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I'm not that kind of cougar. I'm 44 but less sexually experienced than most 20 year old women, sad to say. :frown1: I just tend to be attracted more (but not exclusively) to men in their twenties and early thirties.
Nothing wrong with that babe. Keep at it and maybe you can learn together. :wink: Besides let's face it there is something to be said for the overall prettiness of a man in his 20's, not to mention their stamina. :smile:

Its all good. As long as it got some hair on it...........:wink:
Reminds me of the old saying... So long as there is grass on the field it's time to play ball.:biggrin1:
 

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Nothing wrong with that babe. Keep at it and maybe you can learn together. :wink: Besides let's face it there is something to be said for the overall prettiness of a man in his 20's, not to mention their stamina. :smile:

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I have had the experience of a guy 8 years younger than me. I was 32 and he was 24. I have written about him in this forum before - he's the one who was very "skilled" with his hands, and also drop-dead gorgeous! I also got something of a thrill from his friends' reaction to him going with a woman who was over 30. :wink: I was around his friends quite a bit because we'd do live action gaming and Dungeons & Dragons (yeah, we were geeks! :biggrin1: ) We didn't have a whole lot in common though so it was destined to be more of a FWB deal than anything else. But hey, that's good too!

I also dated a guy when I was 25/26 and he was 24/25 (not a lot of age difference there, but he was in his twenties) who was not good looking at all. Turns out he was also an asshole. Oh well.

I do appreciate the stamina. I'm not sure it's all age though. I think your state of health has a lot to do with it too. Unfortunately, my two best lovers (on their good days) also had/have chronic health problems that got in the way much of the time. That's one reason why I'm very glad I'm finally hanging around with some healthy people! My circle of friends before all had chronic health problems, and while I wouldn't dream of dropping them as friends over that, I always wanted some healthy friends in addition to them.
 

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I'm glad that younger men are becoming more open to being with an older woman. I'm not what you normally would think of as a cougar - I'm an older woman who is attracted to younger men, but I am not "experienced" - in fact, most younger women are more experienced than I am! (and this was not my choice - it was just the luck of the draw in my life) <clip> I still have "young" interests and so a younger man might very well be compatible with me.

Ok, this could be me. I am not a cougar in that i did NOT pursue younger guys (they pursued me). And i was in a 20 year repressive marriage with someone who was not sexually experimental and i came out of it very . . . inexperienced.

I really don't have even CLOSE to the experience to say "I can show you things no girl your age has ever dreamed of" and even if i did, i would never say something like that.

But i also have very “young” interests. I must say i am more at home with 20 & 30-something year olds than i am with people my own age. I do tend to find people my age boring. I want to have fun. I want to experiment and try new things. I’m extremely sexual and want to be with someone sexually charged. I missed out on so much the first chunk of my life and now i want to be free. And i want to be shown what i missed!

If an older guy can be overtly sexual, kinky and fun-loving, then i’m there. But i think that maybe the younger guys are more in that category. I was introduced to LARP (Live Action Role Playing) and Warhammer (a war game) when i was with these guys (they were 20-something year old game geeks). I must say i did enjoy it though. Like i said, i like to try new things, no matter what it is.

As for younger men being open to being with older women? I find that to be incredibly true. I have my age posted on all my profiles. I never hide it. But i have to keep my messenger on “invisible” because if i turn it on, i am inundated by young guys wanting to hook up with me. 18 years old are not unusual.

Is this not a common thing with older women online? To have young guys always hitting on them? I should mention that some of them have actually wanted to pretend that i am their mother. Talk about kink. *smile* To each his own. But then again, i do enjoy role-playing . . .
 

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I was around his friends quite a bit because we'd do live action gaming and Dungeons & Dragons (yeah, we were geeks! :biggrin1: )

LOL. We were writing about LARP and gaming at the same time! Yup, D&D, Warhammer, Vampire . . . I guess it's part of the job description when we play with the young guys! :smile:

Edit: Oh, i guess i had missed your post. It was actually 2 hours ago. But i hadn't read it before i wrote my post. Hehe.
 

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I'm not that kind of cougar. I'm 44 but less sexually experienced than most 20 year old women, sad to say.

Me too. I am not too sure that I can say that I am sad to say that, however. Part is due to a very long marriage and it is also in part because this is how I choose to be. I'm not really one who desires/craves casual sex. I tried it once, it didn't turn out so casual and the end result was painful for both parties. I don't believe either of us has regrets, but painful nonetheless.

The purpose of my post was to hear not only the sexual attraction from both sides, but to see/hear about the companionship between an older woman and younger man. Specifically if there was a magic number that one wouldn't cross. Such as someone under ten years would be great, but 15 is a bit much.

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I didn't mean that I just didn't have a lot of sexual experience with younger men - I meant that I don't have a lot of sexual experience at all! I don't know how much that is because of my looks, how much is because I'm very shy, and how much is because I have mostly been around very uptight people. I think (hope) it's more the last two than it is the first. I'm working to overcome the shyness. I find that if I'm in a group that is doing a specific activity, like hiking or playing volleyball, I am less shy than I am at, say, a party.

