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Dude - whilst some people are 100% straight, there's a whole world out there of people that are between that and being totally gay. At the end of the day one of the key questions is whether we as humans can ever really be totally sexually satisfied with having just one person?? Your wife might fulfill 90% of your needs but 10% would like either another girl or perhaps even secretly a guy. A guy might be happily married, but be 10% gay and as a one off might see his opportunity to fill a gap in his sexual needs.

Just go with the flow is my advice and dont judge any of these married guys until you really get to know their homelife situation,

Damian :biggrin1:

Thanks. So true!
 

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I have been hit on by married guys, and I have had straight guys by me more drinks than the chicks at bars. It's weird.

One straight guy came up to me, and told me "You are gorgeous." I looked at him, and was like "Thanks."

There are huge numbers of straight men who no matter if you give them a gallon of everclear, they will NEVER sleep with a gay or bi man, It just wouldn't happen, this site is different because "straight" men are a little more openminded. Those same straight men that wouldnt sleep with a gay man after drinks wouldn't be on this site.

I disagree. The guys on this site are more progressive. Burns1de is a prime example.
 

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I have been hit on by married guys, and I have had straight guys by me more drinks than the chicks at bars. It's weird.

One straight guy came up to me, and told me "You are gorgeous." I looked at him, and was like "Thanks."



I disagree. The guys on this site are more progressive. Burns1de is a prime example.


Thats what I said, "They are more open minded", as opposed to truely straight men who wouldnt come near this site, not to say that there arent truely straight men here but, I would question them, reread my post. I dont mean to burst your bubble but, these guys buying you drinks and flattering you are not straight if they are trying to pick you up.
 

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Thats what I said, "They are more open minded", as opposed to truely straight men who wouldnt come near this site, not to say that there arent truely straight men here but, I would question them, reread my post.

I don't know about that. I was lurking on this forum long before I joined and it has definitely changed flavor.

At one point in time if was far less about sexuality in general and literally a LARGE PENIS SUPPORT GROUP where men would primarily talk about where to find condoms, what techniques and positions facilitated sex with a large penis, problems with size queens, etc.

During that era, I am certain that there were more men that were 100% straight that came here because they really actually were desperate to find answers for their problems. Large Penis' can in fact cause problems with married relationships, performing safe sex, etc. I seem to remember before this site changed servers that there was a lot of talk about men's wives being diagnosed with Vaginismus and buying dilators that were significantly smaller than the man's penis, then after that it was revealed to the their psychologists, OB/GYN, or other provider the dimensions of the man's penis, which lead them to conclude that it was not really pathology but a need for more foreplay. Of course, this is all common knowledge now but it was earth shattering news back then.
 

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While I always make sure to take it with a grain of salt in certain situations, it's fun to have a topically straight guy hit on you.

I was at a house party with a friend and one of the other partygoer's boyfriend got pissy drunk and really started laying it on me. We were both wearing shorts, and he kept rubbing his hairy leg against mine He also kept flexing for me and asking me if I thought his muscles were big enough.

It was a little (read: alot) weird when he kept it going even after his girlfriend came to retrieve him. He ended up passing out in the grass in another person's yard. It was an experience, to say the least.
 

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I don't know about that. I was lurking on this forum long before I joined and it has definitely changed flavor.

At one point in time if was far less about sexuality in general and literally a LARGE PENIS SUPPORT GROUP where men would primarily talk about where to find condoms, what techniques and positions facilitated sex with a large penis, problems with size queens, etc.

During that era, I am certain that there were more men that were 100% straight that came here because they really actually were desperate to find answers for their problems. Large Penis' can cause problems with married relationships, performing safe sex, etc.


The majority of my buddys are straight and I dont mean almost straight, they are straight. Ive talked to them about this site and even showed it to one bud, they all said they wouldn't ever come to a site like this because they truely are straight. I real straight man would never entertain the thought of fucking a gay/bi man or letting a gay/bi man suck their cock, if they do, they are not straight.
 

