Hey guys, I've got a quick question. I'm 19 and in the midst of a sexless 2 year relationship, mostly because i can't get it up (psychological problem). Anyway, eventually this relationship will end and I'll be left single in my twenties with very little sexual experience. My one main question about sex is this: I know it's traditional to get a girl going through oral before penetration begins, but do you usually make her come first then put it in, get her close to coming, or just get her motor going a little bit before the show gets started? I understand many aspects of sex are dependent on personal preference, but I was never sure what is expected from the man at this point in the sexual encounter (I'm pretty good at oral, just not at the actual sex ). Any suggestions?