Cock size and dating...

[deleted1025121]

How important would you say cock size is when looking for a boyfriend? Does it play a significant factor? And if it does...what is too small or too large? (This question is for either gay or str8 folks).

 

[Exbiker]

Hmm.

It's not all that important. But it's relevant.

I prefer 6-7.5 inches (erect) and moderately thick.

If it were 8 or more in length, and very thick, he'd have to be quite stupid and/or unpleasant for me to tire of him quickly... Though that has happened.

But on the other hand, some guys around 5 ish have been great boyfriends. It's about so much more. Mainly their outlook on life, their sense of humour. Some other aspects.

But it all depends what frame of mind I'm in.

I've been in a steady relationship (now a legal civil partnership) since 2002. It's hard to remember what I was like before that.

My man isn't huge. But he doesn't need to be.

Even in younger days I preferred to be the larger one, though I'm not huge so that didn't always happen. It did slightiy influence whether I'd take top or bottom (or Dom or sub) role ...

 

[deleted1025121]

Thanks for your thoughtful response. That does make a lot of sense. In the gay community so much emphasis has been placed on size...I often feel that if you dont' pass that test...you don't get to move on in a relationship.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

i think you should categorize what kind of dating. For women, they don't care about size. They would rather have a guy take them out to dinner, go hiking, go to the farmer's market, go yoga... and then go hiking again.

I can't speak for the gay community, but based on my experience, gay men love huge cocks and based on the websites I've been on, they're the ONLY people who care about size.

Even in the swinger communities, it's the men that want to see their girlfriends or wives with huge cocks.

So if you're a gay guy with a huge cock, you probably have dates 8 days a week. If you're a straight guy with a huge cock, you're shit out of luck -- get into porn, or listen to NPR every weekend and go out to meet girls at wine tastings. and then maybe after you hang out with them for weeks, and drop a lot of money on them, size may then become relevant.

Thanks for your thoughtful response. That does make a lot of sense. In the gay community so much emphasis has been placed on size...I often feel that if you dont' pass that test...you don't get to move on in a relationship.

 

[Exbiker]

Thanks for your thoughtful response. That does make a lot of sense. In the gay community so much emphasis has been placed on size...I often feel that if you dont' pass that test...you don't get to move on in a relationship.

I agree.

And we should feel some collective shame about that.

Being simple can be good. But sometimes we are too simple.

Life isn't all about appearances. Or measurements.

We must learn how to also acknowledge intellect, and spirit, and art...

 

[673409]

Your spirit, your outlook, your high self-esteem, your sense of humor and your character is the most relevant. The turn-on starts in the mind and in the heart. After all that, and if you happen to have a large hootie-hoo then it's merely a bonus jackpot. Additionally, a real cat should not have to rely on the size of his member to get over. If that is his only selling point then he's probably muscle-bound between the ears or still using crayons to sign his name.

 

[sundancer]

Yes, cock size does matter. .Every woman I have ever known has said so. They usually won't say it to the guy, because they know he can't do anything about it. So they find another reason to break up with him. . With guys, there are some where it does matter ,but for others, its not as important. For me personally, its all part of the package. The face, personality, build and cock. And if we click or not.

 

[693987]

How important would you say cock size is when looking for a boyfriend? Does it play a significant factor? And if it does...what is too small or too large? (This question is for either gay or str8 folks).

For me, no, it doesn't. Even in my days of casual I didn't pick my male fuck buddies for their dick size.

 

[deleted1025121]

i think you should categorize what kind of dating. For women, they don't care about size. They would rather have a guy take them out to dinner, go hiking, go to the farmer's market, go yoga... and then go hiking again.

I can't speak for the gay community, but based on my experience, gay men love huge cocks and based on the websites I've been on, they're the ONLY people who care about size.

Even in the swinger communities, it's the men that want to see their girlfriends or wives with huge cocks.

So if you're a gay guy with a huge cock, you probably have dates 8 days a week. If you're a straight guy with a huge cock, you're shit out of luck -- get into porn, or listen to NPR every weekend and go out to meet girls at wine tastings. and then maybe after you hang out with them for weeks, and drop a lot of money on them, size may then become relevant.