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The majority of my buddys are straight and I dont mean almost straight, they are straight. Ive talked to them about this site and even showed it to one bud, they all said they wouldn't ever come to a site like this because they truely are straight. I real straight man would never entertain the thought of fucking a gay/bi man or letting a gay/bi man suck their cock, if they do, they are not straight.

You are right about the straight part because they are not going to want to look at naked men for entertainment, but a majority of your friends are probably not part of the population that have unusually large penis' and don't encounter the true logistical issues of having a large penis or they may have had other sources for answers. Really, to have a penis that is 6.5+ is somewhere in the 90 percentile for penis length.

Part of the reason this site changed focus while still keeping the "Sex with a Large Penis" section was because the true answers for these kinds of questions became so common that the site got stale. "Take it slow, give her some oral, stimulate her breasts, use lots of lube, try one then two fingers . . ."
 

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A gay friend of mine once told me that most straight guys are only a couple of drinks away from their first gay experience!

That's a saying that goes back many years and it's ridiculous. It's like saying most gay guys are couple of drinks away from having straight sex if the girl is really hot. Notice I didn't say their first straight experience, because a lot of gay men have already had that.

In my case, it more than a couple of drinks at a post-party my freshman year in college. Made the switch to being bi and never looked back.

You made a choice, and now you don't even need a drink.

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A guy might be happily married, but be 10% gay and as a one off might see his opportunity to fill a gap in his sexual needs.

Just go with the flow is my advice and dont judge any of these married guys until you really get to know their homelife situation,

It's never good to encourage cheating if the relationship is a monogamous one. I'm sure you wouldn't like a partner having sex behind your back.

I dont mean to burst your bubble but, these guys buying you drinks and flattering you are not straight if they are trying to pick you up.

:biggthumpup2:
 

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You are right about the straight part because they are not going to want to look at naked men for entertainment, but a majority of your friends are probably not part of the population that have unusually large penis' and don't encounter the true logistical issues of having a large penis. Really, to have a penis that is 6.5+ is somewhere in the 90 percentile for penis length.


With all due respect, what does the size of a guys cock have to do with him being straight?
 

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With all due respect, what does the size of a guys cock have to do with him being straight?

You're the one talking about straight guys.

Having a large penis has nothing to do with sexuality.

The reason large penis problems would arise among straight man in particular is because straight guys were less knowledgable about sexuality that gay men. Openly gay men have historically struggled to be far more informed and sexually liberated than straight men so they would talk about it among each other and share solutions.

Since you're the self-appoint guru on straightness, how often have you ever heard a 100% straight guy say to his buddy when he was sober, "I have a problem with my girlfriend taking my cock. Do you have any suggestions?" This doesn't happen.

However, I bet that if you ask an experienced gay guy about how to take a big cock they could give you a few suggestions including names of various helpful products and where to buy them.
 

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It seems to me that a lot of guys, once they get over the whole 'set in concrete' labelling of their sexuality and what they are 'supposed' to be, are a lote more open to sexual experiences with those of the same gender as it were. There is then no guilt or shame of having these feelings and so they are able to act on them without having to worry about being ridiculed or made the butt of joked because of it.
Also, when you look back at when the older generations grew up and being gay was not really known and thus no firm labels were attatched to male sexuality save for marraige and children, guys were more open to be sexual with other guys and not have their masculinity questioned if they did 'have a one off' with a bloke. It was just considered 'boys being boys' when in just the company of men and that it was for the most part natural and not the least bit threatening to their heterosexuality in the slightest.
 

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at one point i realized that i get hit on by married men. i couldn't understand it. for me it's black and white. gay, single, want to be with gay single guys.

then i woke up to the real world. there are bi guys and there are gay married guys (i suppose).

i don't hit on nor flirt with straight (str8) guys but still bewildered why str8 married guys hit on me.

worse, so clueless when it comes to being hit on. it takes a while to realize what's going on and then its too late. one married guy would always ask me about tube steak. did i like tube steak? i didn't know what he was talking about and told him that i had never heard of tube steak. he just laughed. later it hit me - tube steak = dick. that's why he kept laughing. someone else confirmed that is what he was talking about.

then another guy asking me to cook him breakfast. why would he ask me to cook him breakfast? it made no since for me to cook and bring a str8 coworker breakfast. a friend told me that meant that the guy wanted to have sex with me. i was like how did you get that from him asking me to cook him breakfast?

as you can see i'm a bit slow in the flirting area. duh! and still don't understand why str8 married men hit on me.

your thoughts?


