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Hey all, asking for some advice here... I'm going to try to describe what's going for on me
I've been seeing a guy that I really like a lot, but somehow I'm not feeling the sexual attraction much at all which leaves me feeling very confused. My guy is cute and good looking with a great body, smart, has a good job, and is really attracted to me. He's told me I'm his first choice which is really flattering. I love spending time with him, he's been really wonderful which makes this all the harder for me because I want to return his sexual attraction but it just hasn't felt quite right somehow... I don't want to hurt him.
We were seeing each other for the last 2-3 months and haven't had much sex, just a few times. I know he's slept with a lot more people than me; I tend to be pretty cautious and reserved in this area and he's had more of a 'hoe' phase lol in the last few years which leaves me feeling concerned that I might have got something from him. His ex gave my guy chlamydia earlier this year and they had the sti testing and antibiotic treatment so they're clear, and I went and got tested which came up negative thank god but I'm still worried about that.
In terms of sex, making out is good but it doesn't seem to get me turned on with him reliably and then my boner kind of just wilts when it comes to sex time. He has an extremely thicc cock
which freaks me out a bit but is more of a natural bottom and I prefer to top but we have tried both. I have trouble cumming with him topping and bottoming which leads me to feel reluctant to have sex. When I try to top him I can't really feel much which is strange because I've never had this problem before with guys I've dated. I think his ex may have 'stretched' things out down there if you know what I mean... and I have tried bottoming for him a couple times which leads me to feeling sore afterwards.
I don't know if I'm just not really as gay and should be dating girls, or if we're just not compatible sexually, or if my worries are killing it for me or what. I've been feeling kinda sad the last couple days because I said maybe we should just be friends without the sex, in effect breaking up with him. Even if we don't work out as a couple, I still want to be best friends with him because we always have such a great time together hanging out.
Thanks for your thoughts people of lpsg,
ZarbK
I've been seeing a guy that I really like a lot, but somehow I'm not feeling the sexual attraction much at all which leaves me feeling very confused. My guy is cute and good looking with a great body, smart, has a good job, and is really attracted to me. He's told me I'm his first choice which is really flattering. I love spending time with him, he's been really wonderful which makes this all the harder for me because I want to return his sexual attraction but it just hasn't felt quite right somehow... I don't want to hurt him.
We were seeing each other for the last 2-3 months and haven't had much sex, just a few times. I know he's slept with a lot more people than me; I tend to be pretty cautious and reserved in this area and he's had more of a 'hoe' phase lol in the last few years which leaves me feeling concerned that I might have got something from him. His ex gave my guy chlamydia earlier this year and they had the sti testing and antibiotic treatment so they're clear, and I went and got tested which came up negative thank god but I'm still worried about that.
In terms of sex, making out is good but it doesn't seem to get me turned on with him reliably and then my boner kind of just wilts when it comes to sex time. He has an extremely thicc cock
I don't know if I'm just not really as gay and should be dating girls, or if we're just not compatible sexually, or if my worries are killing it for me or what. I've been feeling kinda sad the last couple days because I said maybe we should just be friends without the sex, in effect breaking up with him. Even if we don't work out as a couple, I still want to be best friends with him because we always have such a great time together hanging out.
Thanks for your thoughts people of lpsg,
ZarbK