Constantly in the Mood?

[invisibleman]

Like cougarblue, I have an extremely high sex drive - it's stronger now than when I was 20. Don't have my guy, but if I did, I'd never let him out of bed. Think about it, dream about it, want it, miss it. Always.

Celibate for 4 1/2 years because I can't have sex without love, am not a slut, but I'm horny as the dickens all the time.

If you have a high sex drive...you aren't wanting to have sex without love because you don't want to appear like a slut? Woman, you shouldn't give a crushed pube about what people think that you are! Get you some fucking dick in that pussy. (Use protection-- of course.) Get you some dick! If you want unconditional love, get a puppy.

I know that you haven't had the right man. Fooling around with those religious guys. What is wrong with getting dolled up and sexy? Going out and getting some good dick? Hire a male escort? Get some training dicks?

 

[B_New End]

IMHO, sex is best if it is done only a few times a week. When those times happen, they are very good. I only had sex probably 1,000 times in 6 years, and almost every single time was very good. Not having sex gives you time to fantasize, and to plot your seduction.

If you have it 2 or 3 times a day... I don't even see how that could be good, honestly. I would hate it.

Worse, a relationships that starts out at that 4 or 5 times a day thing usually cool then go completely frigid.

You also simply risk pissing off your GF. Don't be a glutton.

 

[a_uncensored]

Well I am not a cougar, apparently I am a Puma cause I am in my 30's. In my teens & twenties my BF (now husband) was insatiable. We were like bunnies all the time and I could have cared less.

But now his sex drive is down and mine is on constant on...

I do believe it has a lot to do with age and health plus self esteem as well. Personally I am tired of initiating and hinting.

He knows he isn't satisfying me and has told me flat out to seek it elsewhere but come home to him ... I haven't yet but ...

If I were satisfied, I certainly wouldn't have time to be here on LPSG, nor would I have posted a personal ad on here.

Some people's sex drives are just not in sync - I guess all you can do is communicate your feelings to your GF and then lube up that hand Hun.

 

[D_dtgt65rg]

I have had the similar experiences with guys. my current boyfriend never initiates, except one time he said, "we're going to fuck like rabbits." afterward." afterward, i want to fuck five or six more times. idk what's the problem. i'm the bottom in the relationship and love sucking a him off. he's 9 inches and never asks me to suck him off because I'm all over it all the time, even throughout the evening while he's asleep. I guess we're weird.

 

[whatireallywant]

If you have a high sex drive...you aren't wanting to have sex without love because you don't want to appear like a slut? Woman, you shouldn't give a crushed pube about what people think that you are! Get you some fucking dick in that pussy. (Use protection-- of course.) Get you some dick! If you want unconditional love, get a puppy.

I know that you haven't had the right man. Fooling around with those religious guys. What is wrong with getting dolled up and sexy? Going out and getting some good dick? Hire a male escort? Get some training dicks?

I was thinking something like this too, however, if she doesn't feel right having sex without love, she shouldn't do something she doesn't feel right doing. However, if I want to have casual sex (yes, please! :biggrin1, I should be able to do that without being referred to as a slut. However, if she's simply afraid that other people will consider her a slut if she has casual sex, maybe she should do what I do when I have casual sex - look online and don't tell anyone! I mean, the people around you can't call you a slut if they don't know, now can they?

Well I am not a cougar, apparently I am a Puma cause I am in my 30's. In my teens & twenties my BF (now husband) was insatiable. We were like bunnies all the time and I could have cared less.

But now his sex drive is down and mine is on constant on...

I do believe it has a lot to do with age and health plus self esteem as well. Personally I am tired of initiating and hinting.

He knows he isn't satisfying me and has told me flat out to seek it elsewhere but come home to him ... I haven't yet but ...

If I were satisfied, I certainly wouldn't have time to be here on LPSG, nor would I have posted a personal ad on here.

Some people's sex drives are just not in sync - I guess all you can do is communicate your feelings to your GF and then lube up that hand Hun.