Perhaps they knew you were gay and we're teasing you.
 

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To me it sounds like some of the guys might actually be taking the piss out of your gayness. It's sad but true that there are still some straight men around whose only way of accepting gay men is to take the mickey out of them.

Perhaps they knew you were gay and we're teasing you.
I think you're both right.Anyone who is suspected of being gay in a workplace full of straight guys will be a figure of fun to some of them.
They're the type of guys who would have beaten you up in high school for the same reason.
 

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as you can see i'm a bit slow in the flirting area. duh! and still don't understand why str8 married men hit on me.

your thoughts?

I'm not sure why this is happening to you either, choc55, but I would also be upset/offended if married men hit on me. Call me old-fashioned, but I don't want to be involved with facilitating adultery. Sleeping with a married man would go against my ethical beliefs and has the potentiality to inflict great emotional distress on the married man's wife or family.
 

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You are right about the straight part because they are not going to want to look at naked men for entertainment, but a majority of your friends are probably not part of the population that have unusually large penis' and don't encounter the true logistical issues of having a large penis or they may have had other sources for answers. Really, to have a penis that is 6.5+ is somewhere in the 90 percentile for penis length.

Part of the reason this site changed focus while still keeping the "Sex with a Large Penis" section was because the true answers for these kinds of questions became so common that the site got stale. "Take it slow, give her some oral, stimulate her breasts, use lots of lube, try one then two fingers . . ."



At any rate, Straight men do not have sex with gay/bi men. If they do they are no longer straight.
 

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I'm not sure why this is happening to you either, choc55, but I would also be upset/offended if married men hit on me. Call me old-fashioned, but I don't want to be involved with facilitating adultery. Sleeping with a married man would go against my ethical beliefs and has the potentiality to inflict great emotional distress on the married man's wife or family.

I wish more people thought like you, and didn't care about their own selfish needs. I'm sick of this "what they don't know won't hurt them" attitude. :bigok:
 

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At any rate, Straight men do not have sex with gay/bi men. If they do they are no longer straight.

Much like marriage and love are interrelated, one does not necessitate the other, though, ideally, they should. Sexuality and sex are similar.

If the quoted is true that it has to be true of gay men. I know several closeted gay athletes who have sex with women in order to keep their covers. I also know a few gay men who have had sex with women even after coming out.

Instead, I prefer to say straight men generally aren't attracted to other men and gay men generally aren't attracted to women. Sexual acts are good evidence of such attraction, but aren't necessarily accurate.

Sexuality isn't like a light switch. A guy doesn't turn gay or bi just because he's had a cock in his mouth, ass, or had his in another guy.

Basing sexuality purely on sex acts is just too simple for such a complex matter, IMO.
 

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I'm not sure why this is happening to you either, choc55, but I would also be upset/offended if married men hit on me. Call me old-fashioned, but I don't want to be involved with facilitating adultery. Sleeping with a married man would go against my ethical beliefs and has the potentiality to inflict great emotional distress on the married man's wife or family.

I agree with you 100%
 

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I think you're both right.Anyone who is suspected of being gay in a workplace full of straight guys will be a figure of fun to some of them.
They're the type of guys who would have beaten you up in high school for the same reason.

i gave that a thought about them teasing me. but the one that asked for breakfast always asked for me to make him breakfast when no one else was around and his voice changed, softer, and once he had a little bit too much to drink at a happy hour that we attended and later he started rubbing on my arm seductively. i came to the conclusion that he might not be totally str8.

and the tube steak guy. very suspect of not being totally str8. sure there are str8 guys that make fun of you to your face. but sometimes it is best to read between the lines. which i haven't learned to do.