college tips

[jdswim09]

hey all,

so in about 2 weeks i will be heading off to be a freshman in college. i was just looking for some tips about showers, sex, drinking, jerking off, porn, etc. anything at all.

please state your age when you respond and your current level in high school or college if applicable...

thanks! :smile:

 

[D_Jared Padalicki]

Just shower when you want a shower, have sex when you can, don't deny sex, never! Drink, but not too much because it can be expensive. Jerking off is up to you, if you have a roommate, respect each other and maybe ask him about it.

I'm 21, third year of college now. You'll be fine. Just don't do things you don't want to do.

 

[theguy87]

Hey Buddy

I just graduated from college this past May.

It really depends on the relationship you have with your roommate and how close you are. Don't buy into these stories that some people tell around here that they jack off with their roomies. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I'm gonna guess 99.9% of the time it won't. My roommate and I freshman year were pretty close. We were comfortable enough to walk around in just our boxers around each other, but we still changed under our towels after our showers.

As far as jerking off, I usually did it in the shower (we had individual stalls) or waited until my roommate wasn't around. Sometimes if I was daring enough I would wait til he was sleeping at night and jack off at my desk while watching some porn, with headphones in of course

Go ahead and drink, but please know your limits. You'll have way more fun that way.

Relax and have fun! College was probably the best 4 years of my life, you're gonna love it. Any more questions feel free to PM me.

 

[CUBE]

OK, I could write a book on this shit. The above is true. I also believe you should not reveal everything to everyone too soon. You will find the first weeks in a dorm everyone tells everything to everyone. Be friendly, do stuff...but get to know people first before telling all your stuff. Second. Don't buy everything and take it there. See what your room is like...and what your roomy has in the way of bedding style...then go to Target and get something to match. You guys will have all the style baby.

 

[Doyouwantit]

As for jerking off, remember you are all guys and guys love/need to jack off. Doing it in front of your roomate is most likely not going to happen eventhough it would be hot.
Showers if you can, toilets, when your roomate is gone, you will find a place.
When I went to college I didn't jack off for the first 3 1/2 weeks because I was scared someone would see me. One night in bed ( I had a loft) I couldn't take it anymore. I pulled off my t-shirt to clean up with and went for it. My roomate was asleep across the room but I'm sure he could see me if he wanted to. I shot so far it hit the ceiling (remember loft bed) and it went all over my sheets and me. I had to sleep in cum all night until I could clean them up. At the time not so good, now its a hot story to tell.

 

[ocolus8109]

I started in June and it's not that bad. Me and my roommate are pretty tight, we hit it off from the first week and we're pledging the same fraternity. We were pretty much up-front about the jacking off and clothing part, I brought it up and was basically like obviously we both jack off, if I'm in the room it doesn't bother me if you do it, if it bothers you if I jack off with you in here, that's cool I'll either go to the shower or you can leave for a few minutes. He was cool with that and the way we stand now is we jack off with each other in the room but dont join in with one another and don't watch each other, a glance is cool but not a stare haha.

For sex, we agreed to leave the room if its during the day and the other has somebody over, but if its late at night, whoever isn't getting the action just rolls the other way and goes back to sleep.

As for the clothes part its okay to wear briefs or boxers in the room, and dropping the towel to put on underwear is fine, but sitting around naked isn't.

I think its all about being open about everything, don't be afraid to bring it up, if you're afraid, odds are he just is too.

 

[B_Lightkeeper]

Hey Buddy

I just graduated from college this past May.
My roommate and I freshman year were pretty close. We were comfortable enough to walk around in just our boxers around each other, but we still changed under our towels after our showers.

I'm sorry but changing under a towel to me is just stupid.

BTW, theguy87, for a straight guy you have a nice cock! LOL

 

[223790]

I'm sorry but changing under a towel to me is just stupid.

I was just thinking the exact same thing. Doing the towel dance is so unbecoming of a man. You have a dick, balls and an ass just like every other guy - get over yourself. You don't have anything that every other guy has.

My advice about showering is don't act like a pussy around other guys. If it's an open shower, be cool and go with it. It was all open showers back in my day at university, so you just had to deal with it. I did, and they don't even phase me anymore. I workout at my old university, and I absolutely won't use the sissy showers at my athletic centre (which they stupidly installed a few years ago to appease the pussies)- only the open shower. When I see the younger generation today going to such extreme lengths to cover up around other guys, I just roll my eyes and think "what a pussy with major issues". Mom and dad may have told you that you were special, but really you aren't and you need to get over yourself.

 

[hung]

You have received great advice. Of course my college days were complete during the dark ages, but the basic situations you asked about were valid then as they are now.

After all, most here are males and the need to jerk it is a fact of life. Discuss your options with your room mates and proceed from there.

Be open and honest and you will get along fine, however also respect your room mates for their viewpoints/style.

Enough said. enjoy college and enjoy life.

 

[open501s]

I went to a conservative private collage. No tobacco or alcohol allowed no one of the opposite sex in the room out side of visitation hours.

