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Ok, I'm wary of starting this thread because I've seen all too often how this type of discussion can quickly go off the rails. I just wanted to share my thoughts on this in a forum that, so far, wasn't as volatile as others I've seen.
The hung Black guy myth is just that, a myth. As an African-American though this myth is blessing and a curse and I've come to realize that it creates a rather unique experience for African-American or "Black" men. The fact of the matter is that even though many of us know this is a myth, most people believe this myth. They believe it so much that most assume all "Black" men are hung. Now this is different than the experience of most men who aren't "Black" because no one thinks your hung generally until they actually see you naked (unless people use those height/hand/nose guessing games.) Thus, being "Black" creates a presumption of "hungness", which for some can create a sense of ease and comfort with being actually hung.
That's part of the double-edged sword of this myth. If you're actually "hung" and Black then you can be incredibly confident and socially open about this. I've had complete strangers make comments to me without even seeing my cock. I've also found that I can easily joke with almost anyone about being hung and it's socially acceptable, like an in-joke that everyone is a part of, whether they know I am or not.
Of course, if you're not "hung" and "Black", then your sex life can be quite hellish. I know guys who have been insulted to their face for not living up to the myth. (The same way I've been insulted for not being a good basketball player.)
My weird guilt is that for every person I meet who has never been with a "Black" guy before, I confirm and perpetuate the myth. Then they go around telling everyone how they were with some super hung "Black" guy and the myth keeps going. Now, I obviously don't dwell on this, but it still drives me nuts and I find myself always telling guys, you know not every "Black" guy is hung. They look at me like, yeah right. See it's odd that it takes only one "Black" guy to make this myth a reality for people but if you could be with 10 super hung non-"Black" guys from the same ethnic group and never develop a myth about them (although I know there are some Italian, German, Irish, red-head myths--they have no where the strength or worldwide acceptance of the "Black" myth.)
As an African-American, it does your head in sometimes.
Any thoughts? (I hope this doesn't turn into a racist rant, cause that's not the intent. I just wanted to discuss something I think about in a place where talking about being hung is, well, accepted.)
The hung Black guy myth is just that, a myth. As an African-American though this myth is blessing and a curse and I've come to realize that it creates a rather unique experience for African-American or "Black" men. The fact of the matter is that even though many of us know this is a myth, most people believe this myth. They believe it so much that most assume all "Black" men are hung. Now this is different than the experience of most men who aren't "Black" because no one thinks your hung generally until they actually see you naked (unless people use those height/hand/nose guessing games.) Thus, being "Black" creates a presumption of "hungness", which for some can create a sense of ease and comfort with being actually hung.
That's part of the double-edged sword of this myth. If you're actually "hung" and Black then you can be incredibly confident and socially open about this. I've had complete strangers make comments to me without even seeing my cock. I've also found that I can easily joke with almost anyone about being hung and it's socially acceptable, like an in-joke that everyone is a part of, whether they know I am or not.
Of course, if you're not "hung" and "Black", then your sex life can be quite hellish. I know guys who have been insulted to their face for not living up to the myth. (The same way I've been insulted for not being a good basketball player.)
My weird guilt is that for every person I meet who has never been with a "Black" guy before, I confirm and perpetuate the myth. Then they go around telling everyone how they were with some super hung "Black" guy and the myth keeps going. Now, I obviously don't dwell on this, but it still drives me nuts and I find myself always telling guys, you know not every "Black" guy is hung. They look at me like, yeah right. See it's odd that it takes only one "Black" guy to make this myth a reality for people but if you could be with 10 super hung non-"Black" guys from the same ethnic group and never develop a myth about them (although I know there are some Italian, German, Irish, red-head myths--they have no where the strength or worldwide acceptance of the "Black" myth.)
As an African-American, it does your head in sometimes.
Any thoughts? (I hope this doesn't turn into a racist rant, cause that's not the intent. I just wanted to discuss something I think about in a place where talking about being hung is, well, accepted.)
