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I'm not sure if this is the right place for this, but bear with me.
Long story short: I came out of a very long term relationship with a woman recently, and the freedom of being single for the first time in around a decade has allowed me to finally acknowledge and start acting upon my Bi side. I have only ever had relationships with women and am still in the closet, so to speak: nobody knows that I'm Bi.
Since becoming single I have had a couple of sexual experiences with men through the magic of Grindr, which I have loved. I finally feel like I'm being true to myself and am acknowledging that yes, whilst I have up until now always been with women physically and emotionally, I enjoy being with a man just as much (albeit for different reasons). I'm still not sure if I would ever want a relationship with a man. For now the physical side is enough.
The thing I'm struggling with is a general self-acceptance of this new man I'm becoming. At times it's exciting to be setting foot into this new world, and other times I don't recognise who I am any more. I've never been the type to sleep around or hook up with strangers, but technology has come a long way in the past ten years and now enables me to do this with relative ease. The ability to meet someone online and be in bed with them an hour or so later really is quite staggering for a luddite like me. On the other hand, flirting with men online prior to hooking up is both arousing and embarrassing for me in equal measure, as it's something I still picture only doing with women. Incidentally, I'm extremely careful online and very selective with who I talk to and eventually meet.
I guess my question to all the Bi guys here is, does it get easier? Do you reach a point where you just accept yourself fully and live your life not caring what others think? I've always been perceived as straight by my friends and family and the concept of me being Bi would come as a shock to everyone, although I have no plans to come out at this time. I know my Father would not accept it, which I'm sure is a contributing fact to my current anxiety. Perhaps my main struggle is a guilt that I know I shouldn't be feeling, but it's hard to live one way for 40 years and then suddenly change to a whole new lifestyle and sexuality.
Any advice or words of encouragement would be much appreciated. Thanks!
Long story short: I came out of a very long term relationship with a woman recently, and the freedom of being single for the first time in around a decade has allowed me to finally acknowledge and start acting upon my Bi side. I have only ever had relationships with women and am still in the closet, so to speak: nobody knows that I'm Bi.
Since becoming single I have had a couple of sexual experiences with men through the magic of Grindr, which I have loved. I finally feel like I'm being true to myself and am acknowledging that yes, whilst I have up until now always been with women physically and emotionally, I enjoy being with a man just as much (albeit for different reasons). I'm still not sure if I would ever want a relationship with a man. For now the physical side is enough.
The thing I'm struggling with is a general self-acceptance of this new man I'm becoming. At times it's exciting to be setting foot into this new world, and other times I don't recognise who I am any more. I've never been the type to sleep around or hook up with strangers, but technology has come a long way in the past ten years and now enables me to do this with relative ease. The ability to meet someone online and be in bed with them an hour or so later really is quite staggering for a luddite like me. On the other hand, flirting with men online prior to hooking up is both arousing and embarrassing for me in equal measure, as it's something I still picture only doing with women. Incidentally, I'm extremely careful online and very selective with who I talk to and eventually meet.
I guess my question to all the Bi guys here is, does it get easier? Do you reach a point where you just accept yourself fully and live your life not caring what others think? I've always been perceived as straight by my friends and family and the concept of me being Bi would come as a shock to everyone, although I have no plans to come out at this time. I know my Father would not accept it, which I'm sure is a contributing fact to my current anxiety. Perhaps my main struggle is a guilt that I know I shouldn't be feeling, but it's hard to live one way for 40 years and then suddenly change to a whole new lifestyle and sexuality.
Any advice or words of encouragement would be much appreciated. Thanks!
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