And if you're a gay with a small cock....you're shit out of luck either way. LOL

 

[Trott.lint]

And if you're a gay with a small cock....you're shit out of luck either way. LOL

Pretty much this attitude that leads people of all orientations to eriticise humiliation & degradation of their cocks. Not so LOL if you aren't able to do that.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

I respectfully disagree.

it only matters to women AFTER, personality, "chemistry" (whatever that means), good sense of humor, looks, money, etc. If a woman connects with a guy because he's got a huge cock, it's only because she's friends with him first.

Even when women know i've got a big cock and have seen pictures of it, do they say, "I still need to get to know you first."

Also, I've been with MANY women who say it's too big, it hurts, and limits positions. So it in many ways has been a liability with women, more so than a perk.

In my experience as a single straight male, women are more interested in personality, hiking, yoga, "meaningful conversations", "connection", sense of humor, money, etc... than how many inches you're carrying between your legs.

I can't tell you how many times I hear from women, "turn me on with my mind first". Again, this is based off my experience. This is NOT my opinion and preference.

Do you think Billy Joel got Christie Brinkley and Elle McPherson and every other model in the world because he's got a huge cock?

Yes, cock size does matter. .Every woman I have ever known has said so. They usually won't say it to the guy, because they know he can't do anything about it. So they find another reason to break up with him. . With guys, there are some where it does matter ,but for others, its not as important. For me personally, its all part of the package. The face, personality, build and cock. And if we click or not.

 

[693987]

I respectfully disagree.

it only matters to women AFTER, personality, "chemistry" (whatever that means), good sense of humor, looks, money, etc. If a woman connects with a guy because he's got a huge cock, it's only because she's friends with him first.

Even when women know i've got a big cock and have seen pictures of it, do they say, "I still need to get to know you first."

Also, I've been with MANY women who say it's too big, it hurts, and limits positions. So it in many ways has been a liability with women, more so than a perk.

In my experience as a single straight male, women are more interested in personality, hiking, yoga, "meaningful conversations", "connection", sense of humor, money, etc... than how many inches you're carrying between your legs.

I can't tell you how many times I hear from women, "turn me on with my mind first". Again, this is based off my experience. This is NOT my opinion and preference.

Oh, good grief. I don't care at all about farmer's markets, hiking, money (beyond someone being self-sufficient), etc. This garbage needs to stop being spewed all over. You're not a woman, you don't speak for us, and if those are the only kinds of women you encounter, maybe you need to be looking elsewhere. You've been repeatedly told by a fair few women on LPSG that your stereotypes don't apply. I'm not saying your experiences are invalid, just that if you always encounter a particular thing in women, then maybe you're looking at the wrong types of women. We're a hell of a lot more varied than "all women want is a relationship, a big check, and to go to a farmer's market and then do yoga".

Of course if I am having a relationship with someone, male or female I want a connection with them. That's because, y'know, it's a relationship.

To the OP, when I did casual I usually did see nude photos of the people before we ever fucked, but our overall sexual compatibility was a much higher priority than their dick size (if they were male). If they wanted rose petals, sweetness, and Marvin Gaye, it wasn't going to work out very well. I've had awesome sex with average as well as larger than average male partners. I've also had fucking awful sex with average and larger than average male partners.

I pretty much only care if someone is on the much larger end of the spectrum or the much smaller end of the spectrum. I fooled around with a guy on one occasion whose erect dick was smaller than my thumb. Could it have worked out? Yes, in spite of me generally getting more orgasms from penetration than other things, if he hadn't been a selfish jerk we could still have been compatible. I'm not sure how serious or casual of relationships you're inquiring about, but I don't pick the people I date much less have a serious relationship with because of their genitals. I pick the size of my dildos, but that's a completely separate thing.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

LOL. Garbage? this is what women tell me. So yes, thank god I'm not a woman. But by your deductions, women are either lying to me, or I'm meeting the wrong women. Even though you admit above in the post that "cock size doesn't matter."

