Sounds more like dreaming to me. How can you even register something like that? I don't think you could really tell what he is really risking. Not to mention I think if you are willing to risk your heart and all that dance, there is a good chance you'll get labeled clingy and smothering.
you're 19... you are guessing. I'm 50... i'm not guessing.
I said clearly that many young women mistake swagger and aggression for confidence. That is why young men get such miserably inconsistent feedback from young women.
But then, young women almost never meet young men who are genuinely self confident... the young men simply don't have enough experience to have gained that sense of self.
But smarter women... and more experienced women eventually figure out how to tell the difference.
As to risking your heart... you CAN invest in a woman emotionally, WITHOUT smothering her.
Smothering her is needy and approval seeking... its saying 'love me love me love me' its asking 'can I love you, let me love you , please let me love you..."
Confidence is entirely different...
I don't need a woman's permission to love her.
I can love her regardless of her response. I can be unafraid of being stricken by her rejection..
I can get hurt by a woman... let her see that tear in my eye.. and show her that I can walk off, hurt, but unembarrassed, and unbroken.
Its hard to explain to someone so young... but trust me... its true...
Even the ugliest guy in the band get's laid for showing the confidence to perform well in front of a crowd.
Oh and I guess I'll point out that the poetry has another flaw. Like I said, I think it is basically impossible to see. IF it were, it would take more than a first meeting, that would take intimate knowledge of someone. So how would that help you find someone? It's like a key locked in the box that it opens.
For women, 85% of communication is non-verbal. They are interpreting your actions on a far more nuanced level than you can hope to imagine.
You can know exactly what a horse is thinking if you spend enough time around horses to understand the subtle nuances in posture, gaze, ear movement, tail twitches and such...
Similarly, without your realizing it, you are broadcasting to those around you on levels you are not aware of. The tone and cadence of your speech, for example, tell a woman more about your level of self confidence than does the words you are speaking.
You are HOPING it is something they can not see... because then you can come up with other excuses as to why you don't do better with women.
Or you can recognize that experience is what breeds confidence, and not avoid new, and perhaps harsh, experience.
Players got shot down a lot to learn how to play... players get shot down more often than those who are not players... simply because they take more shots. And they learn from every failure... and every success.
Think how many times you have to die in a videogame to get good at it.
You can doubt it all you want... but when everyone significantly older than you tells you the same thing... that self confidence is key... chances are they know somehting thru hard experience that you have yet to discover.
Try it. Find something you are good at... and practice it... especially something that might involve social contact with women.
If you really want to build an important social confidence with women... learn to dance well.
For women, dancing is sexual. And guys who can do it well are few and far between. If you are a good dancer... you will know it and that confidence will translate into a pleasurable experience on the floor...
And every woman in the room will want to have that experience.
My Dad did real well with women... because we was always one of the best dancers in any club he set foot in... and women swooned just to follow his confident and competent lead.
All insecurity and lack of confidence is based in fear.
Women crave security.... part of how men offer that security is in being a calm and fearless champion.
And keep in mind, every woman is an absolute sucker for
genuine devotion, for
genuine fascination and interest.
PS- fortune favors the bold...
Women want to see you be bold... without being brash.