AlteredEgo
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4inches said:Nobody ever grew up being really insecure about thier bodies (and when did this become the worst thing in the world?) because thier moms and dads werent naked enough or 'open" about it.
Oh no? No one? You can back that up?
To the original poster, Wilde316:
You sound like a normal, sane, and thoughtful person. I think you are doing all the right things, for all the right reasons. Nudity for nudity's sake is foreign to me. But nudity isn't.
I'm just giving you some background about myself so you know from what perspective comes my opinion. My mother and I were naked together often, becasue our house is not air conditioned. My grandmother and I were nude together often because we shared a bathroom. My grandmother was uptight about nudity, my mother wasn't. I was uncomfortable being naked with my grandmother, right from the very first time it happened. So much so, that now that she needs me to take care of her, I wear my lab coat and rubber gloves, and make the experience as clinical as possible. When my mother became ill, and I cared for her, it never occured to me to get out the gloves. I was never nude with any men, but only becasue there were no males in my household. I was once naked with a younger male cousin after swiming. He was four, I was nine. I showered him, powdered him, and dressed him. Technically, he wasn't related to me. My 4th cousin's wife was his grandmother. My mother talked to me about nudity, and even pointed out the difference between how we each seemed to feel about it, and how my aunt and grandmother, and other relatives seemed to feel. I came to understand that some of us required more privacy than others, and some of us simply defined privacy differently. My mother had given me a pamphlet about molestation, and asked me questions after I'd had time to process it. After she was sure no one had touched me "anywhere covered by our bathing suits" we began having discussions about when nudity was acceptable and when it wasn't appropriate. I won't tell you what conclusions we drew, because you're a grown man, and have drawn your own conclusions. But this does bring me back to your post.
If you find that for some reason parents are getting soaked at bath time, if they find that they are having to get in the tub at the same time for practical reasons, they have decide what if anything they should wear for convenience's sake. You have crazy people in your life, and in my experience, you just can't fight crazy. I would make the same choices you have. Oh, minus one: I would bathe her in the kitchen sink. I got bathed on the dining room table the first year of my life. This just saves your back and knees! I do it with the kids in my life.