Lee_M said:
Since im currently getting neither ive been thinking is it the cock i am missing or the comfort of having a man and intimacy around?
Could you be satisfied going your entire life having VERY good sex with a man who was well endowed but had no emtional attchment to
OR
Would you prefer VERY bad sex with a 'small' man that you loved ?
To quote Steven Sondheim lyrics, "Is it always "or"? Is it never "and"?
I'm having lots of intimacy (but so far no sex) with a man who has a small penis. When/if we start getting even more sexual, it's going to be amazing. I have had great sex, minus intimacy with a pretty small guy, and both intimacy and sex with a few huge guys. I've had great sex, minimal intimacy with some fairly large guys.
I can't actually wrap my head around either situation you describe. I'm not likely to tolerate either. Consistently awful sex with no improvement despite trying (or worse, due to not trying at all) is eventually going to damage the intimacy level as well. For me, a physical demonstration of love (sitting with legs touching, hand holding, hugging, kissing, braiding my hair, sex- any physical demonstration) is strongly desired, or I don't really feel loved. But even more important is time spent together. I need long conversations, card games, vaccations, car rides to nowhere, movies, dinners out, dinners in- time. I must have that time spent together or I don't feel loved. So you see, if i don't have both, I don't feel loved.