I think its time for me to come out to my parents, i know its a hard topic, but what do I say to them. How did most of you guys do it if you did?
I honestly wish i had some advice for you, but i haven't "come out" to anyone yet. I'm bisexual and i know and accept it. I just don't have the nuts to tell anyone. That's part of my problem. I rarely let anyone get to the core of me. anyways, when you feel it is right, just go and tell them. I've heard stories where the parents already knew or had some idea or people who were met with open arms. Speaking from the heart will help you in what you're going to say. It's hard, yes, but much of the weight is lifted off when you tell someone. As in time, i don't think there is ever a perfect time in when you can reveal something like that to your parents, but i could be wrong, because i don't have the experience. when you do, i'd be interested in what happens, if you don't mind sharing.
You could get them a membership in Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. PFLAG: Parents, Families, & Friends of Lesbians and Gays. What I have sometimes said to people is something like, 'you know, not everyone is heterosexual'. And also welcome.
There comes a point in your life when the bullshit and energy drain of hiding is no longer bearable... "Mom?, I got something I need to tell you." "What?" "I'm gay." It goes something like that. What comes after is different for every gay man who has done this... and there are a shitload who have on here so don't be shy on askin for advice. I think it's just important to convey that your parents were not the cause of your homosexuality and that you love them which is why you had to tell them so your gayness wouldn't be a wedge of secrecy alienating you from them any longer. Take a deep breath. Wish you all the best.
That is exactly how my friend said it over the phone to his mother after hiding it for 3 years and nearly killing himself with a drug addiction. My friend got drunk and said it. You could try that tactic, it lowers your inhibitions and lets things come out. I wish you all the best because it's a hard thing for someone to do. Let us know how it goes.
