The obvious answer is "it's never to early to be yourself" or something similarly corny, but this question has been weighing a lot on my mind lately.
I came out when I was 15, and at the time, I was pretty sure I was gay (to the disappointment of my parents who, like many other parent of gay children, were hoping i was "just a phase"). But now, as a guy in my 20s, I'm kind of regretting coming out so early. While doing so opened many, many doors (bringing my high school boyfriend to the prom, meeting a lot of awesome people and some of my best friends at gay clubs/bars/parties, etc), it also closed a lot of windows (losing a lot of my straight guy friends, not getting bids into the frats I wanted, and just generally being type-cast as "that gay dude" before anyone gets to know me). The main thing that's making me wonder why I came out so early is that I've still never been with a chick...which wouldn't be a problem, except that lately I've found myself increasingly attracted to them (I've even had a couple of sex dreams involving girls...wtf?), and now that I'm "that gay guy" at my college, I doubt I'll be able to explore that avenue of potential interest.
I guess my problem is that I wish I just hadn't put a label on my sexuality at such a young age.
Sorry for the rant, but has anyone else on here gone through, or felt, something similar?
I came out when I was 15, and at the time, I was pretty sure I was gay (to the disappointment of my parents who, like many other parent of gay children, were hoping i was "just a phase"). But now, as a guy in my 20s, I'm kind of regretting coming out so early. While doing so opened many, many doors (bringing my high school boyfriend to the prom, meeting a lot of awesome people and some of my best friends at gay clubs/bars/parties, etc), it also closed a lot of windows (losing a lot of my straight guy friends, not getting bids into the frats I wanted, and just generally being type-cast as "that gay dude" before anyone gets to know me). The main thing that's making me wonder why I came out so early is that I've still never been with a chick...which wouldn't be a problem, except that lately I've found myself increasingly attracted to them (I've even had a couple of sex dreams involving girls...wtf?), and now that I'm "that gay guy" at my college, I doubt I'll be able to explore that avenue of potential interest.
I guess my problem is that I wish I just hadn't put a label on my sexuality at such a young age.
Sorry for the rant, but has anyone else on here gone through, or felt, something similar?