing. It's a shame that this story is one of those unwinnable battles.
Hawkins may have been the first openly gay coach, sure. We all know that he won't be the
last, either. There's more to come.