Confusing times

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  1. quantumdick

    quantumdick New Member

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    Hey hello to everyone,

    I've been reading here for some time now and it has been a great opportunity to put things in perspective. Many of us have had some time in their life that they realized that they were bigger than average. My situation is no different. Recently I have come to the conclusion that 7.5x6 really is big. Not the largest of them all but like many of the people here I had only porn images to compare myself to. Having a fairly thick cock made me look average in my mind. Optically it had about the same shape as all the others. Slowly but surely I discovered that it really is big and started to put some pieces of the puzzle together. I don't want to bore you with my own, natural and naive insecurities but it was a very slow process for me.

    At first, I gave no thought to penis size in general. Until well through my puberty I could not care less. Being somewhat shy my girlfriends were usually inexperienced and for 80% a virgin. Until my 20's I only practiced the "art of lovemaking", not raw sex. Some girls did mention that it hurt sometimes even though the were very hot and wet. One even went to the doctor. It must have really hurt I guess. He of course said that she needed to relax and that if she was aroused enough the pain would go away.
    Needless to say it didn't. A few relationships later, being into Internet porn for some time I got confused. The cock in porn were about the same size and some were bigger. I figured I was about average. Until I noticed some of the girls say things like: "well, I cannot get it in my mouth because it's so big" and "we can't do that, you'll tear me apart". Conflicting thoughts of me being "only average" and the messages I got from girls that had seen more than a few cocks were confusing. Using condoms was a nightmare. They were just too f&ci%g tight. Quality of sex was going down as well as my dick some times. I didn't know what to believe and did some research on the topic. At about the same time I had a girl on the side that was quite the slut. She loved my cock and was the first one to tell it like it is. She said she loved my big cock and that she wasn't in love with me but basically with my cock. I didn't mind because I just loved to fuck her brains out every once in a while. She said that most guys were much smaller and that she loved/needed something this big. She also started joking around about it in public, making fun remarks that made it clear to her friends that I was big. At first that was quite awkward but after some time it became liberating and very very good for my self-confidence.
    This experience made me confident enough to out and take on about any women that I wanted without doubt in my mind about being adequate or not. I really have to thank her for that. Without this confidence-boost I would have never been able to conquer my current wife and keep her. She is sexually quite aggressive and easily bruises your ego. I am now strong enough to counter any bad remark from women in general. I just wish sometimes that I would have had this confidence a few years earlier...
    Anyway, to this day I have a great sex-life with my wife. However having kids reduces the frequency and she now complains sometimes about my size. It hurts because she is not "expanded" on a regular basis any more.

    The main reason I am here is to look for some tips & tricks on how to have successful sex with a bigger cock. Any advice on positions or techniques that reduce the risk of injury or pain?

    Anyway thanks to all other posters for the many stories and tips I have gathered so far! Keep up the good work!

    Tom.
     
  2. Pecker

    Pecker Retired Moderator
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    Hey, Tom, welcome.
     
  3. Mr. Snakey

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  4. B_GraphicMan

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    Welcome. I hope you find the tips you are looking for. I am new here too, and looking for the same thing.
     
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