confused,different religions and his small dick, help?

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You see, even the ignorant dolfette - who can't remember the date of the 7/7 attacks (even though that's why we call them 7/7 - because that was the date, just like 9/11) - EVEN she knows who Nick Griffin is.

This is why I can't believe anyone isn't deeply suspicous at OP's sentiment that - "Oh, I didn't realise anyone was touchy over Islam, aprart from Americans".

Seriously guys. What do you have to do to get a fake profile banned round here?
Look it up in the FAQ already. There is also a handy thread in the 'Etc' section.
 

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Islamic religion is used to justify the actions of Muslim men against women, this is a known fact and I totally agree with some of the stories here about Muslim men changing their attitude against the western women they marry. I've seen it happen and I have friends who suffered the same outcome. The guy could be nice and most probably is but just be careful what you get yourself into.

Just remember this ( Three things which annul Muslim men prayer and those are : a dog, a donkey and a Woman )... so just imagine you are classed same as the dog and the donkey in their prayer.
 

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Oh really? Did I ask you to judge me? Intimate?? I didn't realise you were privy to the entire ins and outs of our physical contact, or how long we have been seeing eachother! No more intimate bar it was lying down than we were in public thanks. I really find your opinion offensive. HE doesn't think I am a slut, something which he has made very very clear to me. Bad reputation with whom exactly?? Who are you, the purity police? Don't go around calling women you don't know cheap, you might get a reputation for being judgmental.


AlteredEgo- I think what I wrote was open to misinterpretation, I'm struggling to express myself at the moment, we were making out, clothed, what I meant was afterwards, later, I didn't want him to rub against me due to sperm paranoia, just in case as it had gotten everywhere.
He in no way behaved in a manner that was against my wishes after I explained, which is very hard to do when you don't speak the same language properly, and to give him credit he did try and talk it over and was the one trying to open the communication, whereas I was very frustrated and not in a good mood anyway. He's not a total jerk or anything, I just don't know if we'll work sexually and I don't want to mess him about.
Ohhhhhh. I TOTALLY misunderstood what you meant. I'm still not completely sure what you do mean, but at least now I'm clearer on what you do not mean. :redface:

You say he drenched your dress in his jizz. I still say he's an asshole for cumming on you without permission. You may disagree, but my experience just tells me it is better to drop dudes who are inconsiderate about sex, no matter what else they might be considerate about. In my experience, over time, they show that they are not considerate of very much, very often. In my experience, they can pretend to be nice for awhile, but eventually it all washes up on the shore.

I think it is very open minded of you to consider dating someone you can't speak properly to, but I just could never seriously consider a man who didn't speak English or Spanish. I don't know any other languages. I can say five things in Arabic, and two of them are not exactly halal. :smile: How long would I have to wait for one of us to improve in the other's language, so we could have good communication of needs, wants and expectations, share jokes, and discuss our thoughts, concerns, passions, and maybe even the news?

Unless we're talking about a dick smaller than my thumb, I'm not sure there's a size that would prevent me from at least trying a guy out before deciding about the sex with him, if everything else was going well. In your case, you have misgivings about his size and longevity, AND you don't communicate well, AND you can't marry him because he is going to become more devout after marriage, he says.

I don't think he intends to marry you anyway, unless you have led him to believe you would be willing to convert. His religion forbids his taking a non-believing wife. I could be wrong though. Does he smoke? drink? eat pork? cheeseburgers? These are some indicators of his level of seriousness about practicing Islam. This is not to say you should never date any man who would not be willing to marry you later. However, if you are looking to date someone who would potentially become your husband, dating one that definitely will not is a waste of your time.

The absolute biggest deal-breaker, for me, would be that you do not communicate well together. If there is a language barrier between you, you should at least be able to have very strong non-verbal communication; you do not. It seems you had no idea he thought seeing him in private meant getting each other off, no idea when he was about to come, and he had no idea that you really just wanted to see a movie, and that you didn't want him rolling all over you and accidentally impregnating you with the jizz he carelessly spewed everywhere. To me, it just does not look good.
 

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I have to say that this thread is an example of how completely weird LPSG forums can get, flaming off into outer space. The girl wanted some advice. She began to get some. Then someone decides she is a troll. I can see no reason to believe that she is posing. The event is totally believable... but perhaps not to guys who never talk to women and never hear their crazy dating stories about experiences with weird guys. This one is tame.
Anyway, the thread is hijacked. Then it is hijacked again into a dispute about race relations in the UK, then textual analysis about her wording. More accusations of posing are thrown around. The girl just wanted to hear what other people had to say about a guy she dated... I gotta say, this kind of thing is internet at its worst.
 

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The girl did get a lot of advice from men and women here, she also got an insight into how different cultures and religions can effect relationships and how some times ends up in a disaster.

The thread didn't get hijacked on the contrary it got more interesting.
 

