coming out and all that

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  1. jb_lax

    jb_lax New Member

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    im sure this has been discussed thousands of times before and will probably be moved to "relationships .. etc" page but the reason i put it here is it is aimed at the younger guys here (hung is just a bonus :tongue:)

    so what are people's stories? have u done it? r u planning to? what are u/were u most scared about?

    r u "totally" gay or a bit of both? i havent come out. im attracted emotionally to women and am not unattracted to them, but have more attention for the lads!!

    so whats ur story?
     
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    does anyone here know about the site herfirstbigcock.com specifically the early years with the skinny white guy with the tats. My girl likes him, and I joined this site because she is looking for something big to play with. If I am in the wrong forum, please tell me where I can go to get the info. Also, what is the best way for my girl to get into some amature porn?
     
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    What does this have to do with coming out?
     
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    no coming out, not gay, just that sometimes we party hard and she needs someone who gets it up at the end of the night...thoughts?
     
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    how bout starting your own thread mate! you'll get more responses that way. Click "New Thread".

    Anyway, what do ppl have 2 say bout coming out?? lol
     
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    This thread fails miserably.
     
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    haha... funny... i'll get started then.

    My coming out was no problem.. But then again i live in a country in wich most people dont make a big deal out of it. Ofcourse there are problems here as well. Most of my problems with coming out where my own fears. Would my brother hate me (i knew better), would my father ignore me (it took some time but i knew better).. Friends were no problem at all.. i was 15 when i came out to my mother. She said she didn't care if i was straight, bi, gay or purple. She'd love my anyway.. just as long i was happy.

    I think you should only come out if you feel the need to. If it makes up a big chunk of your life. If you want to be able to feel as a 'normal' person entroducing your BF to your parents or whatever. Just don't see it as an explenation of yourself.
     
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    I appreciate the question...when I was younger there would be no way I would come out...If I was growing up in today's society...there might be a better chance. However, even though I am gay...the gay scene in my opinion..is a complete turnoff.
     
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    well... you dont have to be gay and be in the scene. Those things are completely seperate. There's a straight scene just as well.. Doesn't mean all the straight boys and girls go clubhopping every weekend banging everything left and right.
     
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    I am a virgin guy... Im getting sick of it

    I guess I am bi kinda.,.. still I can only imagine being in a relationship with a women, but... for some reason.. I'd really want to try having sex with a guy....

    the only thing Im affraid of... is that it'll never happen
     
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    i for one, dont see any reason why i should come out.
     
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    I think I might know exactly how you're feeling, jb_lax.

    Since I entered puberty I have felt a really strong emotional connection with women, but was only ever turned on by men. This confused the hell out of me.

    What made matters worse was that I lived in a very religious, homophobic small town, and being gay was probably one of the worst things you could be there. I wanted to live that dream of marrying a beautiful girl and having a nice house with 2.3 kids and a membership at the country club.

    So I grew up living with a lot of constant fear, and trained myself to be straight-acting (and still am today, for the most part). I never had sexual contact with anyone. But at some point I realized how unhappy it was making me feel, decided I needed to just accept who I was and deal with it, and almost immediately came out to my close friends and family. It was a huge weight off my shoulders.

    Coming out is really just the first step, though. It has taken me over a year and a half just to become really comfortable with who I am and not seize up every time I walk into a gay club or am seen by my friends with a boyfriend. But I wouldn't have ever been this happy if I had stayed in the closet.

    Maybe it's different for you if you're still turned on by women. But just be happy with who you are. You don't have to announce to the whole fucking world that you're attracted to men, but at the same time, you don't have to feel ashamed by it.

    (Oh, and a nice bonus with coming out is having guys you never even realized were gay approach you. LOL)
     
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    Its a long and drawn out process. I am still in the process of letting people I consider close to me know, I mean its very dfficult I am someone who has tight emotional control I hate losing control of myself (its why I tend not to drink too much alcohol).
    I think a lot of people may suspected but I always really act asexual I can see the attractiveness in everyone and yet never get turned on by them. Though there are times I often feel a strong click with someone, I met a girl at a party and it was awesome we just clicked and spent the whole evening talking about everything. I find it harder to meet guys cause I know that guys tend to be a lot more trepid about approaching other guys (well most of the time) and I am like this. Maybe I will find a guy I can click with emitionally but so far yet to happen.
    But yeah not told my parents yet though my brothers know and are okay with it really.
     
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    well, i have always been atracted to women but i have always had pleasure of guys (maybe about 70% straight and 30% gay. ) i always wanted to try with a guy while i was at school but if i did and the guy told everyone then i would of been labeld GAY. and i still think i need to see if i am GAY.
     
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    I think every guy has his own way of doing it bro.. so its tough to give advice...but if you are thinking of it...then it must be sorta strong and all.

    Im bi.. but I did it really slowly.. I told my best buddie on a night we went bar hopping... that I was bi..an dhe wa stotally cool with it. I left it at that...then I told another friend we both knew. a couple months later i told my oldest sister.. who is pretty open minded.. although most were really suprised...no oen was mad or turned away or anything. I think thats agodo way of doing it.
     
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