Completely Switched Sexual Preference

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  1. MikeyLosAngeles

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    Reading a thread asking people when they knew they were gay I was shocked to see people who knew at three and others who didn't even think about it until their late teens. Stories also about men not discovering the opposite sex 'til about 16 or 17 were also just as shocking as those of men who blew their best friends in junior high and ended up straight.

    I became interested in women at 7. I know... Way young. I wouldn't orgasm or wack off. I was just very intrigued by the opposite sex and would pleasure myself to them just massaging myself. I would steal catalogs that came in the mail and would flip to the lingerie sections and watched jerry springer type shows all the time in hopes of an episode featuring a hot stripper. I was like this untill about 11 or 12. Right around puberty. I matured very young.

    I would say there were some bad sexual experiences in my childhood and right after one of them I stopped thinking about or doing anything sexual for about a few months. Then when I started experimenting again it was about males. I completely switched from one side to the other and can't figure out why exactly.

    Anyone care to respond. Lately I have had very very few fantasies about women but usually go back to men. like 9 out of ten times I get off to men.:confused:
     
  2. IntoxicatingToxin

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    Well, it could be several things. It could be that you really are gay. It could be that you're bisexual. And it could be that your bad experiences as a child traumatized you enough to make you uninterested in women, or more interested in men, depending on what happened and what sex it happened with.
     
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    I agree with Tattooed. Perhaps your negative experiences changed your preference or maybe you really are gay or bisexual. It's hard to tell. I would confide with a good friend or therapist and try to begin to explore what happened.
     
  4. DC_DEEP

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    I agree with Meg, but I'll make a more concrete conjecture (of course, not knowing details, I could be completely off...)

    Perhaps your interest, from about age 7 to puberty, was more a maternal fascination, rather than sexual. Most small children, regardless of which orientation they grow up to be, love breasts and warm, soft things.

    Once you reached puberty, perhaps the truly sexual side of your psyche emerged, and it was same-gender or even both-gender focused.

    Just a theory. But don't worry about it.
     
  5. RLSteve

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    You know, I'm very similar.

    I started getting very interested in vaginas around age 5. I got very horny when I first saw this movie called "Where Did I Come From?" and learned about sex.

    I don't think five years old or seven years old is early. I think it's common for kids that young to be interested in sex and sexually aroused.

    I had a pretty dirty mind on and off growing up. Once in awhile, I'd draw naked pictures of women or women in sexy outfits. And when I was twelve, I had a deck of cards with nude girls on them that I loved looking at.

    But, as a kid, I also suffered from vagina envy. I always imagined what it would be like to have a vagina and to be able to put things into it, and how it would feel.

    Then, when I was close to thirteen, I started masturbating. In my fantasies, I'd be a girl, and a man would be fucking my vagina with his big fat penis.

    So, by the time I turned fourteen, the female body didn't fascinate me like it did when I was younger. I was more sexually fascinated by the male body. I'd fascinate about guys on TV and guys in my high school.

    But... I wasn't interested in gay sex for a long time. I still wanted to be in a relationship with a girl. I had crushes on different girls, I didn't have crushes on guys.

    I did start to wonder if I could be gay one day at age 14 when I was wrestling with a friend and I started getting horny. I didn't even have any emotions for him, I didn't even feel attracted to him, but for some reason, I just wanted to grind my crotch against his butt.

    And I'd wonder if being penetrated anally would be a reasonable substitute for being vaginally penetrated.

    Then when I was sixteen, while I did have a crush on one girl, I developed an emotional crush on a guy. I didn't think of it as a gay thing, I just thought he was really adorable and I really admired him and I really wanted to be close with him. I thought of it as a brotherly thing, not a gay thing.

    When I was seventeen, I hugged a guy wearing a towel and I got aroused. I thought, "That felt good!"

    Around age twenty or twenty-one was when I started thinking it would be nice to find another guy to experiment with.

    When I was twenty-one, I made out with a girl finally, and later in the evening, I went to bed with her attractive bisexual cousin. I had my first straight and gay experiences in the same evening, with cousins!

    But... I'm still a virgin. I'm twenty-six. It's not that I'm physically unattractive. I am reasonably attractive, and I work out, and I'm tall and lean. But, just something about my personality, I guess. Connecting with other people is just not something that comes naturally to me, so hooking up with people happens rarely. Anyway, I've only hooked up with one guy, I've made out with more girls.

    I don't really label myself sexually. When it comes to porn, I definitely prefer straight porn over gay porn. Gotta have that vaginal penetration! When I went to bed with that guy, as nice as it was and physically arousing it was, it just didn't feel anatomically right to me (he didn't go down on me, we didn't have anal sex), I think I would have enjoyed it better if I had a girl's body. I still fantasize about being penetrated vaginally.

