Coping without sex

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  1. zaza

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    I have recently split from my boyfriend, i`m OK but still a bit raw, and its over for good.

    I`ve lots of supportive people around me so thats OK, but to get straight to the point i`m starting to miss sex. Lets face it however good solo sex is its nowhere near as good as a bit of mutual masturbation. Its much easier to push my own"right butons" with a cock in the other hand!

    Any tips(serious and light hearted) greatly appreciated.
     
  2. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    A good vibrator and dildo and masturbating at least once a day. thats how im coping :wink:
     
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    same here! been nearly 2 years for me...:rolleyes:
     
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    Im still with my girlfriend and I'm going through withdraw. I gotten to the point where Ive accepted solo work as a daily exercise and any thing else is an added bonus. I have friends who will justify a random dude tho by saying crap like I really like him or trying to see him more often. I figure if you're in for it for just the sex with some single dude to get the job done just do it be discrete (if you feel needs to justifiy to friends) and move on use it as a tool to help move on. My on friend had a horible boyfriend started hanging with this other loser and we convinced her the bf was a loser she broke it of and did the new loser the next day. We figured she just needed a way to keep the other door locked but no now shes justfied it saying she sees him in the future(nothing about the new guy is good or working) so now shes put him permantly in her life to justify sleeping with him. The best part is shed say how nice it was to be single again. (motion of gun in mouth and brains spraying all over wall.)
     
  5. got_lost

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    I don't think I am the right person to give advice or tips here, even though I have probably gone the longest without it.

    My coping mechanism was work 12 - 16 hour days and put on weight?!!! :O
    I wouldn't recommend either!! LOL

    Though now do have a fantastic vibrator which is keeping me relatively satisfied!! ;)

    Though what I wouldn't do to have the real thing!!
     
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    I feel for you, I really do. Lots of things in life stink, but one of the worse is sex withdrawal after having it steady for so long.

    The suggestion someone else made to get sex toys and masturbate would never work for me. I find it extremely difficult to go from real penis to fake penis, and the transition is so bad that I can't get myself off artificially for a while after the real thing.

    I don't suggest casual sex, but maybe you already have a friend or two who could "help you out?"
     
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    Yeah, i was in a long term relationship... a year later.... I'm still trying to get over not having sex every day.


    im gonna go cry now.
     
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    That's downright criminal. If I'm ever in the southwest...:wink:
     
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    Oh my God, you poor woman!!!
     
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    Uh...is there ANY man here that wouldn't offer at least a helping hand? God...none of you should suffer! I can't tell how many times I had someone who I could turn to in time of famine. After awhile, solo just don't make it anymore! Well, I don't know about the rest of you, but I am more than willing to help out!!!
     
  11. zaza

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    Thanks for the replies, sorry I havn`t been back sooner, been getting better acquainted with my vibrator!

    That will have to do for now, not ready to launch into casual sex or a new relationship for now.
     
  12. got_lost

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    :biggrin1:

    *checks for flights to NY*
     
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    You and me both!

    If she did, she would not have posted here. :tongue:
     
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    Sex isn't everything. It's good, but not everything. If all you want is sex, that's easy to find.

    Now a TRULY wonderful Martini, Gibson, or Manhattan? THAT is hard to find. Probably because they are great sex substitutes for me.
     
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    Workin' up a good pot of mad!
    To quote Mae West...
    "A Hard Man is good to find!" LOL! Ladies and gents try to put that energy into something creative. I am sure it is difficult when you want something or someone else but you may be surprised how productive you can be. NJQT, I have you all beat! LOL! :biggrin1:

    Now prepare my party I am about to hit the 10,000 post mark tonight , probably!
     
  16. viking1

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    Maybe for some...
     
  17. Mr. Snakey

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    The longest i went without sex. In all honesty about a year. I considered it a great learning experience
     
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    Have you tried the lounge at the Renaissance Hotel in downtown Seattle?
     
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    J25, M1... call me LOL
     
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    HOW!??

    wow..
     
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