Considering a giant dildo for the wifey (10-12 inches) and....

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how is your sex life now?? do you satisfy her now??. have you thought of using a penis extension or sleeve...something your cock fits inside of???

and have you tried PE to get bigger? most guys can gain an inch in both dimensions with a little time, patience and dedication.

I can certainly understand your concern. your wife falls "in love" with her new toy, and the only thing she needs you for is to stop off on the way home and get some more batteries.
 
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Uhm... I have some sizable toys, and while they're fun I rarely use them. By rarely, I mean maybe once every several months. Then again, I don't really consider myself a size queen either. On the occasions that I do bring them out to play, it takes a lot of effort to be able to handle 'em. Fun, but not something I feel like using regularly (my "go-to" toy is about the size of an average male).

I wouldn't necessarily go for a 10-12 inch toy. That's ridiculously large, quite frankly. Maybe try an 8" long one instead. Then again, she also may be a woman who likes girth more than length. Try asking her whether deeper or wider makes her feel more full, since you're wanting to do this for her pleasure. In any case, she's your wife. Even if she enjoys the hell out of a large toy, it won't make you obsolete as far as I can guess. A toy doesn't compare to sex with a living, breathing, warm human being.

As an aside, there isn't a single fucking thing wrong with using a toy on your partner. It certainly isn't something to be/feel "shameful" over. I'm assuming that was meant to say something along the lines of "I would feel ashamed if a partner wanted/used a toy".
 

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It sounds like she'd like a toy and a 6" dildo wouldn't spark anything significant. I understand why you would jump up in size as a first reaction (what board am I on again?) But I propose a different option.

Get that woman a vibrator. Women love vibrators! Size becomes less important to the equation, and you continue to provide a sensation inside her that is very different! No risk of becoming "irrelevant".
 

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The morning after I spent my first night at my new woman friend's bed, I saw her dildo and vibrator collection in one of her bedroom cupboards - about 5 or 6, and all really massive, enough to give any man an inferiority complex! Interestingly one was a double-ender. We got married a couple of years later and she's still got - and still uses - her sex toys.
 

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It sounds like she'd like a toy and a 6" dildo wouldn't spark anything significant. I understand why you would jump up in size as a first reaction (what board am I on again?) But I propose a different option.

Get that woman a vibrator. Women love vibrators! Size becomes less important to the equation, and you continue to provide a sensation inside her that is very different! No risk of becoming "irrelevant".


My wife hates vibrators. She prefers big thick dildos, but to each his or her own
 

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Your concern is probably invalid. I love to make my wife squirm with my cock and with toys- it's all good! BTW, I'd be surprised if yours can take 10". My wife can take only 6.5". Girth is far more important and she likes 7" on occasion.
 

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Well everyone, thought I'd provide an update to this situation:

Yesterday I surprised my wife, finally, with a curved, vibrating 'realistic' 8 inch dildo. As per her 'criteria' for the type of dildo she wanted, one of the 8 inchers was the only one that fit the bill. There were a few 9 inchers but they weren't vibrator dongs or curved, just straight and really thick. Of course there was a 14 inch 'Dick Rambone' one but that's a wee bit over the top lol.

Just before my wife joined me in the bedroom for the night, I had placed the dildo under the covers at the foot of the bed.... she had no idea it was there. I intended to introduce it during our lovemaking, but once we got going I never did( plus I wasn't sure exactly 'how' I was going to go about it). Well, last night I was really tired from a long work day and I came a bit earlier than I intended( whoops). The wifey was still horny so I figured, what the hell, while I'm in my refraction period now's the time.

So, while we were cuddling I casually reached for the dildo, turned the vibration on to the lowest setting, and gently placed it between her butt cheeks. Well she reacted 'ohhhhhhh a toy' with an uncontrollable giggle! Phew, introduction over, lets get to it.

She laid on her stomach and slowly started to insert it, giggling and moaning all the way. She admitted that it was odd for her to be doing this in front of me, felt like cheating. I said I can assure you it's not, and to relax. I told her that I'm having to wrap my mind around my wife using a large dildo in front of me and getting off on it, especially one considerably larger than me( that last part about the size I didn't mention, she'd seize up if I brought up the size disparity). I tried to make her feel as comfortable as possible by gently rubbing her back, light kissing, and telling her 'it's ok, let yourself go'. It was a night where we both had to let down our inhibitions.

At first, she wasn't taking the full length, a few inches were out in the cold. So I was thinking,hmmm maybe she can't take anything too deep. I'm able to insert 4 fingers and my thumb into her comfortably when aroused, so she can definitely take a 'thick' penis but that doesn't necessarily equate to taking a long one.

I grabbed the bottom of the dildo and starting slowly pushing it in more, trying to see what her 'limit' was. Nothing from her indicated that she couldn't take it, in fact her hips began to gyrate more and the moaning volume increased. 'Hmmmm' I'm thinking and then I heard that magical word 'deeper, deeper'. Wow, here we go!

I pushed it in, as far as it could go, all 8 inches. She was completely wet and in exxtasy at this point, and I was loving seeing my wife enjoy herself so much. Thrusting in and out while the dick was on medium vibrate, my wife just exploded into orgasm after a few INTENSE minutes. She was totally exhausted from the experience, and I with her. She just smiled, and let out a 'wow, thank you. Thank you. Thank you.' The night was a revelation for us both, she had to learn to let herself go and I had to get comfortable with watching my wife experience pleasure from another source. In fact I had no intention of actually doing the thrusting for her, I was going to completely leave it to her, but I wound up holding the penis and inserting it into her in a variety of ways, short and long strokes, kissing her groin gently while this huge penis was going in and out of my wife in my face. There were so many feelings happening for me( her too I'm sure) but at the end my wife was COMPLETELY satisfied, and I was happy for her. She told me to 'put your fingers down there'. WOW.....WOW. She was SOAKING wet and engorged, three of my fingers instantly slid in like nothing. At first she was like 'Now I want you'. I'm thinking to myself 'there's just no way she'd feel me now', but eventually she just drifted off to sleep while I rubbed her butt.

