Controlling when you cum
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I have practiced this pretty much by edging and then holding back just before I feel the orgasm coming. There is also a trick to squeeze the head really hard when you get too close. It helps against the cum pumping reflex.
I just think it mostly has to do with learning to listen to your body and how it responds. And knowing when to stop. I have come to a "skill" where I can release some cum and precum fluids without actually orgasm. Feels great.
But I still miss the signs and reach the point of no return too late.
I just think it mostly has to do with learning to listen to your body and how it responds. And knowing when to stop. I have come to a "skill" where I can release some cum and precum fluids without actually orgasm. Feels great.
But I still miss the signs and reach the point of no return too late.
If you strengthen your kegel muscles, you can stop cumming like stopping piss 
Reverse kegel allows for cum to leak out without orgasm.
At least for me!
They make kegel exercise phone apps to help keep you on a practice schedule
Reverse kegel allows for cum to leak out without orgasm.
At least for me!
They make kegel exercise phone apps to help keep you on a practice schedule
Not with any precision. I recognize the sensations of stimulation that will bring me to orgasm rather quickly, and change to other stimulation that is less effective. Sometimes I can stop an orgasm just before the point-of-no-return by stopping all motion, tensing my body in general, and clamping down with my Kegel muscles. But after doing that - especially if I do it more than once in a session - my orgasm is less intense and less satisfying when it finally DOES happen.
(And sometimes, if my wife senses that I am fighting against orgasm, she will frustrate me by doing something (stroke my balls, Kegel squeeze, stroke with her pussy, etc) that triggers my orgasm.)
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Doing kegel exercises helps with this greatly. I've been doing them for years and can stop myself from cumming. A good way to start working these muscles is to stop yourself urinating while mid-stream.
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Several things for me, I think:
- Kegels
- Getting to know the signs that I'm approaching the point when I'll need to cum and changing the stimulation (edging is an example of this, I guess, but it can be done during sex too)
- Practice (happily the practice is fun)
Been practicing edging with breathing for the past 25 years. Whether solo or having sex, works for me. I can last most of the time as long as I want before deciding to unload.
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I can control how long I last by
1. not squeezing my glutes (butt muscles) together strongly while thrusting
2. which reduces how much I flex my lower back while thrusting which also helps
3. using other parts of my body like legs and arms to create whole body thrusting movements or move a partner
4. moving less which may cause a partner to move more spontaneously... and makes it hotter for them, too
5. using gravity to create thrusts
Then there's the old reliable: lying unmoving on my back while a partner buck buck bucks to their heart's content.
1. not squeezing my glutes (butt muscles) together strongly while thrusting
2. which reduces how much I flex my lower back while thrusting which also helps
3. using other parts of my body like legs and arms to create whole body thrusting movements or move a partner
4. moving less which may cause a partner to move more spontaneously... and makes it hotter for them, too
5. using gravity to create thrusts
Then there's the old reliable: lying unmoving on my back while a partner buck buck bucks to their heart's content.
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My fave thing! Wife puts a dildo in my butt and starts sucking me. The combination of the two brings me to multiple orgasms (or so I call them). Just before I'm ready to cum, she stopping sucking and only massages me with the dildo. I start to flow a trail of precum. Then it stops. Then she strokes or rubs me more. Then she stops and just works that toy on my P-spot again. I cum a little bit... then stop... This goes on until I do the final thrust. The amazing thing there is this orgasm is so intense and drawn out yet with little or no cum left after the previous "mini" cums! I used to do this by myself. Then I showed the wife how!
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Squeeze legs together while having sex?I can control it. It works about 90% of the time. I learned it by myself because the actual goal was not to clean up the whole mess every time
pretty much the same with me years ago when we were younger. I got great pleasure in watching her, pleasing her with my big cock. and I would just stay in that moment. she was very beautiful. well stacked/proportioned, big breasted (DD natrl), long brunette hair. great ass and legs. It couldn't get any better and we fucked a lot, several times a day.
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This can work. In fact, if you watch a professional pin actor thrusting, he often uses his whole body to make the thrusts rather than his gluteus and pelvis.
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