Considering anal for the first time

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Hi guys,

Not sure if there are threads like this yet but when I search, all the threads about anal sex are about guys who have vast experiences in it already.

But I'm 27 and still anally virgin. I've been rejected multiple times for not practicing anal sex (which frankly scares me). So I was thinking, perhaps I should try to make a bit of an attitude adjustment when it comes to anal sex.

So, what should I consider before my first? How big should it be to make it less painful? Any tips? Any tips at all?
 

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If it doesn't interest you, don't do it. It may make it harder to meet people, but 27 is not the age to settle. Fifty-seven, maybe. But not 27.

If you genuinely want to expand your horizons, then go for it. I would suggest you find someone you're interested in and forget about size. After that, use lots of lube (probably way more than you think you should need), try different positions to see what's most comfortable for you, and go sloooooow (probably slower than you think you should go).

Good luck, either way!
 

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If it doesn't interest you, don't do it. It may make it harder to meet people, but 27 is not the age to settle. Fifty-seven, maybe. But not 27.

If you genuinely want to expand your horizons, then go for it. I would suggest you find someone you're interested in and forget about size. After that, use lots of lube (probably way more than you think you should need), try different positions to see what's most comfortable for you, and go sloooooow (probably slower than you think you should go).

Good luck, either way!

Thank you erratic. It honestly doesn't interest me but I feel like I'm being selfish when I turn down my sexual partner's (any guy that I met) request to have anal sex.

Maybe this requires a first-time experience then I'd know what to do.

I'd definitely use more lubes and go slower, thank you.
 

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My advice:

If you want to really please a partner be ready to give him a fuck. In other words be ready to accept his cock, rather be practiced up or you won't be able to give him your hole.

Buy a slim cock dildo and very slowly break your hole in. It will hurt at first but you control the pain. You can do it if you want to. Otherwise he most likely won't be able to fuck you without excruciating pain. Take it slow with the dildo. It will work.

Use an enema before anal, nothing is worse than fucking shit. Getting really clean is easy, do it.
 

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My advice:

If you want to really please a partner be ready to give him a fuck. In other words be ready to accept his cock, rather be practiced up or you won't be able to give him your hole.

Buy a slim cock dildo and very slowly break your hole in. It will hurt at first but you control the pain. You can do it if you want to. Otherwise he most likely won't be able to fuck you without excruciating pain. Take it slow with the dildo. It will work.

Use an enema before anal, nothing is worse than fucking shit. Getting really clean is easy, do it.

"Use an enema"? Perhaps it's the anally virgin of me, but how is that?
 

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I'm a big, big fan of anal and think you're missing out. That said - if it's something you've never developed an interest in doing - I'd put it on the list of things to try when someone special comes along. Practically speaking, also, it will be easier for you with someone you care about more than a random hook-up, you'll be much more likely to relax and thus enjoy it.

You might think about topping someone first, too.
 

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I'm a big, big fan of anal and think you're missing out. That said - if it's something you've never developed an interest in doing - I'd put it on the list of things to try when someone special comes along. Practically speaking, also, it will be easier for you with someone you care about more than a random hook-up, you'll be much more likely to relax and thus enjoy it.

You might think about topping someone first, too.

I can't. My dick's curvy. :frown1:
 

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Oh! Well I wouldn't write it off, still. Don't know what degree of curve you're dealing with, but I'd guess there are methods to work with.
 
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I agree with dong-in-khakis: first practise with a dildo, not too big, to get used to the feeling and to find a comfortable position. And don't forget rule number one: plenty of lube! Enjoy!
 

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I agree with dong-in-khakis: first practise with a dildo, not too big, to get used to the feeling and to find a comfortable position. And don't forget rule number one: plenty of lube! Enjoy!

Sound advice Master
 

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i agree with the above poster's advice who said: "if you really aren't interested in anal, don't do it".....

i have never tried anal, and will not ever try anal.... i've experienced the rejection, the stigma, the name calling, and being told that i'm not really gay unless i have anal by all kinds of people under the sun.... and even had to deal with the stigma from the non-gay world when i tell them i'm gay and they assume i take it up the ass and make jokes about it.... (i must admit it's kind of satisfying when i put them in their place and watch them blush and squirm because they just realized how ignorant they are....)

all the other posters here are trying to coax and coach you in to doing this, and i personally could not care less if you try it or not.... but if you do, make sure it's because you want to and not because you're succumbing to peer pressure.... 27 might be young, but it's older than a high school student so don't play in to the high school games.... it's games like that which cause people to do things they regret, or put them in to extremely vulnerable (if not dangerous) situations....

rise above the pressure, be who you are, and do what makes you happy....
 
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i have never tried anal, and will not ever try anal.... i've experienced the rejection, the stigma, the name calling, and being told that i'm not really gay unless i have anal by all kinds of people under the sun.... and even had to deal with the stigma from the non-gay world when i tell them i'm gay and they assume i take it up the ass and make jokes about it.... (i must admit it's kind of satisfying when i put them in their place and watch them blush and squirm because they just realized how ignorant they are....)

Wow, I had no clue how big of a deal it is. :frown1:
 

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I mean, I think anal can be really awesome, but I understand others not being into it, and I definitely don't think that they should be treated that way.
 

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i agree with the above poster's advice who said: "if you really aren't interested in anal, don't do it".....

i have never tried anal, and will not ever try anal.... i've experienced the rejection, the stigma, the name calling, and being told that i'm not really gay unless i have anal by all kinds of people under the sun.... and even had to deal with the stigma from the non-gay world when i tell them i'm gay and they assume i take it up the ass and make jokes about it.... (i must admit it's kind of satisfying when i put them in their place and watch them blush and squirm because they just realized how ignorant they are....)

all the other posters here are trying to coax and coach you in to doing this, and i personally could not care less if you try it or not.... but if you do, make sure it's because you want to and not because you're succumbing to peer pressure.... 27 might be young, but it's older than a high school student so don't play in to the high school games.... it's games like that which cause people to do things they regret, or put them in to extremely vulnerable (if not dangerous) situations....

rise above the pressure, be who you are, and do what makes you happy....

Wow, thank you! Seriously. Since I posted this thread, I still go back and forth about doing it. But now I think I just wait for the right person, I mean, look at you, 34 and still haven't done it.
 

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I agree, it isn't for everyone. And if you don't want to, don't.

But speaking personally taking a cock for the first time was phenomenal. All those pent up years of frustration were eliminated at once: I truely felt 'whole' for the first time.

And I wouldn't worry about size (my first one was a good thick 7.5), it's all about lube and angles.

Good luck, let us know how you get on...