I do think that people are more open to the idea of older women/younger men now. I'm glad of that. I always liked younger men - not exclusively, but always liked them.

It seems shyness will definately get you less attention from guys in general. As long as you aren't so shy that you seem uninterested in talking with anyone, you should get noticed by some people. A woman who is too loud, crude, and boisterous is a turn off for me, so I like some shyness. It can be nicely deceiving too. I had a gf who was extremely shy in public - but when we came to intimate activities that definately was not the case lol.
 

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LOL. We were writing about LARP and gaming at the same time! Yup, D&D, Warhammer, Vampire . . . I guess it's part of the job description when we play with the young guys! :smile:

Edit: Oh, i guess i had missed your post. It was actually 2 hours ago. But i hadn't read it before i wrote my post. Hehe.

I actually met him through this gaming group. I didn't see it as a "job description" :wink: There really are women who like gaming too - I was one of them. I grew up reading science fiction and fantasy novels and still read them. I was not heavily into gaming like some of the people in the group - I have too many interests to get heavily into one thing (ok, well, except for the reason I am on this forum :biggrin1: ), but I still liked it. I was introduced to the gaming group by another friend (also a woman) who took part in some of the LARPs, and she was talking about it and I'd expressed my interest in gaming. I haven't done any gaming in years but I found that I liked Magic the Gathering best. I have a deck of Magic cards but since moving they are probably hidden in a box somewhere, and I haven't played in years.
 

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It seems shyness will definately get you less attention from guys in general. As long as you aren't so shy that you seem uninterested in talking with anyone, you should get noticed by some people. A woman who is too loud, crude, and boisterous is a turn off for me, so I like some shyness. It can be nicely deceiving too. I had a gf who was extremely shy in public - but when we came to intimate activities that definately was not the case lol.

I do have trouble at parties and such, and may come across as "uninterested in talking with anyone" but it is really because I have no idea what to say. If someone else starts the conversation and it is a topic I'm comfortable with, I'm fine. I am better in "activity" situations, like a group hiking, or softball, volleyball, etc. I'm also better if there is not a lot of noise going on around me (as there usually is at parties).
 

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I actually met him through this gaming group. I didn't see it as a "job description" :wink: There really are women who like gaming too - I was one of them. I grew up reading science fiction and fantasy novels and still read them. <clip> I haven't done any gaming in years but I found that I liked Magic the Gathering best. I have a deck of Magic cards but since moving they are probably hidden in a box somewhere, and I haven't played in years.

Oh, i know that women are into gaming! For sure! :smile: It was the age factor i was commenting on. I'll be 50 in November and there was no such thing as these games when i was younger. And i was into reading sci-fi & fantasy too. I just meant that if you are an older woman and have never heard of these games, and if you date younger guys, THEN it's "part of the job description". :wink:

Oh, and Magic - yes! My Dom made me sit up in bed and play Magic with him until the wee hours of the morning sometimes. I enjoyed it. I had a red (was it goblin?) deck. Hmm. I'll have to look for that. I enjoyed beating his ass with it. It was the only time i was allowed to dominate him! :tongue:
 

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whatireallywant - you made me think of when hubby and I got married.
I was 32 and he was 24.

Our 22nd anniv. was May 31st.

(well shit......I just revealed my age:eek: .....who cares....:smile: )

Unless they know different, people think I'm his age....
 

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whatireallywant - you made me think of when hubby and I got married.
I was 32 and he was 24.

Our 22nd anniv. was May 31st.

(well shit......I just revealed my age:eek: .....who cares....:smile: )

Unless they know different, people think I'm his age....

People think I'm younger than my age too. It's good now that I'm 44 and look like I'm in my late twenties/early thirties. It was not so good when I was 17 and looked like I was 10. :biggrin1: Once (also at age 32, different guy though) he saw me nude and said I had the body of a 15 year old. I wasn't so sure that was a compliment though. He might've been referring to my being perky, but I'm self conscious about that I think I look like a barely-pubescent. For the most part, looking younger than my age (at least now!) is nice because maybe the younger guys will be attracted to me. I did have that funny incident in karate class when I was 28 and a 16 year old boy was attracted to me and thought I was around his age! And at age 32 there were still people who thought I looked like I was around 17. I do look older than that now though - I have had a life-threatening illness (4 years ago) and that aged me a lot, although I still look younger than 44.
 

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Sorry to hear about your serious illness.....I hope that is all behind you now.

When I was 27 and with my parents at a football game, we ran into some people they hadn't seen in many many years and they asked me what grade I was in.....
I was mortified (and pissed)....

Recently showed some friends a picture of myself around 22 and they thought I looked 12......
What I was wearing in the pic wasn't that revealing.....so the "boobage" wasn't obvious.

