The day I met my roommates in August, the four of us were talking and getting to know each other. One asked what everyone's sexual orientation is. We all answered straight, but I am not. At the time, I wasn't out to anyone and hadn't been asked that question in years. I wasn't comfortable having that moment be my coming out in life, so it just came natural to slide by with a lie because I wasn't ready yet.
Now, I am out to others and because our dorm lease renewal is coming up, I would like to let them know that I'm gay. Plus, I feel uncomfortable every time we are around girls and they start commenting on them and I just sit there not joining in. I just figure it would be easiest to do it now because if any of them are uncomfortable with that living situation, we won't be contracted together for a whole extra year.
My questions are, am I right in thinking now is a good time to correct what I wasn't comfortable revealing at first? Or should I not tell them at all?
And probably most difficult for me is, how do I actually go about bringing this up since I had lied initially?
Advice from straight or gay men is welcomed.
Now, I am out to others and because our dorm lease renewal is coming up, I would like to let them know that I'm gay. Plus, I feel uncomfortable every time we are around girls and they start commenting on them and I just sit there not joining in. I just figure it would be easiest to do it now because if any of them are uncomfortable with that living situation, we won't be contracted together for a whole extra year.
My questions are, am I right in thinking now is a good time to correct what I wasn't comfortable revealing at first? Or should I not tell them at all?
And probably most difficult for me is, how do I actually go about bringing this up since I had lied initially?
Advice from straight or gay men is welcomed.