The showers were open. No towel dancing on modesty. I was one of the few that had my shower kit; razor, soap, shampoo &c. in one hand; towel in the other. Didn't care who saw me ... there were just a few of us like that on my floor.

Everyone denied jacking off; but everyone did it.

One AM a guy and I that had the same early schedule; we showered every day. He got a simi (or more) hard on and ran out of the shower. It happened to me from time to time and I didn't care.

As far as sex always play safe. Drugs -- well don't let effect your school work or it will effect the rest of your life that includes alcohol.

I'm 40 now.

 

[D_Harry_Sphincter]

Don't whip it out and jerk off just because roomie went to class and you feel safe. Classes end early and some get cancelled last second lol.

 

[invisibleman]

1. Try not to make serious relationships. There will always be some dick and/or pussy later after you graduate.

2. If you are fucking a girl and you are a straight male, that is a serious relationship.

While in college, I have met ten guys who messed up their freshman year because they fucked a girl and got her pregnant and they had to give up school to get a job or join the service to take care of a child. And some didn't REALLY love the women they were with. And here they were paying child support, prenatal care, and hospital bills.​

3. Try your best. Study hard. Get as much sleep as you can...if you live in a noisy ass dorm like I did.

4. Professors are not your friend. If they tell you they need a motherfucking twenty page financial analysis on Coca-Cola and Pepsi-Co on Monday typed and in a certain format with all of your notes and sources noted (YOU HAD BETTER SOLDIER IT --BUD) and it was Thursday morning when he said it. I would be doing the research after dinner in the library that Thursday evening. Getting every piece of information that I could. Work on the majority of the paper on Friday. Have some fun Saturday. Sunday, type up your paper in the required format with the source notes. And any other papers and charts.

Do the work. Be warned: Some professors will be total dicks or cunts. If they hate you, realize you definately may repeat the class. Colleges don't make money with students going there for four years. They want repeat offenders. Perpetual college student$$$.

5. LEARNED THIS THE HARD WAY: Professors will give you the grade you earned no matter what. I have gotten grades that I didn't deserve. I worked my darnedest in classes that even took time from my other classes in studying because I wasn't getting it. I have had four professors that I have had problems with and because of that my GPA suffered. I dealt with it. No matter what the outcome, learn. You are there to learn.

6. Have a little fun on the weekend after studying.

7. When you are with people you don't know and those peeps are PRESSURING you to do something you know in your heart is wrong....When a little voice in your head says DON'T FUCKING DO IT!!!! Run safely...don't walk---get yourself out of that situation. That little voice is intuition. Intuition and instincts are nice to have in college.

8. Avoid signing up for credit cards when banks visit the student union. Don't get into summer "prison" for selling encyclopedias for money...THEY ARE SCAMS. My intuition and instincts were on the money with those two things. Some of my college friends had to get EMERGENCY JOBS because of those credit cards...and working to sell encyclopedias. One of my friends went through hell trying to sell people door-to-door magazines and encyclopedias. He sold only five volumes to five customers. And he had to work an extra job to pay for rent and to eat.

 

[MysticNight]

I almost completely agree with theguy87 almost to the exact stories haha, I had nearly the same relationship with all my roommates. Going into senior year now, and not much has changed, except I'm finally in an apartment this year. Pretty much boxers only were acceptable (if not, that's pretty lame), but I always just brought boxers to the shower and threw them on before walking back to my room, and got dressed from there (had individual stalls as well).

I used to look forward to weekends my roommates would go home so I would have the whole weekend to myself to jack off whenever I wanted haha, but usually, I waited til he went to bed and used headphoens and quietly jerked off, and came in the shower when I was done. It also depends how the room is setup...if your monitor and you are facing away from his bed, you're golden, but otherwise it might get tricky.

Enjoy college, you'll have a blast!

 

[D_Purlie W Papules]

I hold 2 masters degrees (i.e. i went to college for a looong time), and I agree with every single word that Invsibleman said. He hit it right-on!

Don't get so involved with partying and drinking that it affects your academics. Learn how to have a good mix of socializing and studying.

Have an open mind about everything. You're going to meet lots of people with lots of different life experiences. Learn from them.

Do not under any circumstance fall for those ridiculous credit card scams. (I am still paying the price for this one...)

As far as jacking off goes, I never jacked off with my roommate, though we were comfortable enough to walk around in our boxers. We saw each other naked plenty of times, but he was totally straight. I know he jacked off after he thought I was asleep, and I did the same thing when I thought he was sleeping. One time he walked in on me and turned on the light right when I was shooting, and it was totally embarrassing, but we just laughed it off.

Oh, and learn to use your library :smile:

 

[theguy87]

Hey look, I agree with you guys 100% that changing under a towel is ridiculous. I wouldn't have cared being naked in front of him, but shyness won out and no one made that first step. You guys act like roommates walk naked around each other all the time. From my experience, that just doesn't happen. Yes, it's a sad reality that my generation has grown up in a time of such embarrassment of the male body, but until that changes, the "towel dance" is going to continue.

Thanks for the dick comment Dirty!

