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_chrizzian_

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Hey LPSgroupers xD
I've noticed severall times, that when i'm really attracted to someone, he has something (personality, look, body, confidence, open mind etc.) i would want to have myself. Is this common for gays?

Let me concrete this a little:

There's this one guy at my college i'm kind of impressed by/attracted to.
He's like over two meters tall (6,5 ft) nicely built (football player) and seems to be a nice and charming but down to earth guy.(but apperently straight - duh!)
I really like his body and i would like to be as muscular as he is too, but that's probably normal. Whats more interesting is, that he gives me the feelng that he is older and has more experience in life than me, but infact he is neraly 2 years younger than me. He seem to be more mature, if you get what i mean? More "I've seen the world and know who i am"-ish.(i'm mostly more of an insecure shy guy)
So, does this happen to you? Do your "crushes" have personality features you would like to see in your own personality?
 

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I'm thinking back on "crushes" I've had in the past, and I'd say more often than not, it was because the other person had something that I liked regardless of whether or not it was something I did or didn't have myself. For example, if the person can't spell or carry a conversation, I can't handle that no matter how nice of a body they have. In that case, I can fantasize all I want about the body, but I'd never pursue a relationship.
 

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I hear what you're saying, Chrizzian, and it makes sense that you would be attracted to what you consider your ideal man. At the same time I think it's an admirable quality that you aspire to be more like like your ideal man.
 

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Science has shown that we as a species look for a good genetic mate. It was once explored that we all look for the same general things; a healthy body and history, strong features, etc etc

Yet, more recently studies have shown that we also look for mates with things that we potentially "lack" or that the other could "improve upon" with our off spring. This means a person with a larger nose may have a predisposition to someone with a smaller one, or someone with thin lips may have a predisposition to someone with fuller lips.

With all the studies that show that gay men are just as genetically engineered to find men attractive as straight women, I don't see why it would be any different. Perhaps that's it.
 

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That is how I started to realize I was gay. When I was really young I would see another male and think WOW he has a really nice smile, really nice body, really nice personality, etc. I would really like to be LIKE him. Of course living in the Bible Belt I had no idea what homosexuality was at that age and didn't realize what was up until I was a teen. LOL

I remember this one guy who was a friend of my dad's who used to come down to our farm to cut firewood when I was a boy. He was in his 30s about, 6'3" had a great body and blondish hair. He looked something like the 1976 Brawney paper towel guy. He was married and totally str8 and probably had no idea that the reason I always came down and helped him load the firewood he was splitting in his pickup was because I was little fag and was really hoping he would get hot and take his shirt off so I could see his bulging biceps, pecs, and abs, as he swung that maul, and maybe even sneak a peek at his massive cock when he pissed behind a tree...and then go back to my room and jerk off for hours.

He was everything I wanted to be when "grew up".
 
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