Condoms -- killing the erection

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  1. tachyon

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    Sorry guys if I should post this in the other sub forum or in here "The Healthy Penis" section.

    I'm starting to lose my erection when I put the condom on, I know this is important for me to prevent STD and pregnancy. I lost an erection couple of times in our first sex session when entering my girl its an embarrassment to me. My only excuse was I got sex anxiety cuz I deflowered her and the emotional she brought of losing it. After our crying part, she ask me to do it again because I already did my part of bringing her into orgasm by cunnilingus and fingering.
    I was trying to pursue my girl If I could do few strokes before I put the condom however she said no. I do respect that, I used the Durex sensation and I don't feel anything on that condom and also I use a lube "strawberry" flavor just in case for a blowjob which I never got one. I dont remember if the lube was Silicon type or water base.
    I'm wondering if you got guys had some issues on condom erection problem and how to prevent of losing it....
     
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    yeah....condoms suck
     
  3. Gillette

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    When you put the condom on do you roll the ring straight over the head or do you hold the ring in your fingers like putting on a sock?

    If the condom is smaller than what you need and you're rolling it straight down you could be in effect squeezing the blood out. This is a problem more associated with girth than length and you appear to have a thick cock head.

    Try magnums or an XL size.
     
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    Try other brands. Buy a sampler pack so you can find the one which is right for you.

    Masturbate with a condom on to get used to it. Practice putting them on, so it doesn't take as long.
     
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    although I love the real thing, putting it on can be fun as well. Have your girl put it on you. I always like the look of anticipation that I get from my wife when I put it on.
     
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    I second both of the above posts. Condoms do suck. Not as much as unwanted pregnancy or HIV. And you do have a big cock head and may be using too small of a rubber. You're lucky enough to live in New York City. If you go to a branch of the Gay Men's Health Crisis and say condoms are killing your boner they will give you a prescription for a low dose ED pill. And probably a few samples. Trust me. As long as you only need the pills to beat condom fatigue your cock will stay hard.

    Don't let the name scare you. They could care if you're gay or straight. They just want to prevent HIV infections.
     
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    Lube the head of your dick before you put it on!
     
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    My Advice:

    If only happeend severalt imes, dont worry about it, its part of anxiety....

    If it happens alot, your thinking about it too much....if your thinking about it and scared its going to happen again, it will happen again

    Use lots of live

    Make your girl put it on for you...its soo sexyyy, especially when she puts it down all the way, pushing ure bone in, and your dick even looks bigger
     
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    my sentiments exactly
     
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    Condoms suck. Also make me lose my erection.
     
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    They are a necessary evil.

    I have had a few experiences of condom caused boner loss with partners. It sucks. Not too long ago I bought around 15 different varieties, some in 3 packs, some in variety packs, which I have distributed to my girlfriends for research purposes. I find different people have different preferences so now I just keep a "menagerie" in a cosmetic bag with a mini bottle of lube.

    Aside from trying several brands/types, the other trick I found was to add a couple drops of lube into the tip before putting it on. This seemed to help provide more sensation. I think the suggestions from Gillette and Hud01 sound solid- put it on like a sock, practice putting one on and try masturbating while wrapped.

    As far as having your girlfriend put it on you, that is only great if she is practiced at it. If she is neither skilled nor confident, it will be a lengthy process and no doubt kill the moment as well.

    Good luck! And please post details of any successes you have!
     
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    I don't know about the other guys here, but it would be absolutely impossible to put a condom on like a sock! I would never be able to hold the bottom enough to get it around the head and down the shaft. And I am a little mystified by the "magnum" sizes...are they "big" just for the long guys and not the wide guys? Doesn't seem fair to me...
     
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    Exactly what happened with me. Never had problems naturally, but would always have problems maintaining with a condom. Always admired those "Magnum" users and never in a million years thought I needed one. After someone suggested it, I tried and have had no problems whatsoever.

    To nicenyc, it was definitely my girth that I was having issues with. I was essentially choking it to death :frown1:
     
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    It's pretty hard (excuse the pun) to get a condom on without assistance, and the necessary interruption caused in your flow can be enough to kill your erection. So it can add to the erotic fun if your partner helps you put on the condom, including it as part of foreplay. If she's not used to this, your girlfriend can do the easy job of holding the teat at the top to keep the air out, while you roll on the condom, and as she gets more used to it, it's much more enjoyable if she rolls on the condom (while you hold the teat) which will tend to stimulate your erection. As already suggested, add a few drops of lubricant into the top of the condom, which will increase your sensation.

    From your photos though I'd recommend you try Magnum XL, which have more girth and won't choke the blood flow in your penis, which is also a cause of erection loss.

    And don't use silicone based lubricants with condoms as they weaken them. Only use water based - Liquid Silk is a good one.

    Wishing you every success.
     
  15. Kyle232

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    Dude, it was most likely performance anxiety. Reading your problem reminded me of the first time with my current girlfriend, I had a weak erection at first, which completely died after putting on the condom. However, I've used exactly the same kind of condoms for jacking off, and my boner wouldn't die. So I know it's sex-related rather than condom-related, and trust me... I know how embarrassing it is!
    Next time you have sex just take it easy, don't focus so much on pleasing her but rather on letting her please you, just lay back and chill, don't make such a big deal about that one past experience, otherwise it might happen again.

    The second time I tried doing it with my gf, I didn't focus so much on cunnilingus, fingering nor any kind of foreplay, I just laid back and told her to give me an erection. Once again I got a weaky, but it was still strong enough to survive through the condom and into her pussy. After it was inside it was way easier achieving an erection, and in the end she ended up orgasming before I did!

    So trust me, it's all about performance anxiety, just chill down, enjoy yourself and clear your mind, let your "little" head be the one that gets all the energy!
     
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    Yep. It's all in your head. Relax and enjoy yourself.
     
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    I actually like putting a condom on. It makes me feel invincible. I particularly like the Polyurethane condoms over the latex ones. They are super thin, albeit a little on the tight side. Perhaps it is my OCD, but usually I prefer having sex with a condom on. I don't want to be starting a family right now and I don't trust 'The Pill.'
     
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    I prefer Magnums for this reason. Regular condoms shoot off/cause too many problems. Magnums might help you out.

    In general, though, condoms are a definite buzz kill. At least for me. It's always best when you're with a girl you can trust to use birth control. Both of you will enjoy it more.
     
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    i dont like wear condoms when i dont have to. feels like it limits my sex
     
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    Oh, have you had issues with this? Are you girthy and thick?
     
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