 

[D_Purlie W Papules]

Yes, theguy87, I totally agree. That changing-under-the-towel business is ridiculous. You don't have to parade around nude in your room 24/7, but unless you are extremely ashamed of your own body, for whatever reason, there's nothing wrong with dropping the towel to put on your underwear.

I think guys these days are way too self-conscious about their bodies. We've all got the same junk! No need to put it on public display, but also no need to go to ridiculous lengths to hide it, because you might be embarrassed if your roommie sees your dick. Chances are you both will look pretty much exactly the same anyways!

 

[223790]

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[223790]

Hey look, I agree with you guys 100% that changing under a towel is ridiculous. I wouldn't have cared being naked in front of him, but shyness won out and no one made that first step. You guys act like roommates walk naked around each other all the time. From my experience, that just doesn't happen. Yes, it's a sad reality that my generation has grown up in a time of such embarrassment of the male body, but until that changes, the "towel dance" is going to continue.

Be the force for change. Maybe the other guys were looking for someone else to make the first step (AKA: you). I can't tell you how many guys have been all modest around me until they see me being open. The next thing you know they are dropping their towels and showering in the open. Ever since this ridiculous B.S. started about 11 years ago (I first started to notice it in 1998 when I saw a guy using an open shower in his swim shorts and thought to myself "WTF is wrong with this guy?"), I have refused to give in. My attitude is that if you have a problem seeing men naked in a non-sexual environment, stay out of the locker room. I agree with you that it is a very sad reality that your generation has grown up in a time of such embarrassment of the male body. How the hell this nonsense ever started is beyond me, but I have my theories. It has only led to a feeling of isolation, mistrust and fear in the locker room. I have had some awesome conversations with guys I just met and guys I have known for years in the locker room, shower and sauna. Gyms that I have joined that offer ultra privacy I have quit because it was so damn cold and impersonal. Nobody would even talk to you or look at you and the atmosphere was so unfriendly. The towel dance will only continue until enough guys be the guy that takes the first step and refuses to give in to these ultra modest prudes. I personally will not join a gym that has all shower stalls in the locker room. Money talks. The new gym that opened in my town has all open showers in the men's locker room. I have told my current facility that if they change the shower room to all stalls (they are planning on a huge remodel), I will cancel my membership - and I mean it! In my experience, the stalls are filthy, mouldy, cold & impersonal and impractical. At one gym I used to go to that had all stalls, I would have to stand in line for 15 minuted to take a shower because the stalls couldn't accomodate a large number of guys at one time. It was absurd.

 

[D_MaBank]

I totally agree with everyone else...but some other things to think about include:
-Don't try to have a sexual relationship with your roomate. This will only lead to trouble in the long run.
-Don't try to sleep with their BF/GF

I can tell you from day one my roomate and I made a few basic ground rules and established what we were comfortable with. We never had a problem the two years we lived together. I graduated in 2006

 

[invisibleman]

I hold 2 masters degrees (i.e. i went to college for a looong time).

Lucky beyotch. :wink::biggrin1:

Don't get so involved with partying and drinking that it affects your academics. Learn how to have a good mix of socializing and studying.

I knew a guy that drank so much beer that he pissed for the longest time. And when he finally came out of the bathroom...everyone in the room including myself just laughed.

Have an open mind about everything. You're going to meet lots of people with lots of different life experiences. Learn from them.

Do not under any circumstance fall for those ridiculous credit card scams. (I am still paying the price for this one...)

See? Read and study the mistakes of your fellow college peeps.

As far as jacking off goes, I never jacked off with my roommate, though we were comfortable enough to walk around in our boxers. We saw each other naked plenty of times, but he was totally straight. I know he jacked off after he thought I was asleep, and I did the same thing when I thought he was sleeping. One time he walked in on me and turned on the light right when I was shooting, and it was totally embarrassing, but we just laughed it off.

Your masturbation story had a happy ending. Mine didn't. I had a straight roommate. I just got in my dorm room (my straight roommate was out of the room.) from a highly stressful class that evening. And I masturbated, came, and I passed out. I woke up to a dark room. It was nighttime so I went on back to sleep.

Do you know while I was at class the next morning my straight roommate moved out of the dorm room? And when I came back to the dorm room, he was moving the last of his things and he slammed the door when he left. I had to find a new roommate and another room. So, I here I was packing up all of my stuff that I had situated. I was pissed off at my ex-roomie for making me have to pack all of my stuff and move. I ended up rooming with a hyper religious Christian guy that was heavily into Contemporary Christian R&B. He was actually really nice.

Oh, and learn to use your library :smile:

Some libraries at some colleges aren't too good--use the public library when your college has a shitty library due to fundage problems. But most colleges do have amazing resources. My college had an above-average library.

You may or may not have a pleasant college experience. But you are there to learn as much as you can. And when you graduate, use what you learned at your job. And continue to learn. College teaches you to learn and continue learning. That is what I did and am still doing.
Always be a student. Then reinforce what you've learned by teaching someone. Learning is a cyclical thing.