Originally posted by Krueger@Jul 7 2005, 11:58 AM
Well, naturally Christians are against gay marriage, because it's viewed as sinful. So we want to stop others from doing it just like we'd want to stop others from doing all kinds of sin (eg murder theft, etc).
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Krueger, thank you, this is exactly the type of post I was looking for. You must not read many of my posts, because attacking the person rather than the post is not my style. My response to your first point is this: If christians are against gay marriage, then they should not engage in gay marriage. Not every person in our pluralistic society has the same concept of what is and what is not sin. Why the compulsion to force others to ACT within the confines of their beliefs? Murder and theft are not the same, as they both involve the harming of another person.
For the fundamentalists who aren't Christian, gay marriage represents the breakdown of family values.
How so? It would seem to me that divorce is more of a breakdown of family values, than is allowing two people who love each other to marry.
Really, a lot of Christians think that gay people getting married wouldn't really be marriage anyway. Sure, the government would say they were, but seeing that two men or two women would be outside the Biblical definition of marriage, they would see it as little more than living together with a government approved title and tax differences.
I have no problem with persons of ANY faith deciding among themselves what is and is not acceptable as marriage. How can you, in good faith, defend this position in light of my 1st Amendment right to worship freely (as in, the way my faith defines it, not the way your faith defines it...)
The fundamentalist non-Christians would see it as marriage. They, like Christians, would also see it as a bad influence. They might not have issues with the PEOPLE (and Christians *should* have that "do not judge lest ye put yourselves above the law" kinda thing in mind [love the sinner hate the sin, etc]), but they see the act of marriage and the growing acceptance of gay lifestyles to be harmful to traditional family structure and most view it as a gateway to other things they view as indecent.
I still do not understand why anyone other than myself and my partner should have any vote in whether or not we are allowed to marry. Once again, I ask, is divorce not more harmful to the traditional family structure? Why no push for a constitutional amendment banning divorce? There are many things, even in many churches, that I view as "indecent." Does that give me a right to forbid ALL other people these things? Of course not. By the way, my "gay lifestyle" consists of waking up in the morning, haviing breakfast, going to work, coming home, having dinner, watching a little TV, and going to bed. Throw in a bit of housecleaning and taxpaying once in a while. How is that harmful to society at large?
Way back when the marriage of two men or especially of two women would be not only absurd, but reason to cause serious harm to the would-be fiancées. Yet it's acceptable(ish) now. So, by following logic, they fear that condemned acts today (eg pedophilia or bestiality) which exist but are extremely frowned upon to say the least will follow suit and become increasingly more accepted, causing the ethical breakdown of the country. So they think it's like extinguishing the ember, not waiting for the full fire to burn. And I guess I can see the logic there.
By the way, feel free to respond, but I beg, keep the hating to a minimum. The opposing side was requested after all, and I tried to keep my side without prejudice or malice.
The big difference I see here is that neither a child of minority age, nor an animal, can really be considered to be a "consenting adult." So if my beloved is a consenting adult, how does that affect anyone but the two of us? And "would-be fiancees"? That hints of arranged marriages, something most Americans find abhorrant. Besides, although you didn't say so explicitly, the tone and reasoning of your post would suggest that same-gender couples have nothing in common other than sex. My partner and I love, and care about, each other very deeply. We talk about how our day went, we discuss politics, we work in the yard together, we go shopping (and spend money, real, hard-earned, taxed, money, so I would argue that we actually help the economy and therefore are beneficial to society.)
I hope I followed your request in keeping the hating to a minimum. Please, do follow up on this. I'm just trying to follow the logic here.