Cougar

compsciguy

Just Browsing
Joined
Apr 6, 2007
Posts
34
Media
0
Likes
0
Points
151
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Well from a biological standpoint older women and younger men work out better for a sexual relationship.

Older women maintain their horniness well into their 40's while men start to slowly decline (no matter how much we may hate it) from our 19-20th year onward.

The best thing about a 'cougar' is that they don't have any bullshit expectations.

They're better for conversations, more understanding of you as a person, and have no problem teaching a young guy stuff in bed.

Cougars aren't going to jump to conclusions and assumptions about you, your manliness, or their hotness if you are a lil' nervous and have trouble getting a hardon - they've been there before and they know that we can be horny as shit and our equipment not work.

Um I went off on a tangent - let's just say that older chicks are cool and leave it at that.

(and they taste better too because they have better hygeine - there I said it)
 

whatireallywant

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2007
Posts
3,535
Media
0
Likes
30
Points
183
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
Hah, that is very scary. I'm glad that persecution hasn't happened to people in my experience. I don't what has changed in more recent years, whether people are less socially conscious of what their daughters are interested in or just realized that women can be just as into technology, sports, etc. as men. Either way, I'm sure the companies that sell formerly "youth boy" products are delighted to be making the same thing, but now being able to sell them to "all people of all ages."

I think it's a regional thing too - the rural area I grew up in is still rather sexist.

Technology and sports hmmm.... two of my favorite things! I really had the combinations going as a kid - I liked sports, playing Army, played with toy cars and trucks, construction sets, etc., did electrical projects (like I made a circuit board and extension cord), went fishing, and my favorite subject in school was science! Probably nobody knew what to make of me. :biggrin1: What's funny is that in that behavior mod camp I actually had female friends for the first time in my life. They were probably sent there for having traditionally male interests too (although many of us, including me as well, were also sent there for ADHD).

I do think it is becoming more socially acceptable for girls to have these kinds of interests, at least in urban areas. It is happening more slowly than I would like, but it is improving some.
 

Long&Thick

Experimental Member
Joined
Sep 17, 2006
Posts
265
Media
0
Likes
6
Points
163
Location
Cincinnati, Ohio
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Male
Isnt there gonna be a show on ABC or one of the main networks that relates to "cougars"? Like this dude is looking for a wife and he as to choose from 40 women or some number like that, and half are his age and half are these "cougars"? The Bachelor maybe?
 

JMeister

Sexy Member
Joined
Sep 5, 2006
Posts
894
Media
0
Likes
39
Points
248
Sexuality
No Response
I suspect that long term relationships of this type are few and far between because when a guy starts thinking about a family, he is going to bail on you.

If you are looking for a lifelong partner don't waste your time. However if you are looking for a great lay for a while, go for it but to paraphrase my parents don't coming crying to LPSG when loverboy leaves you for someone younger than himself.
 

Act2_Begins_Now

1st Like
Joined
Jun 9, 2007
Posts
487
Media
0
Likes
1
Points
163
Location
Pacific Northwest
Sexuality
99% Straight, 1% Gay
Gender
Female
Interesting comments about age. I, too, am in my 40s but am constantly guessed in my 30s and some have even said late 20s. When I was teen though I was always guess older. Not sure when it changed, I do recall being in my 30s and being carded for being 16 or 18 ... was buying a can of spray paint in a Hardware store in Southern California. I didnt think I looked like a graffitti artist. ~roll eyes~

With this, I'm older but look younger theme ... are Cougars suppose to be younger looking? And if that is the case, perhaps the men aren't necessarily attracted to an older woman ... but instead is more attracted to the mind and character that is typical of an older woman? Hmmm, ponderings.

I suspect that long term relationships of this type are few and far between because when a guy starts thinking about a family, he is going to bail on you.

I'm glad you said this. Ideally I think I would love a man my age (not really older) or into in 30s. But that is an issue because a man in his 30s, likely has young children or would want children at some point. Because I feel so young, I do not think having another child would be a tough thing for me. But frankly, with two of my children being adults and the third at a very independant age ... I'm loving the freedom
 

whatireallywant

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2007
Posts
3,535
Media
0
Likes
30
Points
183
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
I suspect that long term relationships of this type are few and far between because when a guy starts thinking about a family, he is going to bail on you.

If you are looking for a lifelong partner don't waste your time. However if you are looking for a great lay for a while, go for it but to paraphrase my parents don't coming crying to LPSG when loverboy leaves you for someone younger than himself.

This would have been as much of a problem with me when I was in my twenties as it is now. One of the "unusual" things about me is that I have NEVER wanted children. I find them annoying. And I like my freedom too. I had my tubes tied when I was in my early thirties and finally got a job with insurance that would pay for it. I would've had my tubes tied when I was 18 if I could have.
 

Pumblechook

Just Browsing
Joined
Oct 16, 2004
Posts
334
Media
2
Likes
0
Points
161
Sexuality
99% Straight, 1% Gay
Interesting comments about age. I, too, am in my 40s but am constantly guessed in my 30s and some have even said late 20s. When I was teen though I was always guess older. Not sure when it changed, I do recall being in my 30s and being carded for being 16 or 18 ... was buying a can of spray paint in a Hardware store in Southern California. I didnt think I looked like a graffitti artist. ~roll eyes~

With this, I'm older but look younger theme ... are Cougars suppose to be younger looking? And if that is the case, perhaps the men aren't necessarily attracted to an older woman ... but instead is more attracted to the mind and character that is typical of an older woman? Hmmm, ponderings.



