Coming out

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  1. VanderAnder

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    I'm gay. I only finally admitted this to myself this weekend. At almost the same time, I came out to my best friend, who, by happy chance, is gay himself. I'm really pretty scared, but damn, it feels different, doesn't it?
     
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    lol...congrats on accepting who you are. you must feel relieved. now go have fun.
     
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    Congratulations, Vander! You're one step closer to really knowing yourself. And don't be scared because different is good.

    Peace
     
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    Congrats! The first and most important part of coming out is coming out to yourself. Obviously things are going well for you thus far. That's great. It's okay to be nervous about it all. Its a big step. Best of luck to you!
     
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    Congrats. :)
     
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    There have been several great threads here about coming out, and some of them offer support in their stories, and sometimes even resources to more conventional support. Lex's coming out was one that sticks out as a very public and inspirational process.

    P.S. You might want to change your percentages, when you get around to it. :smile:
     
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    You've now done the hardest part. Congratulations and rock and roll!
     
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    Congratulations! Been following your work, and I'm very pleased to hear you're becoming more comfortable with your sexuality. Be safe!
     
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    great. don't feel like you now have to come out to the world. you need only come out to those you want to.
     
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    Congratulations and good luck!
    :laola:
     
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    Well done, but you have to realise this is only the beginning.

    'Coming out' is a continuous process - friends, family, work. Then here will be new work colleagues (I thought I had it all sorted, then we got a new receptionist......), people you meet socially, It just goes on.
     
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