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Ohhhhhh. I TOTALLY misunderstood what you meant. I'm still not completely sure what you do mean, but at least now I'm clearer on what you do not mean. :redface:

You say he drenched your dress in his jizz. I still say he's an asshole for cumming on you without permission. You may disagree, but my experience just tells me it is better to drop dudes who are inconsiderate about sex, no matter what else they might be considerate about. In my experience, over time, they show that they are not considerate of very much, very often. In my experience, they can pretend to be nice for awhile, but eventually it all washes up on the shore.

I think it is very open minded of you to consider dating someone you can't speak properly to, but I just could never seriously consider a man who didn't speak English or Spanish. I don't know any other languages. I can say five things in Arabic, and two of them are not exactly halal. :smile: How long would I have to wait for one of us to improve in the other's language, so we could have good communication of needs, wants and expectations, share jokes, and discuss our thoughts, concerns, passions, and maybe even the news?

Unless we're talking about a dick smaller than my thumb, I'm not sure there's a size that would prevent me from at least trying a guy out before deciding about the sex with him, if everything else was going well. In your case, you have misgivings about his size and longevity, AND you don't communicate well, AND you can't marry him because he is going to become more devout after marriage, he says.

I don't think he intends to marry you anyway, unless you have led him to believe you would be willing to convert. His religion forbids his taking a non-believing wife. I could be wrong though. Does he smoke? drink? eat pork? cheeseburgers? These are some indicators of his level of seriousness about practicing Islam. This is not to say you should never date any man who would not be willing to marry you later. However, if you are looking to date someone who would potentially become your husband, dating one that definitely will not is a waste of your time.

The absolute biggest deal-breaker, for me, would be that you do not communicate well together. If there is a language barrier between you, you should at least be able to have very strong non-verbal communication; you do not. It seems you had no idea he thought seeing him in private meant getting each other off, no idea when he was about to come, and he had no idea that you really just wanted to see a movie, and that you didn't want him rolling all over you and accidentally impregnating you with the jizz he carelessly spewed everywhere. To me, it just does not look good.

AE.. This is the first time I quote a reply this long, I normally cut most of it out and just keep what is relevant to my reply but in this case I couldn't omit a word of your reply. Its so true, logical and realistic. ... xox
 

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Sooo, what's the problem? The fact that he's a muslim or that he has a small dick?
I really don't see what role religion has to play at all.. Sounds more like you are trying to find all his faults (if this religion is a fault for you) and try to find excuses to make yourself feel safer.

My suggestion, get a dildo and leave men be.

PS: To smartasses up there, I'm a muslim, when you say "Asian" you're talking about Japanese, Chinese etc etc (no offence intended). Muslims are mainly Arabs and what you're lookin at my album by now is a good around 8 inches Arabic dick.

Your 8" of Arabic dick is very nice. However, a man's body is not defined solely by his penis. A good body is also an asset, and perhaps you have one, but it is impossible to tell from the photos. Even more important is character.

Are Muslims mainly Arabs? There are a number of non-Arabic countries that have predominately Muslim populations.

Incidentally, I have known a number of Muslims and all of them were very reasonable people. Of course all religions have a few crazies and I doubt that Muslims are more likely to be crazy than are people of other religions. Actually, I'm more concerned about how people treat each other than I am with exactly what they believe.
 

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Oh and in Pakistan the national and official language is Urdu, not English. English is an officially recognised second language but it is by no means spoken or understood by all Pakistanis in Pakistan. In fact the reported prevalence of English as a spoken language in Pakistan (as a first or second language) is notoriously unreliable.

Get your facts straight eh?

Urdu is the national language but English is the official language in Pakistan..

From Wikipedia...

English (official language)

English is the official language, being widely used within the government, by the civil service and the officer ranks of the military. Pakistan's Constitution and laws are written in English. Nearly all schools, colleges and universities, use English as the medium of instruction. Amongst the more educated social circles of Pakistan, English is seen as the language of upward mobility and its use is becoming more prevalent in upper social circles often spoken alongside native Pakistani languages. Among countries that use English as an official language, Pakistan is the third most populous in the world.
 

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You see, even the ignorant dolfette - who can't remember the date of the 7/7 attacks (even though that's why we call them 7/7 - because that was the date, just like 9/11) - EVEN she knows who Nick Griffin is.

This is why I can't believe anyone isn't deeply suspicous at OP's sentiment that - "Oh, I didn't realise anyone was touchy over Islam, aprart from Americans".

Seriously guys. What do you have to do to get a fake profile banned round here?


Dude, you have some problems. Get some help.
 

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What many people don't understand is the interplay between religion and culture. Much behavior is influenced at least as much by culture as it is by religion.