I had that problem too - actually, with my LTR, we started out having sex maybe twice a week at first, which wasn't enough for me but was pretty much all he could do, although we occasionally were able to have sex more often, but then his health problems got worse and worse, and now we make attempts when we see each other maybe twice a year (we only see each other that often because we live several states apart and we're both broke!), but even with ED medications he is unable to, these past few times. I really feel bad for him and sometimes feel guilty for being frustrated - hopefully they can find some medications that work better for men in his situation than the ones they have now. He has also said to "look elsewhere but come home to me" - and I have done so! However, he also realizes that I may find someone else that I will want to have a more serious relationship with. It will hurt, but sometimes people simply drift apart. I'm open to everything ranging from a one-night stand to marriage! It just depends on who I'm with and how well we click.

 

[Fire Agate]

im always in the mood for some reason aswell

 

[Fire Agate]

and no i dont think theres anything wrong with you

 

[invisibleman]

If you have a high sex drive...you aren't wanting to have sex without love because you don't want to appear like a slut? Woman, you shouldn't give a crushed pube about what people think that you are! Get you some fucking dick in that pussy. (Use protection-- of course.) Get you some dick! If you want unconditional love, get a puppy.

I know that you haven't had the right man. Fooling around with those religious guys. What is wrong with getting dolled up and sexy? Going out and getting some good dick? Hire a male escort? Get some training dicks?

I was thinking something like this too, however, if she doesn't feel right having sex without love, she shouldn't do something she doesn't feel right doing.

But that is understandable. She doesn't have to do that. But she may have to deal with not getting dick. Can she deal with other women fucking the men she would be fucking if she didn't put such an emphasis on getting love from some man with a big dick to satiate a romantic notion? She says she has a high sex drive, right? There are men out there wanting some good pussy, right? I even bet there are a few men out there in her local area just itching to move a couch in her vagina but decide not to because men get the hint that she wants a committed thing. She wants love. But I don't think that the men want a commitment. That is the quandary. But that is a quandary people get sometimes in life.

Quandaries aren't limited to gurlfriend though. I have dilemmas and quandaries as well. I am a gay man. Horny as heck. But I seem to attract the wrong men. Like married straight guys who don't tell their wives that they are bisexual. Or Mormon elders. I also attract straight women at church. It doesn't help telling them that I am gay.

However, if I want to have casual sex (yes, please! :biggrin1, I should be able to do that without being referred to as a slut.

Well, people will say the darnedest things to control your behavior. Thank them for their assessment. And make a mental note never to have sex with men who can call you a slut.

However, if she's simply afraid that other people will consider her a slut if she has casual sex...

Well, she doesn't have to be around those people. Christians are notorious cockblockers. They will say anything to control your behavior. Can you imagine men calling each other "sluts"? Those beyotches would be having a good laugh before bible study. But have a church lady or a man call a woman a slut...or imply it...and it is a "hands-on healing" asswhuppin' in the church parking lot.

, maybe she should do what I do when I have casual sex - look online and don't tell anyone! I mean, the people around you can't call you a slut if they don't know, now can they?

Ted Haggard did that. Look at what happened to him. :biggrin1:

 

[B_hungdane]

I am also always in the mood, so I am happy that my wife also has a very large sex drive. Only when she get to stressed from work or other stuff she gets too tired to have sex as often as she like. For long periods we have had sex at least once a day. More often it was 2 times. She tells me that she likes very much the feeling of having me inside her.

The problem for us is that she starts to get pain if we have too much sex or if i go on for too long, which I normally do. Do any other of you girls out there also experience pain after longer time sex with a thick cock like mine? Any suggestions of what to do? We already use a lubricant!

 

[whatireallywant]

Ted Haggard did that. Look at what happened to him. :biggrin1:

Well, I think the difference there is that Ted Haggard is well-known and shown to be a hypocrite. Me, I'm not famous in the least, and have absolutely no desire to be. I know there is a small chance that people in my day to day life could find out about my looking online, but I'm not so sure they'd really care if they didn't see me acting it out too much, like if they saw me at a bar picking someone up or something (which I think there's nothing wrong with doing, BTW...). Plus I don't go around preaching "purity" (which I think that whole abstinence=purity thing is ridiculous!).

