Coming out

[PyroAndHisFineCock]

Honestly, I would highly consider staying closeted to, at least, your family for awhile.

As a young bi guy myself, I think it is really important for you to come out to a small and safe group of friends who you can be honest and open with concerning your sexuality. However, at the end of the day, who you sleep with shouldn't matter to your parents; and, quite frankly, they probably don't want to know.

It's a hard thing. I know at some point I may want to come out (I've been struggling with this same issue for a little whole now, especially as I've explored both sides of my sexuality further). But being bi is still not understood by either homo-normative or hetero-normative social circles, despite studies which indicate that men can be attracted to both genders. (Duh!) With that in mind, it might be worth only coming out to close friends for now at least.

 

[FloridaFree]

Honestly, I would highly consider staying closeted to, at least, your family for awhile.

As a young bi guy myself, I think it is really important for you to come out to a small and safe group of friends who you can be honest and open with concerning your sexuality. However, at the end of the day, who you sleep with shouldn't matter to your parents; and, quite frankly, they probably don't want to know.

It's a hard thing. I know at some point I may want to come out (I've been struggling with this same issue for a little whole now, especially as I've explored both sides of my sexuality further). But being bi is still not understood by either homo-normative or hetero-normative social circles, despite studies which indicate that men can be attracted to both genders. (Duh!) With that in mind, it might be worth only coming out to close friends for now at least.

Even if "studies" indicated otherwise, no one can tell you that you aren't attracted to both genders. :smile:

Good point about your parents not wanting to know who you're sleeping with.

Not to hijack this thread to my own battle in my head with coming out, but I guess, at least for me, coming out would make family gatherings better. I wouldn't have to live what is, essentially, a secret/double life. I could bring a male partner anywhere and I wouldn't have to worry about being seen by my parents or siblings.

 

[Panoptik]

Do you have a boyfriend or are you actively looking for one? If so, you can go ahead, if not, then what's the rush? However, I urge you to be honest with yourself and your parents: if you think that you are decidedly bi and that you are as likely to end up with a woman as with a man, then come out as bi. But if you know somewhere within that you will probably want a man because, at the end of the day they turn you on more, then don't come out as bi. Saying to your parents that you're bi will forever keep the dream alive of you bringing home the perfect daughter in law and building a nice, normative family. I am speaking from some experience here.

 

[FloridaFree]

Do you have a boyfriend or are you actively looking for one? If so, you can go ahead, if not, then what's the rush?

I am looking for one. Have had a few dates, nothing really worked out. I will probably never tell my parents. I've thought about it a lot. My two older siblings know, as does my old brother's wife. But my younger siblings, they don't.

Saying to your parents that you're bi will forever keep the dream alive of you bringing home the perfect daughter in law and building a nice, normative family.

That's quite poignant. With my experiences I've had being in real, long-term relationships with women, I don't really think I want to be with one. I am sexually attracted to them, no doubt about it. But from the stance of building a life with someone, I'd rather go with another man.

Side note: Even if I were to bring home a daughter-in-law, it would be a "normal" family by any stretch of the imagination in the sense that I am not having kids, no way in hell is that ever happening. :tongue:

 

[dud87]

Well i think i have one of the more interesting experiences me and my friend went out one night and boom all of the sudden he asks. If im Bi and i deny it at first then all of the sudden he says that he is Bi. So at that point i just admit i am and surprisingly we both accepted each other knowing that as friends nothing changed that we both like girls and guys. And that we will be friends no matter what.

 

[henry777]

A good tip my friend gave me was that it takes you years to come out to yourself so when you do come out to your families and friends, don't expect them to accept it right away. Give them the same timeframe as it did for you to come out to yourself.