    So, right now, I don't know what I am. But I'm pretty sure that for emotional companionship, I'd prefer a male over a female, at this point in my life.
     
  6. MikeyLosAngeles

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    Thanks so much for your responses. RLSteve, I find it really interesting that your childhood experiences are so similar to mine. Does it ever bother you that you're not one way or the other meaning straight or gay?

    Also, do you identify with one sex more than the other? You talked about wanting to have a vagina. Not saying that you don't know your gender, but do you relate to a men a lot more than women emotionally and with hobbies or interests or the opposite?

    Would you ever want to be one sexual orientation? Sorry about all the questions but I've never met anyone who was this similar to me. I used to draw pictures of nude women too. All the time with huge boobs. Instead of wanting a vagina though I wanted huge breasts. I too am a virgin.
     
  7. RLSteve

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    No, it doesn't really bother me. "Straight" and "gay" is just language, and everybody interprets and applies those words differently. What "bi" behavior to one person may be "gay" behavior to another person, you know?

    I'm pretty much a loner, however, I find that I crave male companionship more than female companionship. I think a lot of it has to do with not having been good enough for girls I crush on. It just seems to me that girls are just bitches to please, you know? They're not going to accept a guy like me for who I am. I always felt like I wasn't masculine enough. I always tend to find myself attracted to the pretty, sensitive guys who aren't too masculine, who just may be interested in getting closer with another guy. For the last three years, I've been really in love with my best friend (but he dropped me as a friend a few months ago). So now, I just keep to myself.

    I appreciate my attraction to males, I wouldn't want to not be attracted to males. However, I wish I had just as strong of a physical attraction to girls. Because... there really aren't very many attractive gay/bi guys. Even if they are good looking, they have certain gay mannerisms that immediately turn me off. I was very lucky to have found a guy that I found attractive and who found me attractive and who wanted to hook up. But if I were just as attracted to girls, I'd have more options of people who could potentially satisfy my emotional and physical needs.
     
  8. D_Erin Gobraless

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    Just curious as to why this is. I harness similar feelings and since we're on a roll on practically identical experiences I was wondering why you feel this is and am wondering if it has anything to do with...

    Also reading this other quote, I was wondering if you find yourself more attracted to men than women athough you are attracted to both.

     
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    Sorry, i posted under roomate's name. It's still Mikey.
     
  10. avg_joe

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    Now you have officially become gay !!! :biggrin1:
     
  11. RLSteve

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    Well, I've just never had a really "masculine" personality, you know? I've always been the sweet, sensitive, innocent, naive type. In middle school and high school, I was pretty much a whimp compared to the other guys. I wasn't athletic, I wasn't into sports. I guess I just wish I could be a little more "Alpha-male" you know?

    Also, for three years, I went to a VERY SMALL elementary school with twelve kids all together. It was divided up into two classes, and I was in the older kids class. I was the only boy in that class. From ages 8-10, I had no male peers who were my age. When I got into middle school, I didn't feel like I was on the same wavelength as my male peers.

    I am more attracted to males than I am women. I'd say physically and emotionally. But that doesn't mean I don't enjoy kissing attractive girls in my acting class. For the purposes of satisfying my own ego, I'd love to sleep with a whole bunch of girls. But I'm not as "dick-driven" to hook up with girls as other straight guys are. At the same time, I'm not as "dick-driven" to sleep with a bunch of guys like other gay guys are.

    I'm sure I would enjoy having sex with a girl. I think it's more the type of activity that arouses me than the actual girl (although, the girl has to be pretty and I have to feel comfortable with her, or else I'll most likely be turned off). But with guys, it's the opposite. It's having a connection with an attractive guy that arouses me more than the type of activity I'd do with him (the ideas of blow jobs, hand jobs and anal sex just aren't exciting enough to me in themselves).

    I mean, I check out girls and I check out guys. Sometimes, I wonder if the only reason I check out girls is just to confirm the straight part of me. But when I see an attractive guy, I have a much stronger urge to hold him, cuddle him, caress him, kiss him, lay down with him, breathe him in, etc. But with a girl, I won't get aroused until I start trying to do something sexual (once I attempted to finger a girl I was making out with, but she pushed my hand away).
     
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    Well, this entire thread shows that the 20th century view of sexuality is extremely outdated, with its black-and-white classification and such shit. Sexuality is very "grey-scaled". You can be turned on by a thousand thousand things, both by males and females.

    To me, I am attracted by different things from females and males. Females is a more egoistic attraction, where I satisfy myself and feel "socially complete" (also/or most when the girl is satisfied). With males, it is more competitive, hard to explain.
     
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