connection between small penises and big breasts

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dmcrun: Hi all,
This is my first post here but have been a lurker for a few years. I am a straight male with a medium sized cock. My penis size varies A LOT. If I'm tired/cold/nervous/ or have just had sex I shrink down to what feels like a half inch, realistically prob about 1-1.5 inches. However, when I'm hard and really turned on and at my biggest I grow up to 6.75 inches. I'm probably one of very few guys that has had rumours going around about having a really small penis and having a big one.

Not so much now, but when I was younger I had trouble getting it up quite a few times with quite a few different girls. I'm pretty sure that it was because I got nervous and the alcohol probably didn 't help much either. So that is how the small rumours got started. I can remember specifically in high school when I finally fooled around with this girl that I'd had a crush on forever (very pretty, curvy DD breasts) I just couldn't get it up. IN retrospect I was just putting too much pressure on myself, but we fooled around several times 5-6 and I never got more than half way hard. One time she gave me a blow job for about 10 minutes and I never got over maybe 2 inches. Of course being so young she thought it was her fault and kept on asking me 'what's wrong?" "do i not turn you on?" and other questions like that, which of course just made it worse for me. I eventually had a GF in highschool so I got more confident with her and never had those problems with her, so I thought my troubles were over.

However, when I started college it was the same thing over again, 3 of the first 4 girls I fooled around with, I just couldn't get it up. To make matters worse the girl who I did get it up for admitted to me (after some prodding from me after a comment of hers that I found 'weird') that she had heard that I had a small one. Fortunetely for me my next 2 or 3 girls that I fooled around with, everything went well.

One girl, who is probably the most sexual girl that I've ever known (and in retrospect now, was a size queen) once asked me when she was drunk if she could see my penis. After a very drunk conversation she basically admitted to having a crush on me, but that she'd heard that I had a small unit. She said that after hearing that she pried abit with a few girls that she had known that I'd fooled around with (you have to understand that this girl is the most sexual and blunt girl I have ever met) and had heard very mixed reviews and just had to know the truth. I didn't end up showing it to her or fooling around with her (although I really wanted to) knowing that with all that pressure, chances are things wouldn't go well.

Fortunetely over the next few years things went well for me and I had few close female friends tell me that they had heard that Ihad a big one (i'm sure that these rumours helped me score a few extra girls over my college years). So this leads me to where I am now.

I've always had a thing for cute curvy girls with really big breasts and I often fantisize about beautiful girls seeing my penis at its smallest. There is something that really turns me on about seeing busty girls with smaller men. I love seing pictures like these:
http://www.lightningfree.com/13/klop66/JuliaMilesh.html
http://www.cumslutamateurs.com/shoot1/topporn.html
http://www.blondeblowjobs.com/gallery/gallery443/gallery003.html
http://bradys-ladies.com/free/daizie/gallery1.html
http://www.bustysx.com/series244/tgp22n.html
http://www.hot.ee/nastyfetishsex/gallery1.html
and videos like this:
http://www.xxxvideocollection.com/video344/chick26nice.html

But I'd like to see some guys with even smaller units taking on bigger curvy girls, if anybody has any links or pics please do post them.

Sorry, my intention was not to make this a pic request. Anyway, so although I am straight I really get off on seeing big breasted ladies with smaller men. Does anybody else share this fetish? Do you think that I am right in thinking that this fetish grew out of my early sex problems?

 

[benderten2001]

dmcrun, first --welcome to the forum as a "poster".
'Glad you've "joined in" now with us.

I can't personally "subscribe" to your particular fetish.
But, I see really nothing wrong with it as to what all this represents---at least in "in theory".

What it says to me (quite boldly) is that you are a normal, healthy male responding to "erotica".
This very much illustrates what seems to indeed be the case...men and women are "wired" differently....men respond better to "visual" stimulation while women are aroused (more) by the "sensual". There can be some variances on all this, but that's basically how we're made by our creator. There are obviously (very good) reasons for this and we are in no position (humbly speaking) to figure all this out for ourselves. Afterall, it's what has kept the human race going for ages and ages and it will continue just that way. We must accept it for what it appears to be--a plain 'ole fact of life. If the image of a small penis with a big-breasted woman "does it for you", then so be it. Conversely, there are other men around here who will favor just the opposite or--a combination of several different "visions or images". I don't see why you (or anyone else) should make such a big deal over it, personally. Don't let your current personal "tastes" persuade you that you're "different" or even strange or bizarre. You're really not.

