Freddie, that was truly beautiful, and I agree completely that chivalry is not just for men. Perhaps we need an updated word to better suit our times, but we all get the picture. Be kind to each other, and the most able bodied or "hands free" should get the door. Don't be insulting to the elderly who are in great shape, but be helpful to those it would help. Offer your seat on the bus to a pregnant woman, but it is no longer necessary to do it for any woman, unless you're so inclined. "Please" and "thank you" are always in style, and always will be, use them generously (as well as "pardon" and "May I").
As for the subject of appropriateness and warding off unwelcome attention, yes manners go quite a long way, but not in every situation. In public, yes- it gives one the pause needed to mentally regroup and asses one's next move, preferably to join a group or any other nearby person. Many "creeps" do try to take advantage of someone's potential social discomfort, so backing up and getting away is always the best bet. There are some occasions. however, where the creep in question does not respond to "No thanks, I'd best be on my way now", and in those instances I feel that being loud and even rude are a better approach. I someone is trying to back me into a corner, either socially or in actuality, me drawing attention to myself eliminates the curtain of privacy he believes he is enjoying. I think this is a very important lesson to teach our youth, to whom very little of social grace is being taught. Our society is in a process of upheaval in regards to gender roles and "who is supposed to do what", so some kind words from those of us who are secure enough in ourselves to share these ideas may very well help arm our youth with the necessary tools to get through social situations, both good and bad. Yes, a basic ability to assess a situation and react accordingly is necessary, but don't be too embarassed to use your voice either to thank, to bless, to compliment, or even to chastise if need be.
The internet has spawned the need for a whole new set of do's and don'ts. Naughty, I think you are wise to have inferrred the subtleties of Freddie's post. Most people feel a greater freedom in the anonymity we enjoy, but there are a select few who use this to the disadvantage of others. Shame on them. Once again, I think it will be no surprise that I think it's best to draw it out in public. I am not a mushroom, I don't like being kept in the dark and fed bullshit! Exposure is a powerful things, it lets you choose your course of action rather than having someone else making your decisions for you. By the way, there is even proper ettiquette for chatting, emailing, etc. Be polite until the barriers of discomfort are slowly removed! No one wants to get an email or pm about something very graphic or personal until they have established clear communication with you previously. "No" still means "no", even if the person talks to others but doesn't want to talk to you. If a woman (or man) has sex with someone that doesn't mean she owes sex to you, so likewise with conversation. Some personalities mesh better than others, accept a "no" graciously. Here's a personal favorite- if you're chatting online and the person you're talking to says they have to go- LET THEM!! Don't say "goodby" 4,953 times for the next two hours, just say goodby and leave them alone! Don't beg them to stay online with you or use guilt to manipulate them. I guarantee they will dread talking to you the next time because whatever they were going to do in real life may have been impacted by your selfishness, and they won't be eager to repeat that.
As for this particular thread, I was hit up on chat by a stranger last night. Usually I ignore these things, but it was late so I accepted it. Turned out the person said "I'm the asshole you plunked"- I must assume it's our good friend LeoTaylor who started this thread. How appropriate for someone who has had no respect for my boundaries to post a thread about manners! By the way, Leo, since I can't seem to stop you from stalking me every way you can, I'm going to tell everyone I can every time you contact me so everyone will know what a pathetic loser you are. Now run along and get some attention from someone who WANTS to spend time with you. If you weren't so creepy, it might be possible, but it's NOT ME!!