Being able to say, as an out gay man, "this is my life partner"--
and being able to introduce him that way at my 20th high school reunion--was incredibly liberating. I felt happy, and proud, and (above all) supremely confident.
Before that night, I honestly didn't know what to expect. I know there'd been rumors about my sexuality when I was in high school, but I hadn't come out to anyone but my (immediate) family and a couple of close (female) friends at that point.
If anyone had spouted off some homophobic bullshit, I was ready to drag some skeletons out of some closets, though--and I think my former classmates knew that (in high school, whenever I felt attacked, I went for the jugular rather quickly and with an amazing strength and finality of purpose; it was often the verbal equivalent of Rome defeating Carthage and then tearing down its buildings, plowing under its foundations, and sowing its fields with salt).
However, I went into the room thinking about how we'd all grown up over the past 20 years. Perhaps as a result, everyone was polite to me and my man, so I introduced him to
every single person there, both my classmates and their spouses (probably a total of just over 100 people).
I'd also thought I'd feel some sense of
schadenfreude over certain jackasses' lack of success. However, every person who came to the reunion, even each of the (former) jackasses, was successful in some way, many in multiple ways (e.g., home and family as well as business and financial). And they'd all matured considerably, including knowing how to conduct themselves socially with dignity and some sense of decorum (
far differently from the way they--and I--had behaved in high school).
So I was able to say, quite sincerely, "congratulations on your many successes in life" to everyone there. It was actually a good feeling, and it washed away years of bitterness, shame, and fear stemming from--among other things--my resentment that I (like most LGBTQ folk) was made to feel abnormal as I was growing up.
It wasn't perfect--the former cheerleaders organized the whole thing, so the band was too loud, the tickets were too expensive, and many of the poorer people and people of color didn't come, so the attendance skewed a bit too much both rich and white for my taste--but it was a damned sight better evening than I'd thought was even possible.
I guess that's my take on coming out: As other posters have said, it frees you and it allows you to spend your energies on living life to its fullest and loving people to your and their fullest instead of hiding who you are and skulking around afraid that you might be "found out."
NCbear (who'd much rather be a proud, confident, even acerbic Gandalf than a fear-filled, psychologically damaged Gollum, when it comes right down to it--the latter a fate I was headed toward if I hadn't come out :redface