I noticed your use of the term "straight" several times. --as if you feel some need here to defend your sexual identity with your fetish. No use to dwell on making that point. Being "turned on" by what you mention does not indicate your sexual orientation one way or another. So, you can "lighten up" on that part of it.

I think the fact that your best sexual experiences (with optimum arousal and erection size) occurred with well endowed women only helps steer you now (mentally) towards those reminders of other (similar) images / representations which (you think) will help encourage you for any future satisfying sexual arousal. Hence, sub-consciously perhaps, these are serving to help motivate and enhance arousal for you. That's understandable. too. In other words, your fetish CAN be explained for very logical reasons. With time, your inclinations for this particular kind of stimulus (favoring one "type" of woman over another) could change. Your "personal performance" may not be as directly-linked to a certain size--either way. I won't declare here that would necessarily be better, either. This is a highly individual matter dealing WITH YOU. You will figure all this out in time. Ideally, you already know that you should be seeking other attributes first and foremost in a woman beyond her endowments. --I'll stop with that remark.

Here's the real crux of the matter, though I feel:

I hope that you can overcome your lack of self confidence from being a "grower and not a shower". Your description of how others have "talked" and set up bad circumstances for you to "perform sexually" again illustrates the impact upon a man's fragile psyche and morale when it comes to his penis. It's difficult to totally dismiss from one's mind notions others perceive about you being "small". Try as he might, quite often, a man is adversely effected in mind AND body over size issues. You're living proof of that. THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of other men are, too. We read their stories here daily.

A woman who demeans a man over his size early-on in a relationship lacks for the kind of other (decent, respectable, and desirable) qualities and character that would make pursuing her at all a total waste of time.
You deserve MUCH better than that.

IMHO !

 

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woody: looks like someone is uncormfortable with their sexuality

I had the same problem, but I was gay, now, somehow i turned to bi, but i still prefer men over women

 

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dmcrun: Benderten, thanks for your input, it was obviously well thought out and although I don't agree with everything you said I appreciate your input.

Now, Woody's comment, on the other hand was obviously not thought out. I am not uncomfortable with my sexuality, I have thought it through because I did question my sexuality a few years ago when I realized that I like looking at other's penises. However, the looking is where it stops. Although I am turned on by seeing other penises (both huge and tiny) and I enjoy the thought of people seeing mine (strangers, both male and female) the thought of being intimate with a guy is a huge turn off for me.

 

[benderten2001]

[quote author=dmcrun link=board=meetgreet;num=1073950166;start=0#3 date=01/15/04 at 09:11:07]

"... I did question my sexuality a few years ago when I realized that I like looking at other's penises.  However, the looking is where it stops.  Although I am turned on by seeing other penises (both huge and tiny) and I enjoy the thought of people seeing mine (strangers, both male and female) the thought of being intimate with a guy is a huge turn off for me."

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We're drifting quite a bit away from the original question here!

But, what's in the above quote took real courage.

--A job well done, dmcrun.....VERY well expressed for many of us here...all ages.

If only we could get this "notion" DEEPLY engrained into us at a very early age---that it's okay to be curious of other men and how they're "fixed" comparatively speaking. This does NOT make a man "gay or bi" necessarily. A man's competitive nature, which is again, another one of those "wired-in" mental things--well, it's just how we men are. Fathers especially would do a great service for their sons when, as young boys (when they become more "sexually aware" of themselves and others); if they would just ease these young minds to realize guys quite often wonder and think about their bodies. In other words, don't allow the subject of male sexuality to become a matter to where the son starts to feel ashamed and subsequently carry with him (guilt and repression) all his life. Discuss "male issues" early-on (at the appropriate age, that is) and set the boy's mind free to move on in life.

We should NOT feel guilty about "speculating" how we might compare to other men in their sizes"; question our sexuality because of our thinking that way, nor should we allow this to become a (total) mental pre-occupation to where it starts threatening our emotional health and well-being.

 

[B_RoysToy]

Down-to-earth, reasonable and well stated as usual, benderten2001!

Luke