Alley Blue
Sexy Member
Originally posted by Pene_Negro_Grande+Jul 20 2005, 02:51 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Pene_Negro_Grande @ Jul 20 2005, 02:51 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-coolioc@Jul 20 2005, 12:50 AM
But PNG, for the moments of attraction with your guy friends you described, it seems to me like you repress these moments since they are "all in your head" as you guys dont want to act on them. You do consider this part of your sexuality and if the moments feel like ones you've had with women, it weirds you out. How are you sure that with other people that you are not good friends with, that you'll be so easily able to separate physical attraction from emotional attraction? (I hope I read your post right).
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I think I see what you are saying...Separating physical and emotional attraction is something I probably need therapy about (LOL)...I can go into any type of relationship and clearly separate this is only going to be about sex and nothing else...Granted I am not cold to the person and treat them w/the utmost respect but they will not be getting the emotional support they desire and I eventually cut it off...I have always been able to do it and I have lost a lot of girlfriends behind it...I not a emotional person at all and I know where I get it from - my mother...My mother and I a very similar in our emotions...My mother taught me to be a strong individual and not to count on anyone for anything including your own happiness...But she had to be that way in the time she grew up in being a minority growing up in really racial times and being married and divorced before she was 22...That is what I probably need therapy about - breaking that cycle (lol)...
You know I thought at first maybe I was repressing those feelings but it not really repression because I really don't see them in a sexual way anymore...One guy who I became good friends with, I admit I was attracted to when we first met but soon after hanging out with him the attraction just became friendship...Recently I think I posted that this guy told me he liked guys and girls and that I was the only person he ever told...I told him that I was attracted to men too and had hooked up w/some in the past, so don't worry about it...And it was clear that he liked me and looking at me for experimentation...I couldn't do it and didn't feel that attraction for men at the time...Now I think he is a little put off by me because he still tries to get me alone or want to come over at night but I can tell is nervous and disappointed because I do no return his feelings...
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[/b][/quote]PNG, I was wondering how do you know that your attraction to men is not just a passing thought and nothing more? Perhaps your only able to distinguish an unattractive man from a attractive man and nothing else, at least in regards to becoming sexual. Do you have one specific fantasy that you would like to experience with another guy?
I apologize if i'm asking to many private questions........I always do that when I see an interesting post......