Well everyone, thought I'd provide an update to this situation:
Yesterday I surprised my wife, finally, with a curved, vibrating 'realistic' 8 inch dildo. As per her 'criteria' for the type of dildo she wanted, one of the 8 inchers was the only one that fit the bill. There were a few 9 inchers but they weren't vibrator dongs or curved, just straight and really thick. Of course there was a 14 inch 'Dick Rambone' one but that's a wee bit over the top lol.
Just before my wife joined me in the bedroom for the night, I had placed the dildo under the covers at the foot of the bed.... she had no idea it was there. I intended to introduce it during our lovemaking, but once we got going I never did( plus I wasn't sure exactly 'how' I was going to go about it). Well, last night I was really tired from a long work day and I came a bit earlier than I intended( whoops). The wifey was still horny so I figured, what the hell, while I'm in my refraction period now's the time.
So, while we were cuddling I casually reached for the dildo, turned the vibration on to the lowest setting, and gently placed it between her butt cheeks. Well she reacted 'ohhhhhhh a toy' with an uncontrollable giggle! Phew, introduction over, lets get to it.
She laid on her stomach and slowly started to insert it, giggling and moaning all the way. She admitted that it was odd for her to be doing this in front of me, felt like cheating. I said I can assure you it's not, and to relax. I told her that I'm having to wrap my mind around my wife using a large dildo in front of me and getting off on it, especially one considerably larger than me( that last part about the size I didn't mention, she'd seize up if I brought up the size disparity). I tried to make her feel as comfortable as possible by gently rubbing her back, light kissing, and telling her 'it's ok, let yourself go'. It was a night where we both had to let down our inhibitions.
At first, she wasn't taking the full length, a few inches were out in the cold. So I was thinking,hmmm maybe she can't take anything too deep. I'm able to insert 4 fingers and my thumb into her comfortably when aroused, so she can definitely take a 'thick' penis but that doesn't necessarily equate to taking a long one.
I grabbed the bottom of the dildo and starting slowly pushing it in more, trying to see what her 'limit' was. Nothing from her indicated that she couldn't take it, in fact her hips began to gyrate more and the moaning volume increased. 'Hmmmm' I'm thinking and then I heard that magical word 'deeper, deeper'. Wow, here we go!
I pushed it in, as far as it could go, all 8 inches. She was completely wet and in exxtasy at this point, and I was loving seeing my wife enjoy herself so much. Thrusting in and out while the dick was on medium vibrate, my wife just exploded into orgasm after a few INTENSE minutes. She was totally exhausted from the experience, and I with her. She just smiled, and let out a 'wow, thank you. Thank you. Thank you.' The night was a revelation for us both, she had to learn to let herself go and I had to get comfortable with watching my wife experience pleasure from another source. In fact I had no intention of actually doing the thrusting for her, I was going to completely leave it to her, but I wound up holding the penis and inserting it into her in a variety of ways, short and long strokes, kissing her groin gently while this huge penis was going in and out of my wife in my face. There were so many feelings happening for me( her too I'm sure) but at the end my wife was COMPLETELY satisfied, and I was happy for her. She told me to 'put your fingers down there'. WOW.....WOW. She was SOAKING wet and engorged, three of my fingers instantly slid in like nothing. At first she was like 'Now I want you'. I'm thinking to myself 'there's just no way she'd feel me now', but eventually she just drifted off to sleep while I rubbed her butt.
Anyways, I figured I'd give you guys the details, to bring things full circle. A few observations/ ideas from the experience:
1) She REALLY loved it once she let herself go. As stated above, this is possibly precarious as I don't want her to get too hooked. I'm curious as to how often she'll ask to use it in our lovemaking, but it's something I'd prefer to see occasionally. It's meant to be an enhancement, not a replacement( for me).
2) I'm curious as to what other toys for BOTH of us we can bring into the picture. I don't want this dildo to be the 'centerpiece' of our sessions, I'd prefer it to be one of several things we can use, sparingly so that it doesn't 1) become routine and 2) replace each other in the process.
3) On the whole 'what size to get her' thing, as I described above once we got going she took the whole 8 inches. Now, what her limit is I'm not sure but nothing indicated to me that she wasn't capable of taking more. With the entire dildo in her, I saw nothing but joy and pleasure, no pain, no discomfort. Perhaps over time, a larger size( I'm thinking 10" MAX) can be added.
4) Note to self: Do NOT enter my wife after she's used this. Holy crap she was so wet, I would have felt like a toothpick. I have to be strategic about this, perhaps use it in instances where I'm tired and I suggest to use the dildo while I lick her clit, or use it after I cum and if she still wants more. I don't think it would be good for her physically, or for my psyche, to try having sex with her right afterwards. If last night wan any indication, she becomes too wet and 'opens up' too much for sex to be enjoyable for both after using it.