So even though you agree with me, you disagree? Ha. You just proved my point. Hell hath no fury...

Oh, good grief. I don't care at all about farmer's markets, hiking, money (beyond someone being self-sufficient), etc. This garbage needs to stop being spewed all over. You're not a woman, you don't speak for us, and if those are the only kinds of women you encounter, maybe you need to be looking elsewhere. You've been repeatedly told by a fair few women on LPSG that your stereotypes don't apply. I'm not saying your experiences are invalid, just that if you always encounter a particular thing in women, then maybe you're looking at the wrong types of women. We're a hell of a lot more varied than "all women want is a relationship, a big check, and to go to a farmer's market and then do yoga".

Of course if I am having a relationship with someone, male or female I want a connection with them. That's because, y'know, it's a relationship.

To the OP, when I did casual I usually did see nude photos of the people before we ever fucked, but our overall sexual compatibility was a much higher priority than their dick size (if they were male). If they wanted rose petals, sweetness, and Marvin Gaye, it wasn't going to work out very well. I've had awesome sex with average as well as larger than average male partners. I've also had fucking awful sex with average and larger than average male partners.

I pretty much only care if someone is on the much larger end of the spectrum or the much smaller end of the spectrum. I fooled around with a guy on one occasion whose erect dick was smaller than my thumb. Could it have worked out? Yes, in spite of me generally getting more orgasms from penetration than other things, if he hadn't been a selfish jerk we could still have been compatible. I'm not sure how serious or casual of relationships you're inquiring about, but I don't pick the people I date much less have a serious relationship with because of their genitals. I pick the size of my dildos, but that's a completely separate thing.

 

[693987]

LOL. Garbage? this is what women tell me. So yes, thank god I'm not a woman. But by your deductions, women are either lying to me, or I'm meeting the wrong women. Even though you admit above in the post that "cock size doesn't matter."

So even though you agree with me, you disagree? Ha. You just proved my point. Hell hath no fury...

The garbage I refer to is "omg all women want is to trap a man into a relationship, go do yoga, and a big paycheck". Again, you've also had multiple women tell you differently, but you cling to your "that's all they want!". It's completely ridiculous that you will validate and agree with what only one group of people says, when from that same demographic you also have other women telling you a contrasting opinion.

Again, I didn't say your experiences are lies, and I'm not saying all of what you wrote is terrible or off base. Just the absolutely absurd stereotyping you do about women in general. I'm not scorned, so your "hell hath no fury" just like your stereotypes do not apply.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

yeah. well you can protest all you want in the forum, but to any sane, intelligent human being, your contradictions and inaccuracies are easily evident for the readers to make their own conclusions. I merely state facts and true experiences.

The garbage I refer to is "omg all women want is to trap a man into a relationship, go do yoga, and a big paycheck". Again, you've also had multiple women tell you differently, but you cling to your "that's all they want!". It's completely ridiculous that you will validate and agree with what only one group of people says, when from that same demographic you also have other women telling you a contrasting opinion.

Again, I didn't say your experiences are lies, and I'm not saying all of what you wrote is terrible or off base. Just the absolutely absurd stereotyping you do about women in general. I'm not scorned, so your "hell hath no fury" just like your stereotypes do not apply.

 

[hivelpsg]

I have my age, eye color, height on tinder and the last word is "surprise"

And I received several questions similiar to "how big is the surprise"

So I guess it counts for ONS

 

[deleted1025121]

Pretty much this attitude that leads people of all orientations to eriticise humiliation & degradation of their cocks. Not so LOL if you aren't able to do that.

This was a sarcasm from the previous discourse. However I do still believe guys with larger members have more advantages than those that don't.

 

[aqua-illusion]

If I ever get one...lol

but to me, it doesn't matter. If its big, okay, if its medium, okay, if its small, okay.

 

[CassandraX]

Fairly important, but not top. Only met too short and/or too thin, have yet to meet too big. So far the most perfect cocks for me have been just under 8" length, 6" around, circumsized and perfectly straight. Delicious.

 

[Trott.lint]

@CassandraX What for you is too short and/or too thin, for interest sake?