Anyways, I figured I'd give you guys the details, to bring things full circle. A few observations/ ideas from the experience:

1) She REALLY loved it once she let herself go. As stated above, this is possibly precarious as I don't want her to get too hooked. I'm curious as to how often she'll ask to use it in our lovemaking, but it's something I'd prefer to see occasionally. It's meant to be an enhancement, not a replacement( for me).

2) I'm curious as to what other toys for BOTH of us we can bring into the picture. I don't want this dildo to be the 'centerpiece' of our sessions, I'd prefer it to be one of several things we can use, sparingly so that it doesn't 1) become routine and 2) replace each other in the process.

3) On the whole 'what size to get her' thing, as I described above once we got going she took the whole 8 inches. Now, what her limit is I'm not sure but nothing indicated to me that she wasn't capable of taking more. With the entire dildo in her, I saw nothing but joy and pleasure, no pain, no discomfort. Perhaps over time, a larger size( I'm thinking 10" MAX) can be added.

4) Note to self: Do NOT enter my wife after she's used this. Holy crap she was so wet, I would have felt like a toothpick. I have to be strategic about this, perhaps use it in instances where I'm tired and I suggest to use the dildo while I lick her clit, or use it after I cum and if she still wants more. I don't think it would be good for her physically, or for my psyche, to try having sex with her right afterwards. If last night wan any indication, she becomes too wet and 'opens up' too much for sex to be enjoyable for both after using it.
 

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4) Note to self: Do NOT enter my wife after she's used this. Holy crap she was so wet, I would have felt like a toothpick. I have to be strategic about this, perhaps use it in instances where I'm tired and I suggest to use the dildo while I lick her clit, or use it after I cum and if she still wants more. I don't think it would be good for her physically, or for my psyche, to try having sex with her right afterwards. If last night wan any indication, she becomes too wet and 'opens up' too much for sex to be enjoyable for both after using it.

Sounds like a good time all around.

You'd be surprised how much your woman might like the sex when she is super wet and super open like this. Her vaginal nerves are basically providing a ton of pleasure, and while you might not be 'stretching' her, it can be great with a real, warm penis. Regardless of your dick size, you will be able to thrust a lot harder and deeper and you can basically go to town at this point. It may be a bit unnerving, but just be confident and have fun. You can turn her to positions where penetration is usually more difficult to get more 'friction'. Positions where her legs are closed are a lot of fun during these times. My favorite in this situation is on her stomach, legs closed, ass slightly in the air (you can use pillow to elevate her hips).
 

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Wifey likes her toys, and me. Often together.

Her favorites are the 8-inch realistic (nearly identical to my size and shape), the 12" double ended, and the slim 6" butt plug. What gets her off, and is a big part of our regular routine, is the powerful deep tissue massager. Have a massive O with that electric tool for starters (along with some well placed licking and fingering) and then she's ready for and requesting some deep penetration and stretching.

If I'm hard at this point, slip into her cunt or butt; but if I'm not fully stiff and ready, she eagerly takes the 8" realistic after lots of lube. Usually not all the way, but most of the way. Seeing her enjoy this stiff and hard aide for a few minutes usually is enough for me to get fully ready for insertion.

Sometimes when the realistic is in her cunt, I'll grease up her butt and provide some safe and private DP fun. She tells me it's especially intense for her being stretched this way with two big, thick cocks, and when we're face-to-face and the realistic is bumping up against my pubic bone providing her with intense, bumping thrusts that exactly match my thrusting into her tight butt... It's always good for her, plus it hits a note for me... We've tried the other way, where the 8" realistic is in her ass and I'm deep in her cunt, but she tells me that the toy is too hard, too cold, and would far rather have my slippery dick up her poop chute.

The way that we use the double-ender is before I am fully hard or after if I come early, slip that 12-incher into her cunt - and I can jack it, have her jack it, I can suck on it 69 style, or lube up and I sit on it. She squirted last time we did that sitting on it thing, only the second time I've witnessed her squirt. She takes about half of it's length usually, and to go past about 2/3 of the length inserted causes too much pressure for her.

My recommendation to the OP is to take your wife to the toy store, with the understanding that you will fund anything she wants to try. Let her pick. Last time we did this, I was surprised by wifey's addition to the cart: 1" anal beads on a string. Those have been some fun when we've used them, and she tells me that they are great when she's alone and taking care of her own immediate needs.
 

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4) Note to self: Do NOT enter my wife after she's used this. Holy crap she was so wet, I would have felt like a toothpick. I have to be strategic about this, perhaps use it in instances where I'm tired and I suggest to use the dildo while I lick her clit, or use it after I cum and if she still wants more. I don't think it would be good for her physically, or for my psyche, to try having sex with her right afterwards. If last night wan any indication, she becomes too wet and 'opens up' too much for sex to be enjoyable for both after using it.

This is where you are wrong.

We use big thick toys, I almost can fist her (fist to big), she loves being stretched. Stretching her, massive stimulation makes her squirt like a Sprinkler! But I dive right into that stretched out soaked pussy and pound the shit out of it with my 6.5 X 6.5 tool. And it tightens right up to the point you will wonder how you just shoved all that inside her!

And with mine, next morning after a big stretch work out, she is tight as a virgin

And after years of doing this, while she LOVES our stretching play, she still prefers fucking me to anything. While my cock cannot stretch like toys and fingers, she still gets off with the most emotional orgasms from fucking me.

Must be love!