Coming out to parents when you live with them...

[midlifebear]

First, save enough money to move out and live on your own.
Second, then move out and live on your own.
Third, then tell them.

 

[TomCat84]

Folks, I can't believe some of what I'm reading. Sure, my sex life is my own damn business, but it's not like I tell my mom about my sexual conquests. I came out when I was 17. Why was it their business? Because without coming out, people assume you are straight. Do I "come out" to co workers"? No, I don't....it's more of something where I will openly talk about going on a date with a guy, and I'll leave it at that. I'm happy I came out to my parents WHEN I did, as my dad passed away a few years later. It would have killed me emotionally had he died without knowing who I REALLY was. I'm not even mentioning the greater societal benefits of coming out. Study after study shows that the level of support for gay rights is proportional to how many out gays they know and how close to them they are. The more they know and the closer they are to them, the greater the level of support for equal rights. To say you dont need to come out because your sex life is nobodys business is a cop out.

 

[dolfette]

and without people coming out society will never change it's prejudices. it will always be something they imagine seedy strangers doing, as used to be the case. if people see that their son, their boss, their politician is gay then it helps to normalise homosexuality.
and it IS normal.

 

[bigbull29]

Most people, in my view, have no business having children.

And as for people naming their child "so-and-so junior, III, or IV, I find it a telling sign. Instant "mini-me"! The human ego needs much honing.

Isn't that the truth?

First, save enough money to move out and live on your own.
Second, then move out and live on your own.
Third, then tell them.

For many folks, that would be the correct order of things.:biggrin1:

 

[dolfette]

For many folks, that would be the correct order of things.:biggrin1:

there's a housing crisis here in the uk.
it's not as easy as just moving out.

 

[B_KOKOBWARE]

there's a housing crisis here in the uk.
it's not as easy as just moving out.

How can there be a shortage of houses?:smile:

 

[bigbull29]

there's a housing crisis here in the uk.
it's not as easy as just moving out.

Then if that's the case or you're too poor, then you'll have to stay in the closet :biggrin1: (just teasing).

 

[dolfette]

How can there be a shortage of houses?:smile:

well there are more people in need of a house than there are houses.
see how logical the answer is? :tongue:

 

[wanker]

I still haven't done it... rubbish I know...

 

[Charles Finn]

I was very lucky my family was very open and understanding about such things

 

[dolfette]

I still haven't done it... rubbish I know...

you're not obligated to. it's not rubbish at all.

 

[Lex]

I still haven't done it... rubbish I know...

you're not obligated to. it's not rubbish at all.

Exactly. Everyone comes on when s/he is ready. Take your time and do it when it feels right. You will know when.

 

[flame boy]

There's no time frame, you should do it when you feel it's the right time. No need to rush these things. Keep us posted on your progress.

 

[wanker]

I did it... and they were ok with it!

I should have known they would have been but silly comments over the years worried me.

 

[flame boy]

Congrats! You did a really brave thing - it's really good of you to keep us posted and I am so happy that they took your news well. A really great result

 

[Lex]

I did it... and they were ok with it!

I should have known they would have been but silly comments over the years worried me.

That's great to hear!

 

[dolfette]

fantastic!

 

[nudepierced]

I am very happy for you, a huge weight lifted off your shoulders. Please let us know how things move on with them.