Confused....is my str8, married friend gay?

[EdWoody]

^^^ I only just caught your sig, Knockernail. Most ruling! Stand back, give a girl some room!

(although i'm pretty sure it's "egad!" not "edgar" - as in "oh my god")

 

[Countryguy63]

Hi Long,

In my opinion, you have a difficult delima here. Your friend is definitely bi (gay)-curious, and is throwing out bait for you. It's the ultimate fantasy for many guys.

I don't think I recall that you said anything about whether or not you are attracted to him, but I'm assuming that you are. We all know what your cock is hoping will happen, but make sure you get your brain and heart into this decision also. As long as he is married, it is cheating, both on his part, and yours, because you know he is. This coupled with the fact that you have been best friends for so long, makes this situation very risky in many aspects, most of which have been presented in previous posts. You also don't know how he is going to react, or at least feel if you two have any type of sex play.

I hope that you understand, I am not judging you at all. It's something that I have battled with for years, but on the other side.

Good Luck

 

[Knockernail]

^^^ I only just caught your sig, Knockernail. Most ruling! Stand back, give a girl some room!

(although i'm pretty sure it's "egad!" not "edgar" - as in "oh my god")

Yeeess! Dance girl, lemme see the booty-boom.

Thanks guy, i wasn´t sure of it. I´ve changed it.

Sorry for the off-topic, LongNThick.

 

[SilverSoldier]

Tell him if he wants you that you won't be reason for breaking up their marriage and that he's gotta figure out his sexuality first. It's not fair to the kids and wife for him to be playing around. Only brings too much pain.

And yes, you do know the answer. But he's got some stuff work through, and you would only wind up being a fling before all hell broke loose.

Be careful.

 

[playainda336]

Brokeback Mountain springs to mind on reading your post.

He's dropping way too many hints for him NOT to be.

 

[deleted104081]

I was in the same situation....albeit a shorter period of thime! My best mate was 100% straight with a gilfriend of 3 years! (she was georgous, clever and soo funny!they seemed so suited) We worked together orrigionally and is how we met. We'd speak everyday and go the pub permantly! But after

 

[deleted104081]

I was in the same situation....albeit a shorter period of thime! My best mate was 100% straight with a gilfriend of 3 years! (she was georgous, clever and soo funny!they seemed so suited) We worked together orrigionally and is how we met. We'd speak everyday and go the pub permantly! But the day after he split with his girlfriend, he explained he'd been getting feelings for me. We slept togather a few times, and he continued to cheat on his next 4 girlfriends. He also had a lot more male lovers than me at the time! He seemed to play on the confuesd straight gay thing, he used to be so very confident and wouldn't mind getting changed infront of me n would talk bout sex. Now 2 years on, we hardly speak. Its akward wen we see each other in the pub. We said this may happen, but we were prety sure, as we were such good friends, that it could never get akward. However it did, and i regret it.

You mate sounds like hes one of the many 'confused' bisexuals out there(not meaning an offence, i have plenty of friends who are bi n have no issue with it) I think you should probbaly ask him, n take him to get man sex wiv someone else. Plus if you slept with him you'd have the difficultty of his wife!! He wouldnt want to see you incase he 'cheated' again!

 

[nerd]

maybe he just wants you to admire him without having any sexual feelings for you, so don't end up being deluded, he might simply be an exhibitionist who loves having your attention

 

[huw ginnit]

Your best friend is wasting his life and going to hurt someone else into the bargain-his poor duped wife; is it helping your friendship

Fix him up, don't get personally involved. You must know someone who'll 'do' him, get it over with and then you can be there to advise him better after the event. If you do the fooling around his wife will hate, him, you and herself and probably think it's been going on a LOT longer- if he needs to get off with a fella, take him out, get him hooked up with a pre-arranged "stranger" and all's well that ends well. He get's to wag weinie with a another woody; it's all he needs at this stage- not the chance to fuck things up with his best friend, let's face it things between you will never be the same...

 

[dreamer20]

Our friendship has grown stronger, he now opens up more...
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11) He will “mess around” for instance I will be sitting and he will get behind me and push his dick into my back.

Best friends of 10 yrs...

He sounds like a fun guy. I wish someone like that lived near me.:wink:

 

[CUBE]

It is just my personal opinion, but I believe your bud is a provocateur! I believe he married because that is where he leans most strongly...however, being your best friend he delights in getting his jollies at your expense! I doubt seriously that he will ever follow through with his provocations. He is it seems a guy who delights in baiting, teasing, exhibiting himself and walking a tight rope on the edge of bisexuality. The only way you will ever understand him fully is to make an overt sexual move toward his body! Don't be surprised when he pretends as if you have misconstrued his intentions all along. A bud of mine was forced to leave Furman University under circumstances which parallel yours many years ago.... he took the bait and was repulsed and reported! .....I think I need to state that 50 years ago it was not good form to show your homosexuality in public places such as school or college...easy path to expulsion.

WELL STATED!!!!

 

[2322]

This thread is over 6 months old :welcome:

Excellent advice though!

 

[markw]

We met ten years ago in a dance company. <snip> We wrote many letters and spoke on the phone often <yawn, er i mean snip>

Thats it right there, yep he's a bender alright. You didn't need to write the rest of the post!

EDIT: Didn't even read past the first post. I've had it with this forum and the banaal postings.

 

[beltboy]

I say have a couple beers, turn on some porn, ask if if he minds if you service yourself, get into it deeply, and invite him to join.....he wants it, and you need to create an opportunity for him to act. keep us posted!