D_CountVonBhigBohner
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You are not alone James. I've heard many horror stories from friends who went through variations of what you have described. My oldest brother came out to my parents when I was 11 years old. Yes, there was yelling, crying, disappointment...the whole thing made me sick to my stomach. To hear my mom and dad say some of the things (although not as harsh as your parents) really scared me because I had a good idea at that point that I was bisexual.
The good news is that mine, and many of my friends parents got over it. Time heals all wounds. Right now, their dreams of the traditional wedding, a daughter-in-law, grandchildren, etc have been taken away from them. They are wondering what everyone is going to say/think. Unfortunately, what they should be worried about, is their son.
My parents DID get over themselves after a few months. My oldest brother is 100% gay. His courage made it easier for me because in all of the madness, I realized that I didn't need to hide the fact that I was bisexual. I never had to "come out" to my parents. As I got older, brought friends home, talked about things...I didn't hide from it. I'm sure they realized I was bisexual at a young age. Fortunately, it wasn't a dramatic event for me.
The best advise I can give you is....give them space to digest it. Let them calm down before trying to talk to them. Hopefully, they will realize that their lives aren't over, yours is just beginning.
The good news is that mine, and many of my friends parents got over it. Time heals all wounds. Right now, their dreams of the traditional wedding, a daughter-in-law, grandchildren, etc have been taken away from them. They are wondering what everyone is going to say/think. Unfortunately, what they should be worried about, is their son.
My parents DID get over themselves after a few months. My oldest brother is 100% gay. His courage made it easier for me because in all of the madness, I realized that I didn't need to hide the fact that I was bisexual. I never had to "come out" to my parents. As I got older, brought friends home, talked about things...I didn't hide from it. I'm sure they realized I was bisexual at a young age. Fortunately, it wasn't a dramatic event for me.
The best advise I can give you is....give them space to digest it. Let them calm down before trying to talk to them. Hopefully, they will realize that their lives aren't over, yours is just beginning.