College Roommate situation

[Alley Blue]

Originally posted by Pappy@Jul 27 2005, 06:10 AM
The two of you need to sit down and have a discussion about this and come to a livable compromise. He might be overly modest in fear of offending you.

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Yeah,
If your gonna be room mates you need to keep the lines of communication open from the very beginning.......without a doubt......

 

[monsternmypant]

Originally posted by bignfloppy@Jul 26 2005, 10:08 PM
Is this necessary? If he doesn't want me to see him does that mean that he'd be offended by my total lack of modesty?

What do you guys think?

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It's crap like this that makes me happy to live at home. Dude, you paid for a room where you can be comfortable, so sleep in the nude and draw your drawers when you feel like it. Does this guy slink into a corner at the gym, or what?

 

[greek18]

I too must agree with the majority of posts here. Be yourself and do what is comfortable to and for you.
I have been in similar situations sharing rooms of trips and excursions, camping etc. with friends. They started dressing under the towel and so forth, but when they saw that I was free with my dressing and nudity, they quickly joined in and felt better about it too. Perhaps this guy would like to become free and ease up on himself a bit. You could do him a lot of good. On the other hand if he has a problem with your nudity no matter how much, then, look as the others have said, it is HIS problem, not yours.
Good Luck :dunce:

 

[3956]

Dude, you dont have to do anything you dont want to do. If you want to be in your room butt naked, do it. It's your room too.

 

[Ummagumma]

two things:

1.) Why was this year old topic bumped?
2.) I can't believe every single person on here felt the one way and not the other. I mean is wearing just a pair of boxers that big a problem? The things described as a 'pain in the ass' are not that big a deal, he has hangups, I realize this, but in this country lots of people do... deal with it, it's not like you're living with this guy the rest of your life. Sometimes you have to make compromises to keep others happy, deal with it. I don't understand why people without said hangups always have to impose on others like this... modesty is so hard to come by these days.

/rant

 

[Freddie53]

Mnay posters here are assuming that the modest roommate as issues with the other roommate's nudity. No where was that implied int he original post. Some thigns to consider:

1. Some people are cold natured and like to wear either clothes or very warm pj's to sleep in.
2. This roommate may be modest because he has issues with his own body. Perhaps he has an undersized or oversized penis and has been made fun of in the past and doesn't want that to happen.
3. As mentioned earlier, he may be afraid of poppoing a boner, especially if he is gay.

Roommates should feel free to follow the customs they are used to within reason. The modest roommate shouldn't feel pressure to change and neither should the immodest roommate. Let each dress and undress as they are comfortable. As long as their is no unwanted sexual advances made there is no problem. For clarification that is not an issue here in this situation.

Someone mentioned what if he is gay. Well, if the immodest guy is a hunk to look at, I suspect the modest roommate would enjoy the show.

Now if the modest room mate shows evidence that he is very uncomfortable with the situation, then a compromise or change in room mate might be in order.

Somehow, I feel that a problem is being made here that isn't a problem.

 

[tictoc]

Dude I let my roomates know from the get go. I let them know I sleep naked and that I don't wear underwear and that i like to take off my clothes and be naked when I'n in my room. If your gonna have a problem with that you might wanna switch rooms and roomates. The worst that will happen is he will move out but all my roomates became chill with it. Be yourself man.

 

[bigjockcock]

i had the worst roommate situaions of all time freshman year, my first roommate was selling out of the room cops there everynite work got around, he got arrested and is in jail now, my second roommate was a big fat guy who always took naps on my futon naked, i kicked him out, and my last roommate was gay and he hit on me everyday, im by no means modest about my junk and i would walk around naked and get ready naked in the room and i dont care what he said, but everytime i was naked he asked me if i wanted a blowjob, i said no and had the director of housing get him out of my room, just be ureself and say fuck him if hes got a problem with it

 

[Dave NoCal]

It sounds to me like you are a courteous guy and that you find this particular roommate to be generally satisfactory. if you lived together for a year and it went alright, you could bring up the topic and try to understand each other.

That level of modesty would seem to me to be a social burden that he may actually want to shed. Also, it seems to me that modesty/immodesty is somewhat contagious. If you are used to being naked in the lockerrrom and no one else is, you may become less comfortable. Likewise, a shy person in a free envirionment may shed some inhibitions.

I say, bring it up in a tactful way, such as saying you started sleeping naked last summer and really like it. You hope he doesn't mind.