But I got carded in liquor stores till I was into my upper 30's ! :smile:
That was always fun.
 

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I do have trouble at parties and such, and may come across as "uninterested in talking with anyone" but it is really because I have no idea what to say. If someone else starts the conversation and it is a topic I'm comfortable with, I'm fine. I am better in "activity" situations, like a group hiking, or softball, volleyball, etc. I'm also better if there is not a lot of noise going on around me (as there usually is at parties).

Yeah noise can make it difficult to talk. I don't like to have to yell. I think some people at parties probably like not having to talk to each other to get somewhere though lol, just not me.

That's cool you guys like video games. Even in my age group (I'm 22), women have been discouraged from participating I feel. It was always seen as a 1) boy thing and 2) kid thing. The "kid thing" is definately dissolving, as the kids who grew up with video games are still playing them as they get older. The "boy thing" is going away too, as people growing up now all pretty much get involved in games regardless of gender, it is just a little slower in coming than I would have expected.
 

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Sorry to hear about your serious illness.....I hope that is all behind you now.

When I was 27 and with my parents at a football game, we ran into some people they hadn't seen in many many years and they asked me what grade I was in.....
I was mortified (and pissed)....

Recently showed some friends a picture of myself around 22 and they thought I looked 12......
What I was wearing in the pic wasn't that revealing.....so the "boobage" wasn't obvious.

But I got carded in liquor stores till I was into my upper 30's ! :smile:
That was always fun.

Yeah, I still get carded sometimes. People thought I looked like I was around 12 when I was 22. And I didn't have any "boobage" - at age 22 I wore a 34A at best, although I was starting to become overweight. Bummer, that. Of course, about the carding thing, some places will card everyone, no matter what. It's a legal thing, I guess. But it's always a bit flattering for us older folks when we get carded. :smile:
 

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Yeah noise can make it difficult to talk. I don't like to have to yell. I think some people at parties probably like not having to talk to each other to get somewhere though lol, just not me.

That's cool you guys like video games. Even in my age group (I'm 22), women have been discouraged from participating I feel. It was always seen as a 1) boy thing and 2) kid thing. The "kid thing" is definately dissolving, as the kids who grew up with video games are still playing them as they get older. The "boy thing" is going away too, as people growing up now all pretty much get involved in games regardless of gender, it is just a little slower in coming than I would have expected.

Very good to hear. ALL my interests growing up were in "boy things" (not in the sense of what brought me here necessarily, although there was that too especially after puberty! :biggrin1: ) I'm 44 and from a rural area and it was NOT acceptable for girls to have traditionally male interests at that time and place. I was even sent to behavior-modification camp for it! Scary, huh? It didn't break me of my traditionally male interests though, obviously.
 

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People think I'm younger than my age too. It's good now that I'm 44 and look like I'm in my late twenties/early thirties. It was not so good when I was 17 and looked like I was 10. :biggrin1:

Lol. It sounds like me. I looked like a teeny bopper when i was in my 20's and because of my oily skin, i haven't developed much in the way of wrinkles, so i look much younger, even at almost 50. *knock on wood* I've had people think i'm in my 30's. *shrug* It's all perception and what looks like 30 may look like 40 to someone else. Or hell, like 80 to a 14 year old for that matter! :tongue:

Though i must say that in the last three years, i've gained weight and i think i look older when i'm larger, though i do still look younger. I've lost some weight and am determined to be where i was three years ago though. I *will* look like that again! :smile:
 

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Yeah, I still get carded sometimes. People thought I looked like I was around 12 when I was 22. And I didn't have any "boobage" - at age 22 I wore a 34A at best, although I was starting to become overweight. Bummer, that. Of course, about the carding thing, some places will card everyone, no matter what. It's a legal thing, I guess. But it's always a bit flattering for us older folks when we get carded. :smile:

I went to a concert a few weeks ago where they carded every single person who bought something, even senior citizens or clearly over 40/50 people, which was pretty funny.
 

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I went to a concert a few weeks ago where they carded every single person who bought something, even senior citizens or clearly over 40/50 people, which was pretty funny.

Many places do that now. There has been a lot of crackdown on underage drinking, and while some people clearly look over 21, I think the people at the doors of these places are told just to card everyone.
 

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Very good to hear. ALL my interests growing up were in "boy things" (not in the sense of what brought me here necessarily, although there was that too especially after puberty! :biggrin1: ) I'm 44 and from a rural area and it was NOT acceptable for girls to have traditionally male interests at that time and place. I was even sent to behavior-modification camp for it! Scary, huh? It didn't break me of my traditionally male interests though, obviously.

Hah, that is very scary. I'm glad that persecution hasn't happened to people in my experience. I don't what has changed in more recent years, whether people are less socially conscious of what their daughters are interested in or just realized that women can be just as into technology, sports, etc. as men. Either way, I'm sure the companies that sell formerly "youth boy" products are delighted to be making the same thing, but now being able to sell them to "all people of all ages."