Cocks yes, Guys no?

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Originally posted by pfunk816@Oct 21 2005, 01:47 AM
I am so happy to find this thread on the internet. I have a girlfriend and have always been interested in relationships with girls. I have hooked up with tons of girls and always cocnsidered myself very straight. However, the type of porn I've been interested in for a long time has been things like cumshots and things of that nature. I enjoy pussy and I love fuckinig my girlfriend. I have, in the past experimented with anal stimulation while masturbating and have found it exciting, but not totally enjoyable. Recently I found myself in a very bizarre (for me) situation; I'm in college and one night I was with a friend of mine who is gay, we ended up in a bathroom and he convinced me to kiss him, and eventually he pushed me into a stall I didn't really enjoy it, though he did end upu sucking my cock (he was good but whatever). I didn't come because I was too shocked at what I was doing. I felt bad that I had led him on, and true, out of curiosity, I asked him if I could see his cock. It was rather large, and as I am only ~7", I was impressed and admittedly turned on. Ever since then I have had constant conflicting thoughts as to my orientation. I LOVE girls, and I always find myself looking at them and trying to have sex with them, but at the same time, with my girlfriend, typically if I'm not sober, I think about men's cocks, sometimes even penetrating me. It turns me on as a fantasy, but thinking about actually doing it is gross to me. I love watching cumshot and giant cock porn (I've masturbated to John Holmes many a time). I just don't know what to think. Do I just appreciate the sexuality of another cock? One that's bigger than mine? I love thinking about fucking my girlfriend with a larger cock (because she said her boyfriends were bigger than me, though we do have even better sex - according to her). I just don't know what to think...what do you guys think? There's nothing wrong with loving cock if you can have a perfectly fine sexual relationship with a girl, no? Sorry for rambling...!!!

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I wouldn't lose any sleep over this.
You felt uncomfortable with your gay, but after all it was a sudden event in a public restroom. You can always try again in a more private place. You might have a great time.
The question that seems to be bugging you is this: Am I secretly gay??
Well, frankly, that seems awfully premature. Heck, if you like him just give yourself a break and see how it goes. You might love sucking his cock or having him fuck you. On the other hand, it might leave you unimpressed.
I don't think that enjoying sex with a guy means that you can't enjoy it with a girl. Sounds to me like you are judging your feelings........
You're in college for God's sake. Give yourself break. If you want to try some cock try it. There won't be a better time in your life to see what you like.
peace, w

 

[mattsrod7]

that describes me

 

[D_Leinskill Laphammer]

I totally agree that it's possible to think a cock is hot but not have an attraction to men on the whole. I think generally women have us beat as far as beautiful bodies, so most man bodies are just not nice to look at, but even an ugly guy can have a really nice looking cock and it can be an erotic sight to behold. I've certainly seen some that got my blood flowing, but never in person. The internet and TV are the only places I've seen cocks other than my own really, although I probably wouldn't mind seeing a big fat one in person, but I'd never have the balls to ask!

 

[B_Danceswithlamps]

Yes. I think it is possible to be in the gray. I would assume many people are in the gray. I am. I have no attraction to men sexually, yet I find the penis (and the rest of the human body) very beautiful. Sure, it is very nice to see a man with distinguished muscles and a nice peice of equiptment, but if I met him, I would not go after him, try to get him in bed, or anything even close to that. I think the difference is that straight men admire, gay men admire, then go after them. :biggerGrin:

 

[panthera]

It seems to me that a lot of the being conflicted about what "may" and what "may not" arouse us is cultural.
I now live in a culture which is not too hung up on men seeing other men naked. All my straight friends have been fascinated by the large size of my penis and the fact that I am cut (unusual in Germany).
Most have mentioned that they have either tried or thought about trying sex with a man, all notice good looking men. None of my straight American friends have ever admitted to any of this -
I know that some men really are 100% straight, just as I am so not into sex with women. But if I can appreciate that a woman is beautiful, or find a cream pie shot hot then why should a "100%" straight man not be equally capable of finding a man aesthetically[FONT=&quot] pleasing?
It is such a shame that our world places so much value on labels. At 47, I know who I am. But when I was young and away at college, I had the same thing happen to me in reverse a a woman friend wanted to kiss and blow me...it didn't change my orientation, just was another experience to add on. I agree with the suggestions you might want to try sex with your friend in privacy - who knows? If you end up with women, at least you will know that's your thing. If it turns out men butter your muffin, too - well, fine. Or maybe it is just this one man. Enough rambling, enjoy life!
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[D_ntelost]

word.
Well said I think.

 

[Mattness]

Any of you guys think cocks are a turn on, but you aren't attracted to men sexually?

This is all relating to my issues with all these labels we feel we need to put on ourselves. If something turns you on...it turns you on...period. Why do we have to put ourselves through such torment by worrying that we ARE or AREN'T something that others think we're supposed to be.

Most of the gay men on here can tell you that there are a TON of guys who are married to women (I'm purposely not using a label to describe them) who like to suck cock, love to get sucked by guys and much more. BUT, they go home to their wives and kids when they're done doing that.

