For the last year some friends and I were throwing around the idea of going to a strip club. We were all very into it talking about it from time to time. Well two days ago was my friend's 19th bday so we planned to go to this nude club where 18 is the age to get in. So talking with this friend he seemed into it, until about a week before when things really seemed certain that we were going. Then he started to back away from it, not saying so directly but making up some poor excuses. He ultimately decided to go to some girls "Sweet 16" party, rather than hang out with some of his older guy friends at a nude strip club where I offered to pay for everything he wanted. Needless to say me and my guy friends were pissed off and confused. We still ended up going without him since he bailed on us and it was a lot of fun. Then the bday boy starts telling us how he planned on going with other friends a week later. When that day came, he was "sick" and decided to stay home. He is 19 years old, in excellent shape (Took 2nd place at a novice bodybuilding contest), hasn't had a girlfriend since 8th grade which he blames on his strict Korean parents, even though he goes out drinking with some other friends quite often on weekdays. He is a virgin, and at least portrays a very straight attitude with the way he talks about girls, etc. I recently came out to him and some other close friends that I was a bisexual. Everyone but him was cool with it. It didn't bother him to the point where it hurt our friendship, but he was a lot more...questioning or disappointed, along those lines, rather than accepting and moving on with it. Now without even having gone to the strip club ever, he is claiming it is "a waste of time and money". Going ALL the time is a waste of money, thats my belief at least. But going for your first time with close friends on your bday and having fun, and getting paid for...definetly isn't a waste of time or money. So what is the deal with my friend? The thought has passed my mind that he might be a very closested homosexual or bisexual...but I really don't think he is, as much as it might explain his behavior. When trying to figure this out I kinda thought about the character Vito from Sopranos, how he acts like a tough guy who likes women and is afraid to show any homosexuality to the point where he gets hostile and homophobic. Its very possible I guess, but again I just don't think thats the case. Beside what I already mentioned, what else would cause him to act like this?