Coming out of the closet

[Freddie53]

I am so sorry that you and your father aren't as close anymore. When I said I woldn't disown my sons, I meant that. And I also mean that they have my support. I won't take that away. My sons have already made choices that aren't the ones that I would have made. But I have my life to make choices. Now that they are basically grown, they have their choices as well. I can't imagine not supporting one of my sons.

I am not old enough to be your father, but I am young enough to be your friend. I know it is not the same, but there are a lot of us that will stick by you.

As everyone here knows I am not 100 % straight myself. I have a lot of gay tendencies. A lot. Can I reveal that? HELL NO!!! So I do understand. It would even be worse for me to reveal the whole truth then it has been for you. So I remain in silence. This forum is my outlet.

Originally posted by txquis@Mar 3 2005, 11:02 AM
Even if a parent still "loves" you and doesnt disown you,
their lack of support can be devastating.

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[yaoifun]

Thanks a whole bunch everyone, It's nice knowing people who relate to my situation. I;ll tell them in good time, and when that time comes, I'll be ready and know that it's the right time. Most likely it will be sooner rather than later!

 

[txquis]

they can't love you and accept you for you then you sure as hell don't need them to be a part of your life.

I know what you mean by that, Jeep. And i think in some extreme and abusive cases, this is quite true.

But this is my problem.
My parents aren't total assholes, so, i cant couldnt cut them out of my life.
My mom is no longer living and she was pretty supportive, but...
I think the challenge is...since i cant cut my dad off,
how do i live around a person who basically disaproves of me?
Well, i've been working on this for many years now...not much progress...but a little