"Cougar": Insult or Tribute?

[Fredneck1951]

There's been a lively thread in this forum, "Older woman vs. younger guy" (why does it have to be "vs."?) and most of the ladies who posted there seemed to vote "aye".

Seems like there's a slang term for women who seek out and bed younger men: "Cougars". I first heard it on a TV program, I think it was ABC's 20/20. Now, there really isn't anything new under the sun, older women and younger men have been a combustible mix forever, but trust the media to make it a "trend" if not a "fad", and it seems around here that many of the ladies have positive interactions with men several to many years younger than they are.

So here's the question to the ladies: Do you find the term "Cougar" offensive? Or do you find it complimentary towards your raw animal magnetism men find irresistible, like the mighty huntress stalking her prey?

I need to know, because if I use the term with my wife (who's nine years older than I am), I don't want to be picking up my teeth from the floor.

 

[naughty]

Fredneck,

(By the way what a great name! LOL! ) I think you answered the question yourself! If your wife would knock your teeth out perhaps it might be something to use on a constant basis. I dont think the opinions about the term are by any means monolithic.Depending upon your frame of reference, it could be seen as a euphomism for a voracious older woman who is embarrasing herself by consorting with younger men. Or in a kinder light, it could be a woman who has liberated her sensibilities enough to be able to widen her horizons in terms of her choice of partner.
I think most of us want to be happy with or without the label. More power to you and your wife for making such an enlightened choice! LOL!

Naughty

 

[windtalkerways]

LOL, Fred...people are always in the habit
of labelling everything. And compared to
some of the nasty terms that have been
used on women who have a high sex drive,
I'd say it's a step up for a change.

Being a 'cougar' is definitely a win-win
situation, though I would not say I 'prowl' or
bed only younger men. It's just how things
work out sometimes.

 

[stud_hunter]

I definitely don't take it as an insult. Tribute might be taking it a little far the other way. But while the analogy of the carnivorous flesh-tearing cat somehow seems harsh, it's not entirely off base :biggrin1: . So many women are afraid to go after what they want. They send out subtle signals and expect men to take all the risks. It's almost like they apologize or feel guilty for having desires. And yes, there have been times when I have found a younger man attractive and plotted to get him in bed. Usually successfully, I might add :tongue: . So, if a cougar actively goes after having her wants met, then I guess that makes me a cougar.

 

[hotnmpls2000@yahoo.com]

Hey guys. One of my best friends at work had a group of happy hour GF's and they called themselves the Couger Club. I don't think the term is meant or often recieved as an insult.

 

[madame_zora]

I think it's cute. One of the few labes we women have gotten that resonate power and beauty. A hell of a lot better than "slut" or "whore" which have no male counterparts.

 

[SurferGirlCA]

I think it's cute. One of the few labes we women have gotten that resonate power and beauty. A hell of a lot better than "slut" or "whore" which have no male counterparts.

Well, "manwhore" is a term that's fairly common nowadays. The difference is that the men in question usually refer to themselves that way (jocularly), as opposed to being saddled with a label by others.

 

[naughty]

LOL,

Well, then we should call the Women's Auxillary the LSPG COUGAR CLUB! since most of us would qualify! LOL! Or the women's section Cougar's Corner!

Naughty

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

... A hell of a lot better than "slut" or "whore" which have no male counterparts.

I've been called both on many occasions.

 

[Matthew]

One word: Faguar.

 

[ClaireTalon]

It certainly not derogative to me. I guess I am a cougar, I have a strong incline to date younger guys, and I don't feel anything bad about it. Currently I'm dating a guy who could easily be my son, judging by the numbers, but we have great sex, get our fun, with absolutely no strings attached. There's nothing bad in it, but it doesn't appear as something so outstanding to me that it'd deserve the term tribute. However, since it still isn't the norm, the term tribute would make sense.

Go ladies, satisfy your hunger for younger! Aye!

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

One word: Faguar.

No that's the car I have on order.

 

[madame_zora]

I've been called both on many occasions.

Honey, it's only libel if it's not true!

"Manwhore" is an obvious play on "whore", and I don't think it's primary use is amoung women wishing to discredit a man or classify him as unworthy or of lesser value. These are the implications of slut and whore for women- they're good enough to fuck, but not to bring home to mommy- guys who think like that need to be slapped.

 

[Pirate Wench]

Naughty.....

Love your idea !
"Cougar's Corner"

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

Honey, it's only libel if it's not true!

"Manwhore" is an obvious play on "whore", and I don't think it's primary use is amoung women wishing to discredit a man or classify him as unworthy or of lesser value. These are the implications of slut and whore for women- they're good enough to fuck, but not to bring home to mommy- guys who think like that need to be slapped.

When I was called "slut" or "whore", I'd usually earned it. :biggrin1:

 

[steve2727]

Honey, it's only libel if it's not true!

"Manwhore" is an obvious play on "whore", and I don't think it's primary use is amoung women wishing to discredit a man or classify him as unworthy or of lesser value. These are the implications of slut and whore for women- they're good enough to fuck, but not to bring home to mommy- guys who think like that need to be slapped.

It's not just guys, I've been considered good enough to fuck but not good enough to bring home to mommy by a few women.

 

[MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK]

One of the MILF's i dated over the past summer actually didn't mind at all to the term. Truth be told, she found it refreshing. Myself, I don't really label the women I've dated/had relationships with in the past who might fit this descriptive.

 

[SurferGirlCA]

"Manwhore" is an obvious play on "whore", and I don't think it's primary use is amoung women wishing to discredit a man or classify him as unworthy or of lesser value. These are the implications of slut and whore for women- they're good enough to fuck, but not to bring home to mommy- guys who think like that need to be slapped.

Exactly. As I said, when I have heard this term it has usually been from a guy referring to himself or a friend in a joking manner. I don't think I've ever heard a woman refer to a guy this way. If a woman refers to another woman as a whore, that's prolly gonna be a call to throw down, but some guys wear it as a badge of honor.

 

[BobLeeSwagger]

Exactly. As I said, when I have heard this term it has usually been from a guy referring to himself or a friend in a joking manner. I don't think I've ever heard a woman refer to a guy this way. If a woman refers to another woman as a whore, that's prolly gonna be a call to throw down, but some guys wear it as a badge of honor.

In my experience, words like slut, whore and bitch are uttered more by women about each other than by guys. Since they consider it the ultimate insult, I guess.

 

[hotnmpls2000@yahoo.com]

I think that a Couger is more of a younger MILF for young guys, rather than an "out to get a young guy." (Based on a self professed Couger's perception of the term.) Not so much a women out for young meat.