Coming Out And Confessing

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In college I confessed to my gf; the act of confessing itself was pretty horrible for me, but she was understanding and led to an open relationship to allow me to find out more and her to cope. Eventally it led to our split, very amicable and very caring, but split nonetheless and that was a bummer.
I did not have to confess to my wife as we were friends before dating and through that friendship she already knew (came up in conversation once)...
 

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First time was with a girlfriend when I was in my early 20s. She was actually turned on by the idea, but wasn't into sharing. The second one also turned out well, she was also turned on a bit by it, but I didn't want to explore it (had developed some deep feelings). She did use a strap-on a few times which was really cool (though oddly, she didn't like the idea of watching two men screw).

Coming out can be a tricky thing, but truthfully it's only fair to your partner if it's a strong part of your inner self. I've made a point to tell all the women I meet (early on). Most decide to part ways, but a few just have a ton of questions, than make it clear they have no desire to be in a threesome, etc.
 

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Well isn't like were having sex she decided to not have sex anymore without asking me at all To me that's was very unfair . And only found out I was bi after we were married so kind of difficult to bring up the subject that I like sucking cock and getting fucked..to her
 
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To tell or not to tell, that is the question. Thank you, William Shakespeare. I might add only this. If you think that the information would be hurtful, keep the secret, and, confess elsewhere to unburden yourself.
I have to agree with this!
 
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To tell or not to tell, that is the question. Thank you, William Shakespeare. I might add only this. If you think that the information would be hurtful, keep the secret, and, confess elsewhere to unburden yourself.


That’s exactly why I joined this site, I told my wife just about everything but there was some I could not tell her but on here I can talk about it and realize I’m not the only one!
 
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Agree 100%. My wife knows about the experience I had but didn't tell her that I still think about the guy and wanting to try it again. I can share that on this site.
 
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I told my wife early on in our marriage. She knows how I am in all regards. Does it bring up problems, Yes, but we work thru it together. During this process we found out we like the same type of men. We both agreed not to have a threesome but I do love it when she talks about her past with other men.
 

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I told my current gf I was bi before we fucked the first time. It turned out she was bi too. I think that If
I'm starting a serious relationship, I should come clean about things like this. Keeping it secret can cause lasting damage if this is someone you care about.
 

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I told my current gf I was bi before we fucked the first time. It turned out she was bi too. I think that If
I'm starting a serious relationship, I should come clean about things like this. Keeping it secret can cause lasting damage if this is someone you care about.
Didn't find out for a while signs were there all along but didn't realize it till I got older but might be getting with a counselor to maybe come out about it can't stand it anymore we don't do anything but live together now and not very healthy trying to sneak around about it