Posters have stated that, in general, Islam does not respect either women or their rights. However, one can easily name countries which have a majority Christian population in which women and their rights are not respected. In some countries with a majority Christian population, a woman who is not with either her husband or a male relative is considered to be fair game for a sexual attack. On the other hand, there are many Muslims who would defend a woman from ill treatment.

During the first Persian Gulf war, I read the Koran to get a better understanding of the people who live in that region. Per the Koran, there is to be no sexual activity except within marriage; one can either agree or disagree with the dictates of the Koran. But in any case, if a Muslim behaves sexually towards a woman to whom he is not married, he is in violation of the Koran. Of course, it happens anyway, just as Christians often violate the dictates of the Bible and people of other religions do things which their religions do not permit.

Just as the behavior of Christians depends greatly on the culture of the country in which they live, the behavior of Muslims depends greatly on the culture of the country in which they live. The interplay of culture and religion is such that it can be difficult to know for sure which is the more important in determining behavior.

I lived for 10 years in a country in which about 10% of the population was Muslim and almost 50% of the population was Christian. I met one mixed couple; the husband was Muslim and the wife was Christian. They had children; the boys went to the mosque and the girls went to the church. That couple didn't find their religious differences to be a problem. Although mixed marriages like that would probably be impossible in Arabian countries, they do occur in some other countries. However, I would advise extreme caution for a non-Muslim woman who is considering marrying a Muslim man from an Arabian country. Some Arabian Muslims would treat a non-Muslim wife and her children very well, but some would not and, if a non-Muslim wife moved to an Arabian country with her Muslim husband, she could have no end of problems and even end up a prisoner in his house.
 

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So, been seeing this guy for a little while, only dates in public, although we've gotten more and more physical each time, and I agree to let him come over last night to watch a movie, and my intentions are to watch the movie since I found 5 films with foreign subtitles just for him. We sit down to watch the movie and he gets all over me, and it ends up literally that he is all over me, we're kissing and then I'm basically drenched in cum...
I go and change my dress.
I'm not in a good mood anyway but this kinda killed my mood further, which combined with the fact I finally confirmed his dick's kinda small didn't make me want to jump on him, plus I'm trying to communicate how I don't want him rubbing against me covered in cum when we barely speak the same language, and not coping well with the frustration...

I like this guy, and I like seeing him in public,he's very attractive and I like kissing him, but I already have doubts about the viability of a relationship due to such a huge cultural diff between us (he's muslim) and now the dick thing.

I'm not such a bitch that I want to ditch him right now over the size of his cock, but for me if the sex isn't going to work, it isn't going to work. So do I give it a go..because I don't believe I know everything and maybe he'll have some great moves? Or is it worse to sleep with him then maybe end it? He says after the first time he can go for ages, but do I really want to have to deal with that every time? Plus I'm having a really bad aversion to the smell of cum right now, that's not a good sign is it?

I guess I don't want him to feel bad about his size (he's a big guy stature wise too) and I'm not a complete cow, I'm just really confused. I find him attractive but arghhh I just can't even explain myself properly today. For the record I haven't had a real relationship(as in more than sex) in two years since my asshole ex left after a long and shitty10+yr relationship and I suspect I always hankered after a bigger dick than his, which is why I worry, I don't go around just recklessly hurting people-so this is why getting further involved also worries me.

Better to end it now rather than trying to make it work, when you know yourself its not going to work. Ok he might think your a bitch for the short term but in the end means you can both move on and find someone thats going to be better for you both. You dont have to tell him that his dick size is part of the reason your dumping him.
 

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I'm very surprised at seeing all the negative generalisations about muslims here. It's very discriminatory and bordering on hate-speech.

I would have thought the moderators would have intervened by now.

Nonsense... its nothing of the kind.

If a group of people call themselves muslims... They are generalizing themselves, just as much as those calling themselves christian.

I am sick of the PC hypocrisy where folks generalizing themselves get offended by others doing the same thing.

I made no value judgment of muslim cultures... I simply pointed out that they ARE different cultures... Just as Catholic Hispanics have a different cultural background than catholics born and raised in the US.

Sorry.. Honor Killings, as I pointed out, are not a tenet of Islam... but they ARE features of certain cultures that call THEMSELVES muslim, and who use the glorious Koran to justify those killings. ( just as some fundamentalist christians use the bible to justify murdering abortion doctors-- hey! you know what group NEVER condons murdering abortion doctors, or honor killings? People who call themselves Atheists. y'know... those generalizing themselves as not believing in delusional religious foolishness of any stripe )

In many Arab muslim cultures, women are treated in a manner, by the people and by their laws, that American and European cultures deem abusive, demeaning, and lacking in equality.

Sorry... but that is the facts... its not any more of a generalization than the LAWS in those countries... women, as a general group in Saudi Arabia, are forbidden from driving a car.


Saying that a western woman might find future trouble in a relationship with a man who may well hold these kind of beliefs is not prejudice...

Its prescience.
 
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