Ohhhhhh. I TOTALLY misunderstood what you meant. I'm still not completely sure what you do mean, but at least now I'm clearer on what you do not mean. :redface:
You say he drenched your dress in his jizz. I still say he's an asshole for cumming on you without permission. You may disagree, but my experience just tells me it is better to drop dudes who are inconsiderate about sex, no matter what else they might be considerate about. In my experience, over time, they show that they are not considerate of very much, very often. In my experience, they can pretend to be nice for awhile, but eventually it all washes up on the shore.
I think it is very open minded of you to consider dating someone you can't speak properly to, but I just could never seriously consider a man who didn't speak English or Spanish. I don't know any other languages. I can say five things in Arabic, and two of them are not exactly halal. :smile: How long would I have to wait for one of us to improve in the other's language, so we could have good communication of needs, wants and expectations, share jokes, and discuss our thoughts, concerns, passions, and maybe even the news?
Unless we're talking about a dick smaller than my thumb, I'm not sure there's a size that would prevent me from at least trying a guy out before deciding about the sex with him, if everything else was going well. In your case, you have misgivings about his size and longevity, AND you don't communicate well, AND you can't marry him because he is going to become more devout after marriage, he says.
I don't think he intends to marry you anyway, unless you have led him to believe you would be willing to convert. His religion forbids his taking a non-believing wife. I could be wrong though. Does he smoke? drink? eat pork? cheeseburgers? These are some indicators of his level of seriousness about practicing Islam. This is not to say you should never date any man who would not be willing to marry you later. However, if you are looking to date someone who would potentially become your husband, dating one that definitely will not is a waste of your time.
The absolute biggest deal-breaker, for me, would be that you do not communicate well together. If there is a language barrier between you, you should at least be able to have very strong non-verbal communication; you do not. It seems you had no idea he thought seeing him in private meant getting each other off, no idea when he was about to come, and he had no idea that you really just wanted to see a movie, and that you didn't want him rolling all over you and accidentally impregnating you with the jizz he carelessly spewed everywhere. To me, it just does not look good.