Confused About Sexuality

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Hi!
I got added to a chat with my ‘straighter’ friends where they share pictures of loads of hot girls.
Before this, I thought I was mostly gay but I am beginning to find these girls attractive. However, I don’t know if I am more turned on by the idea of the girls or the idea of my friends being turned on about these girls. I guess my sexual response to the images of girls isn’t as immediate and I always get more turned on when my friends say “fuck she is thick/a baddie” etc. I am unsure if it’s the idea of sexualising women that turns me on though, because I’ve never really though about the women and girls in my life that way, so thinking about them in a new way is exciting. Idk, what judgement do you think I should make on my sexuality?
 
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From reading your previous posts I am surprised that you are asking this question. Your attraction to men is beyond doubt in my opinion. But maybe you are beginning to look at women in a sexual way and it's an awakening. But I imagine your preference is for males as you are even volunteering that their sexual responses to these women turns you on.
 

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From reading your previous posts I am surprised that you are asking this question. Your attraction to men is beyond doubt in my opinion. But maybe you are beginning to look at women in a sexual way and it's an awakening. But I imagine your preference is for males as you are even volunteering that their sexual responses to these women turns you on.

Mm true, I think attraction to men is undisputed, but could I be becoming more bisexual?
 

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I have had plenty of sex over the years, and, have had plenty of discussions about sex with opinions all over the sexual tolerance spectrum.

If I may offer several opinions here, they are the following ones. Let me say that I am in my 50s. My experiences are ones that I have had over several decades of life experience.

Don't come out now, if....
1.) You are financially dependent on homophobic bigots; instead, if you can do it, wait until you are self-supporting, or, can at least become so.
2.) You live in a homophobic area, and, are unsure of your sexuality. By coming out, you could unleash a torrent of hatred onto yourself. Wait until you are sure of your sexuality, and, decide then, if you wish to share that information. It is nobody's concern but yours and that of your partner.

Don't use anyone, just to prove to useless bigots that you are "straight". Trust me... their approval is not worth anything. I have also seen the effects of someone, who did just this. Ultimately, he came out at 36. He was and still is a father of 4. At the time, he felt the need to make up for lost time, and, neglected his kids, all of whom were still minors.

Do consider coming out, if you sure of your sexuality, and, by disclosing this, you don't feel that you will be the victim of any repercussions, because of this.
 
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Sexuality is pretty fluid (see the Kinsey Scale) when I came out I felt I had to be completely gay and devoted my endeavours to men. After a bit of growth I discovered a fondness for women as well. Though I consider myself gay still I won’t say no to some fun with a lady of my type.
 
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what judgement do you think I should make on my sexuality?
None.

You are going to find all sorts of people attractive, no matter what their gender/appearance. It's normal, and very ok. You can't help what catches your eye and/or turns you on.

Don't put yourself in a labeled box. Boxes are boring.

Just be you.
 
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