Condoms Make Me Limp

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In the heat of the moment pulling out a Magnum and whatever I go limp. It almost never fails. I have to say, its the worse type of sexual experience to have. Makes you feel like a complete "let down" and "fuck up".

So, any suggestions with my condom problem? Condom...problem, haha, that sounds funny.
 

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Hi there.

I think that the best thing you can do is to "familiarise" yourself more with condoms. Use them even when you don't really need to, to help you get used to them better.
 

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well girls do wank it off after i put it on for me, but at that point im already semi-limp, embarassed, and totally out of the mood.

Well, get your girl in her position.. slip the condom on, and then spend some time teasing her vagina. Slap it on her lips, rub it against the pussy while wanking it....it's not her job to stroke you back to hardness.

Get yourself hard and get over the soft issue. It happens to guys often. Best to just realize it's common and get back to being hard and enjoy the sex.
 

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do you stop the going ons while ya putting the condom on?

me boy and meself only used condoms in the very beginning of our relationship so i have very limited experience with possible equipment failure related to latex. but it seems if ya lady friend paid attention to other parts or kept up the stimulation there wouldn't be a lag in interest or distraction factor.

my boy did have to fiddle and fuss with condoms. i guess foreskin was the major issue. i being the over eager little monkey i am couldn't keep my hands off the rest of him. nipples, balls, inner thighs, ear nuzzling, neck kissing... i mean that just makes sense to me. if condoms are required than putting a condom on shouldn't break the flow more than necessary.

she should be kissing, fondling, touching, sucking available skin surfaces, keep up the naughty talk, or give a show to watch while ya trying to get the rig on. oh, ya know i learned how to put a condom on with my mouth. seemed to work for both of us.

ML

boys answer this question. really. i have no clue about how most men deal or feel about this kind of thing. i personally am just thrilled with condoms no longer being an issue.
 

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Yes, when you masturbate or simply play with yourself.

Most likely the "problem" isn't physical at all. It's probably more of a mental block.
If you start using condoms when there's no pressure at all, that block is likely to go away
 

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Idris, the only time it happen to me is when I dont want to have sex at all...

anyways, yes I recommend that you start with buying a bunch of condoms on ebay... they go as low as 5-8 cent each.. buy 100 or something for disposal. ( the regular ones, or buy the cheapest you can get, it for training only, so you wont need the magnum these times.. unless you want to waste 50 dollars insteand of 15 bucks. )
When you masturbate try puttting them on... try putting 2 per day and see it it helps. other things to have in mind while you are rocking hard, make the girl take it off and get it ready so you just need to put it in ( during that time you can spit on ur hand and make her wet down there).. end of story.
 

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I know the problem isn't physical at all - so I think I'm going to go with the practice run, lol.

I just wonder how condoms became a mental block to me. Maybe its the pressure, who knows...

I also thought some help would come out of her putting it on too.
 

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condom practice runs? :biggrin1:

i wouldn't have thought of that one.

ML
This is a very common problem. Usually it is someone who is just out of a ltr and is not used to them. I agree with using them while masturbating to get used to the feeling.
 

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Well, I have to agree with JumboJet. Try mastrubating with them on, with , without lube. This is a mental block. I don't know about the girlfriend thing, cant relate to that but I do know its a mental block because you've had to stop in mid performance.
I think my getting used to it all the feel, sensation ,ect..it will all come back to you. Good Luck
 

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Is it that you lose the mood or are they too tight? Looks like you've got some girth. You may want to try TheyFit. Or maybe Magnum XL's fit, I dunno.

I think most guys lose their erection a little bit after putting the condom on, that's why you stroke it a bit, or smack it on the girl's ass :tongue:.

Apparently the trick is not to think about and get nervous, Just pretend your on your own masturbating.

My worry is usually that the girl will change her mind in the two minutes it takes to put the condom on :tongue: after that I'm fine.
 

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In addition to getting used to them via "practice," don't put one on right before intercourse. A major problem can be getting hot and heavy, then stopping to put the condom on. Plan on putting one on halfway through foreplay so that you have 10-15 minutes to harden back up.

For instance, if eating her out gets you excited, put one on right before you go down on her. Then you can have a good, long, relaxing time getting hard again while you lick her silly.
 

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In the heat of the moment pulling out a Magnum and whatever I go limp. It almost never fails. I have to say, its the worse type of sexual experience to have. Makes you feel like a complete "let down" and "fuck up".

So, any suggestions with my condom problem? Condom...problem, haha, that sounds funny.

One of the best lines from American Pie, when Jim's dad was telling him about having this same issue...he joked that he and his wife used to refer to condoms as "shrink wrap." :rofl:

The point being, don't let it get to you so much...take a humorous view and it's less likely to get you down. So to speak. :biggrin1: