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Hey everyone. I suppose you'd characterize me as a former poster turned lurker, but I've decided to break out of my shell once again in hopes that the gracious men and women of this forum can help me.
So, I'm in the midst of my freshman year of college (and of course this would come up in the middle of finals), and I'm at a medium-size university in a small town in Louisiana. I'm in a special honors program, with very few people, and I can feel myself falling for a classmate.
He's a performing arts major (of course), and I guess you could call him a master of mixed signals. He's always bright and happy, and has many classic mannerisms of a steriotypical gay guy. However, on his facebook profile, he has himself listed as interested in women. It's not uncommon for many gay or bi students here to put themselves as straight in online profiles, myself included. There are a few reasons I believe he's interested in men:
1) His personality - I understand it's wrong to judge people on their actions to try and determine sexual orientation. But, at least in my experience, people that act classically gay tend to be. This boy's a theatre major, listens to a lot of showtunes, and speaks with a soft, feminine voice. Now, that's not to say that he's flaming. He also talks about girls he finds attractive, leading me to believe he's bi. I also likes all kinds of music, including rock and jazz.
2) His reported affairs - around October, he marked himself as "In a relationship" on facebook, but didn't select a person he was in a relationship with. I found out later that he was dating a boy in theatre from a confirmed gay boy in my college. My source tells me also that my love interest has said, "just because I'm in a relationship with a boy doen't make me gay," again making me think that he is at least bi.
3) His interations with me - we have spoken before, usually just briefly, but recently (ever since a study group on tuesday), he has been talking to me for longer periods of time. I also think I've caught him surveying me with his eyes and a few cagey hints that he'd like to see me more often - especially out at bars and concerts.
There's a concert tonight that we'll both be going to. In fact, he might be giving me a ride since I don't have a car. I was just wondering if anyone believes I should press forward with a little more obvious flirting or if I should hold back. Also, any advice on determining if he really is interested in me would be appreciated.
Thanks guys!
So, I'm in the midst of my freshman year of college (and of course this would come up in the middle of finals), and I'm at a medium-size university in a small town in Louisiana. I'm in a special honors program, with very few people, and I can feel myself falling for a classmate.
He's a performing arts major (of course), and I guess you could call him a master of mixed signals. He's always bright and happy, and has many classic mannerisms of a steriotypical gay guy. However, on his facebook profile, he has himself listed as interested in women. It's not uncommon for many gay or bi students here to put themselves as straight in online profiles, myself included. There are a few reasons I believe he's interested in men:
1) His personality - I understand it's wrong to judge people on their actions to try and determine sexual orientation. But, at least in my experience, people that act classically gay tend to be. This boy's a theatre major, listens to a lot of showtunes, and speaks with a soft, feminine voice. Now, that's not to say that he's flaming. He also talks about girls he finds attractive, leading me to believe he's bi. I also likes all kinds of music, including rock and jazz.
2) His reported affairs - around October, he marked himself as "In a relationship" on facebook, but didn't select a person he was in a relationship with. I found out later that he was dating a boy in theatre from a confirmed gay boy in my college. My source tells me also that my love interest has said, "just because I'm in a relationship with a boy doen't make me gay," again making me think that he is at least bi.
3) His interations with me - we have spoken before, usually just briefly, but recently (ever since a study group on tuesday), he has been talking to me for longer periods of time. I also think I've caught him surveying me with his eyes and a few cagey hints that he'd like to see me more often - especially out at bars and concerts.
There's a concert tonight that we'll both be going to. In fact, he might be giving me a ride since I don't have a car. I was just wondering if anyone believes I should press forward with a little more obvious flirting or if I should hold back. Also, any advice on determining if he really is interested in me would be appreciated.
Thanks guys!