Why is it so hard to find someone that's a perfect man in and outside the bedroom? Somehow, the two are never in the same package. My boyfriend and I have lived together for over a year. I work from home and don't have a car, so sometimes he's the ONLY person I see for days and days. He's my best friend, my lifeline, my everything. We laugh and laugh and laugh. Money's always good. We go out on dates, we dance, we're happy. I want to marry him, I want to have his children. I want to be with him for the rest of my life....and.. I want an open relationship. It seems like he thinks sex is some sort of sacred thing. As a woman that's been with 40+ men, I can't bear claim to this belief. I believe in making love, and I believe in fucking. I believe that humans aren't MEANT to be with one person forever. It's not in my genetic makeup, my instinct, my being, to be with one person forever. And with all that said........here's my sex complaints: 1) He doesn't kiss me WITH TONGUE. I want a gross, nasty, wet, big, sloppy kiss. It's a little Highschool and grody but it's something I really like. I miss a makeout session! I miss when a man will do nothing but kiss me, when all I want is to fuck him and he WONT LET ME. That's hot to me! We've been together for a year and haven't even learned how to kiss each other properly. (This one is completely my fault. I should be more open about it, tell him what I want, and tell him it's a huge deal to me and that when I think about it, it just makes me want to cry.) 2) He doesn't precum AT ALL. Nothing gets me wetter than a sloppy cock. One gentleman that I had the great honor of fucking on this messageboard was Chase (aka our dear lost beloved Spladle). He precums SO MUCH that once when he went to the doctor, she told him that she swore he had some sort of STD. He told her her thought it was precum. She suggested they test him right there. He freaked out and called everyone he'd has sex with and told them they may have something and the test came back negative. I'm not always into foreplay, and sometimes I like the guy to seriously, just shove it in there! I don't always want to work up to this stage where I'm sopping wet. Sometimes, I want the guy to be wet FOR me. THAT gets me wet too. I'm thinking back to our animalistic stage, where male primates would go around sticking their dicks into anything that moved, pretty much raping the females, for propagation purposes. The male with the most precum was probably the most likely to be able to shove it in there, get that quickie over with, and have more offspring. Granted, the whole rape part isn't really needed anymore, but to see that I'm turning him on by making him drip, in addition to getting him hard is really hot to me. My boyfriend and I have to use lube almost EVERYTIME and I feel like a dried up old lady. Sometimes, if I know we're going to have sex, I sneak some lube up in thar, just so he'll think it's me. Really...sad. 3) He doesn't let me blow him and FINISH him off. He says he thinks it's pointless. What's wrong with a blowjob?! I LOVE blowjobs. It's makes me feel accomplished! Job well done! I love being in control like that and being able to cause a reaction like that. And when I do blow him, for the short time that he allows it, he doesn't make ANY noise. He doesn't touch my head either. No hair petting, no head pushing. Nothing. 4) He's submissive in bed. He wants me to tell him when to come. Nothing makes me cringe more. I want a guy to boss me around a bit, maybe pick me up and swing me around. I'm 5'11". I'm a huge lady! I want to feel like a little girl again. I want to be tied up a bit. I want to be spanked. I don't want some guy sweating and heaving over me, asking if he can please come yet. and with all these complaints I have..........I know that I should just tell him how I feel and we should work it out together, but with that comes hurting his feelings, which I would never dream of doing. Since day 1, I've told him that I want an open relationship. He's never been that open to the idea of me sleeping with other men at all. I've never acted on our not so "open relationship" but he has. He's slept with several different women, while we've been together. He's even gone as far as to call me, while he was out, and ask me if he could go home with someone he just met. I, of course, said he could. I know that whomever he sleeps with, he wont leave me. I also know that if I were with someone else, I wouldn't leave him. So what's the big deal?!