This gets into something that happened one time I went to a bar with a couple of other people. One of the women from a group I used to be in saw another woman we'd been talking to chatting it up with a guy from the bar and they were getting rather cozy. The woman from the group was passing all this judgment saying stuff like "She just met him!" (makes me think, what if she'd seen some of the stuff I'd done! ) I didn't say anything one way or the other, but my opinion is that it's her life and it's none of my business what she does! I don't care if anyone picks up someone in a bar that they'd just met - it's no biggie to me (My only concern in a situation like that would be my physical safety, not this whole "She doesn't even know him!" thing. I mean, you can wind up in physical danger from someone you've been involved with for a long time, and even someone you're married to. You just have to try to weed those out if you can. You may not be able to weed them out 100% of the time, but living in fear of that is no way to live, either. I've been fortunate in that I've been in no real danger or seriously abused or anything.)

 

[invisibleman]

Ted Haggard did that. Look at what happened to him. :biggrin1:

Well, I think the difference there is that Ted Haggard is well-known and shown to be a hypocrite. Me, I'm not famous in the least, and have absolutely no desire to be. I know there is a small chance that people in my day to day life could find out about my looking online, but I'm not so sure they'd really care if they didn't see me acting it out too much, like if they saw me at a bar picking someone up or something (which I think there's nothing wrong with doing, BTW...). Plus I don't go around preaching "purity" (which I think that whole abstinence=purity thing is ridiculous!).

Ted Haggard wasn't a good example (and you aren't like him at all). I just used him (not in a Mike Jones way...:wink: but )as an example of a man getting into trouble for being so "down low". If he weren't married and involved in a strict Christian surrounding...he wouldn't be so busted up as a man.

This gets into something that happened one time I went to a bar with a couple of other people. One of the women from a group I used to be in saw another woman we'd been talking to chatting it up with a guy from the bar and they were getting rather cozy. The woman from the group was passing all this judgment saying stuff like "She just met him!" (makes me think, what if she'd seen some of the stuff I'd done! ) I didn't say anything one way or the other, but my opinion is that it's her life and it's none of my business what she does! I don't care if anyone picks up someone in a bar that they'd just met - it's no biggie to me (My only concern in a situation like that would be my physical safety, not this whole "She doesn't even know him!" thing. I mean, you can wind up in physical danger from someone you've been involved with for a long time, and even someone you're married to. You just have to try to weed those out if you can. You may not be able to weed them out 100% of the time, but living in fear of that is no way to live, either. I've been fortunate in that I've been in no real danger or seriously abused or anything.)

Well, I wouldn't want any harm to happen to anyone while dating or hooking up. I wouldn't care who hooked up with who. And your friend probably was envious that a woman was that smooth of an operator to met a guy that quick.

 

[whatireallywant]

Well, I wouldn't want any harm to happen to anyone while dating or hooking up. I wouldn't care who hooked up with who. And your friend probably was envious that a woman was that smooth of an operator to met a guy that quick.

True, and the thing is, harm can come from anything from a random hookup with a stranger to the person you are married to. I've been fortunate, and part of that is that I guess I can sort of tell what kind of person someone is right away, at least about that kind of thing. I don't claim to be 100% accurate, but I've been fortunate so far, and the people who have given me the creeps usually do so for good reason. I had one friend way back a long time ago, that every guy I knew of that she dated gave me the creeps. But she went for more of the "bad boy" type and I don't.

Haha... could be that the woman was envious that the other woman met him that quickly. Thing is, she passed no judgment on the guy, just the woman... Ugh, I hate double standards! I encountered a bit of that myself when I was in college, and I didn't even do anything more with the guy than kissing! But then, I went to college with a bunch of prudes. :biggrin1:

The thing with my looking online, I'm not being sneaky for the sake of being sneaky. I just figure that for the people I interact with on a day to day basis, it's none of their business. But then, I hide my political views from most people I know out of fear of hostility, too, so go figure. And while I do look online sometimes, often it doesn't pan out.

And the thing is, it's not necessarily a casual sex vs. serious relationship thing, that a person is looking for one or the other but not open to both. I am open to both possibilities, depending on who I meet and where we both are with our lives, how well we click, and all that.