I was in the steam room at my gym and these two guys who both had on wedding rings were cruising me and it seems like they knew each other as they said hello to each other and then they both started jerking off while trying to look up my towel at my cock.

If it turns you on, go with it!

My three cents...

 

[Paul Vincent]

I just like to know what I'm up against (not literally, I dont go near cocks IRL ). Guys with big builds (broad shoulders) and stuff are respectable, but not erotic. To me at least.

 

[B_horribleperson]

the only cock i like is my own.

 

[scottsimms]

The excitement that penises arouse in men, straight or gay, is an atavistic response to and demonstration of masculine power. It's hardwired in our brains and is perfectly understandable.

 

[UniDude]

What Scottsimms says is correct. The phallus has been worshiped for ages for many reasons. It is the symbol uf ultimate power (rockets, weapons, skyscrapers) and we must submit.

 

[Howu1ikeit]

Good question helped me out a lot. l feel the same way bout viewin and showin but no touchin

 

[fratpack]

As a gay man of course I like looking at cocks but there are times when I'd rather appreciate the whole package and not necessarily need to see the guys equipment, time and place for everything, to each his own and all that. There are times when some frineds will doubt my being gay because I will go on about how beautiful some women are...go figure.

 

[KidBrown]

I don't see the hang up about appreciating the human form, male or female. If someone asks me if a guy is attractive or not, I give them my opinion. I like looking at porno more if the guy is well endowed. It's just a turn-on for me, no sense in being ashamed of it. Just like it's a turn on when a woman has curves and a nice face with the right "edge" attitude wise.

What gets me is when people say stuff like "man, that's pretty gay to say stuff like that". Yeah....well if that's the case than label me whatever you want, you know?

So yeah, I'll agree with the whole "dicks yes, guys no" comment. Mark me down as a "yes" vote, haha.

 

[hung9mike]

Any of you guys think cocks are a turn on, but you aren't attracted to men sexually?

Frankly, I have a hard time seeing how someone could be "turned on" by (note: not "have admiration for", not "find beauty in", but be turned on by) the male sexual organ but not the man attached to it. How do you disconnect the cock from the man? I'm gay and so I guess I have a different perspective on this issue than straight men have. But just how do you define sexual attraction? If, hypothetically, I was straight, and I found big boobs a turn on (as I believe some straight men do...:tongue: ) could I compartmentalize my sexual attraction ONLY to the big boobs and not to the woman who possesses them?

I'm not saying that it's not possible for some men to feel this way. I've chatted with a couple of guys on this site who clearly like other hung cocks but have limited or no interest in other guys. It's hard for me to understand, but as Matthew pointed out,

To me it all means that human sexuality is WAY more complex and nuanced than the simplistic categories we normally use... So, iceman061278, thisandthat20022003, and others, my take is that you guys are normal and in good company ... your pretty common "orientations" are just not discussed very much in society at large.

So while I might not quite understand "cocks yes, guys no", I think recognizing that this is part of your sexual makeup is a good thing. The imagery of cocks only adds to the repertoire of images, fantasies, etc. that you employ when you're horny and by yourself. :biggrin1: A little variety never hurts. Cheers!

 

[B_Spladle]

Any of you guys think cocks are a turn on, but you aren't attracted to men sexually?

I suspect that this might be the situation I am in.

 

[brumboi]

i dont get turned on by guys at all but will talk about big cocks n shit with them without any sexual attraction at all

 

[RideRocket]

I don't see the hang up about appreciating the human form, male or female. If someone asks me if a guy is attractive or not, I give them my opinion. I like looking at porno more if the guy is well endowed. It's just a turn-on for me, no sense in being ashamed of it. Just like it's a turn on when a woman has curves and a nice face with the right "edge" attitude wise.

What gets me is when people say stuff like "man, that's pretty gay to say stuff like that". Yeah....well if that's the case than label me whatever you want, you know?

So yeah, I'll agree with the whole "dicks yes, guys no" comment. Mark me down as a "yes" vote, haha.

Couldn't have said it better myself...

 

[ingens]

So this guys fuckin' me once, and he tried to give me a reach around and I'm like "Dude! WTF! I'm not gay!" Jeeze. Kids these days.

 

[hung]

Hello:

To look at this discussion from one more approach.

Females envy breast of other females. They are displayed in public, sometimes with very little cloth which leaves very little to the imagination.

Some females even have breast enlargement.

Therefore, males can admire cocks and remain totally hetro from my point of view. I think that a female that admires the breast of another female can be a hetro.

I love to look at breast myself, even in the company of others. Of course, as others have stated here, I, a male also enjoy and appreciate looking at a well presented penis (cut or uncut). Old World paintings often featured nude females and even male nudes. I am reminded of the Chapels in Rome that I visited many years ago. Does looking at a male nude or even a female nude statue or painting make you a bad person? Does appreciating a nude person of either sex make anyone a bad person?

I submit a resounding NO!!!!

I am still enjoying life as my signature indicates.