 

[SurferGirlCA]

Seeing as the OP was made almost 2 years ago, I am assuming the roomie situation worked itself out... or not. :smile:

 

[shawn9]

I was modest when I entered college but had a roomate who slept and walked around naked. I eventually got comfotable enough to do the same. he would wake up with a huge hard on and get up and head for the shower. I had to jerk off every time he left the room. One night he asked me how i could stand sleeping with anything on - he told me to try sleeping naked so I did. When he got up the next morning he was hard as a rock and asked if I was. When I said yes - he yanked the covers off me. Then he was pissed becuase I was a bit bigger than him. Then told me I no longer had a reason to be shy. We evenutally ended up jackin' together...wonder where he is now?

 

[Extremecummer]

The important thing is to be open and TALK about it. I had the same situation with my roommate in college (456 years ago). But, as time went on he became more and more comfortable. At the end he often wore just a jockstrap. I was thankful for that. I love legs and he was 6'10". It was often a nice view. Dennis

 

[yhtang]

I had the same situation with my roommate in college (456 years ago).

Hmm, you must be quite old by now. What's your secret to longevity?

 

[oldman9x7]

A fraternity brother and I got pretty soused one night and while we were sitting in my car behind the frat house he asked me if I had ever felt a REAL man's cock. At his invitation I copped a feel, then he asked what I thought about it. I said I could judge better if I saw what I had just felt, so he pulled down his pants to reveal a nice sized dick in both length and girth. It was later extablished that it was 6-3/4 x 5-1/2. Having shown off his pride he asked if I would like to do the same and added that I shouldn't be ashamed if it didn't measure up to his. Naturally, by this time I had a full hard on so I dumped my pants and when he had taken in my show, all I recall him saying was, "You sonuvabitch!"

We became great friends after that and since nudity was the rule abovestairs, the two of us were known (even outside the fraternity) as The Big Dick Delts.

Gramps

 

[celegorm]

I will have the same roommate in the fall that I did my freshman year last year. My "problem"/question is that this guy is very modest. I've never even seen the kid without a shirt on. He sleeps in his clothes and he must get changed in the shower stall or something.

My question to you is this: Am I obligated to show the same level of modesty? I figure if he doesn't want me to see him, he might be grossed out if I were to walk around naked or something.

I'm not willing to take it to the extreme that he has, but I did start sleeping in boxers instead of in the nude, and when he is in the room I take off/put on my underwear under my towel, which is really a pain in the ass.

Is this necessary? If he doesn't want me to see him does that mean that he'd be offended by my total lack of modesty?

What do you guys think?

do we have the same roommate?
mine is like that, he changes itself in the bathroom. and when he doesn't go to the wc, he goes to a corner of the room where i can't see him.
in the first weeks living with him i did the same, thinking that he could have some sort of problem with nudity, but after that, damn it, we are guys! there is nothing in me that he never saw something like it in him or any other guy. so now, after a year and half, he keeps going to the wc to change itself while i went naked to the bath and come naked from the bath and dress myself in the middle of the room. if he has a problem, he can tell me (or not... in fact, i think he is unable to speak... maybe in our small conversations i thought that his roars were words...LOL)

 

[B_Lightkeeper]

I had two roommates (both from my home town) but there was this one hot hunk that lived next door that really turned me on. He was athletic build and ran around the dorm in his "tighty whities" and showed a nice outline. For some reason, our room was sorta the gathering place on our floor and "Wendell" (real name) would pop in whenever he was in a farting mood. He'd recline back on the bed, throw his legs up and light his farts!

Never got around to telling him I'd like to "blow" him. :smile:

 

[Nikkiwadlin]

Irish.... love you photos, a little butt shot would'nt hurt

 

[jogarcia]

I agree that it's your room and you should be comfortable and do what you want. However, I just viewed your photo gallery and if I were your roommate I'd be running from the room.

 

[thk8plus4u]

I think it's very amusing that you're all giving advice to someone
whose roommate situation was back in 2005.

 

[D_but wait you also get]

Congratulations on your attempts at making your roommate feel comfortable in your presence. You get an attaboy.

Now it's his turn to let you be comfortable.

When you return to school this fall, make yourself at home and live at your comfort level. If this means dropping your drawers before going in for a shower or sleeping nude, so be it. If it means wandering around in your boxers - or even nude - let it happen. He'll just have to get used to it.

If he puts has hands to his face a la McCauley Culkin and runs screaming from the room the first time he sees your weenie... so what? The guy has some problems. They aren't yours. If he threatens to go to the RA and ask to be moved, let him.

More than likely, though, you'll find that he'll make no comment at all.

Pecker gives great advice. I know from personal experience. His advice is very sound.