I'm glad you said this. Ideally I think I would love a man my age (not really older) or into in 30s. But that is an issue because a man in his 30s, likely has young children or would want children at some point. Because I feel so young, I do not think having another child would be a tough thing for me. But frankly, with two of my children being adults and the third at a very independant age ... I'm loving the freedom

I don't think a cougar is supposed to fit a certain look or necessarily look younger than she is. The physical attraction with an older woman is usually just that she generally has taken care of herself and not just completely dropped off the map like many women do after about 20. The mental attraction goes much further as, at least for me, girls my age are very immature, lack confidence, and unsure of what they want. So, a woman that is strong and stable, experienced, and knows who she is, is very appealing.
 

WildHoney

Experimental Member
Joined
Oct 2, 2006
Posts
1,101
Media
0
Likes
22
Points
183
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
....I never thought I would be one of those "cougar" women.

My tastes always fell with older, more experienced men. Then i turned 36.

I am not sure what changed, but all of a sudden young men are such a turn on to me.

Their hard bodies, constantly erect cocks and their eagerness to explore. I have had two younger guys in two weeks, and I am hankering for more.

I always used to feel like it was wasting my time , to not be indulged and satisfied sexually by a more experienced lover.

Now I am finding the true delight in a willing learner, and a man who has the abilty to recover so quickly. The desperation and appreciation? is just so HOT to me right now.

Maybe it will change if I get a bad one :) But for now, I am happily relishing in my new found cougardom'

x

Honey
 

vancouvergirl

Experimental Member
Joined
Jun 14, 2007
Posts
53
Media
2
Likes
7
Points
153
Location
Vancouver, BC
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Female
<clip> But that is an issue because a man in his 30s, likely has young children or would want children at some point. Because I feel so young, I do not think having another child would be a tough thing for me. But frankly, with two of my children being adults and the third at a very independant age ... I'm loving the freedom

My partner (who just joined LPSG today - vanboy) and i are polyamorous and in our list of rules for new partners, we have stated "nobody with young kids". I just can't go there any more. My 4 kids are 16 to 26. I definitely do not want more kids. I'm loving the freedom as well.

So does that mean no more dating 20-30-something year olds? Well no. As long as it's just for fun and not for long-term. Because i think you're right. They will eventually want kids and break my heart by leaving if i do long-term.

Ok, just having fun it is! :smile:
 

whatireallywant

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2007
Posts
3,535
Media
0
Likes
30
Points
183
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
My partner (who just joined LPSG today - vanboy) and i are polyamorous and in our list of rules for new partners, we have stated "nobody with young kids". I just can't go there any more. My 4 kids are 16 to 26. I definitely do not want more kids. I'm loving the freedom as well.

So does that mean no more dating 20-30-something year olds? Well no. As long as it's just for fun and not for long-term. Because i think you're right. They will eventually want kids and break my heart by leaving if i do long-term.

Ok, just having fun it is! :smile:

Not all do. I'm sure there are the male versions of me out there, who have never wanted kids and never will. I have sometimes thought that I should not have had my tubes tied because I'd want the guy so bad that I'd have a kid because he wants one. But that would not be fair to me either since I'm not a "motherly" type at all. It makes things difficult. It's always difficult when you are different from nearly everyone else, particularly in regards to these kinds of things. I did not decide I didn't want kids when I turned 40. I decided I didn't want kids when I was around 12 or so. I would've had my tubes tied at age 18 or even before if they'd let me.
 

Act2_Begins_Now

1st Like
Joined
Jun 9, 2007
Posts
487
Media
0
Likes
1
Points
163
Location
Pacific Northwest
Sexuality
99% Straight, 1% Gay
Gender
Female
Well no. As long as it's just for fun and not for long-term.

See that is the problem for me. Even though I know I am not ready nor desire a conventional/traditional sharing living space relationship ... I know that I am not emotionally capable of just being intimate for fun. My desire is for outstanding companionship with out of this world sexual adventures.
 

Blocko

Experimental Member
Joined
Feb 16, 2007
Posts
687
Media
0
Likes
13
Points
238
Sexuality
No Response
Would you ladies say that particular men are cougar bait? I always seem to attract cougars, much more so than women my own age.
 

vancouvergirl

Experimental Member
Joined
Jun 14, 2007
Posts
53
Media
2
Likes
7
Points
153
Location
Vancouver, BC
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Female
See that is the problem for me. Even though I know I am not ready nor desire a conventional/traditional sharing living space relationship ... I know that I am not emotionally capable of just being intimate for fun. My desire is for outstanding companionship with out of this world sexual adventures.

*sigh* You are, of course, right. Way to burst my bubble! :wink:

In reality i suppose i can have sex with basically anyone. As a submissive, i crave being used. But i more than likely won't be aroused beyond, "hey, this is so cool, there's a dick in me". I too need to have some sort of emotional bond to actually enjoy the sex and become aroused. Even as a slave, i would want a Master who "adores" me.

That was actually one of the things that was problematic when i was dating the younger guys (other than my Dom). It was just sex, and . . . i never actually got fully aroused. It was simply fun to explore "my inner slut".

I do have my "vanboy" who i live with and love immensely. *sigh* I really don't know what else is coming my way though. He may be young, he may be old. He may be a Dom, or not. But it's going to have to be more than just fuck buddies.

Ok. My head is now out of fantasyland and i am back on earth.

:smile:
 

compsciguy

Just Browsing
Joined
Apr 6, 2007
Posts
34
Media
0
Likes
0
Points
151
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
do tell ...
Tell what?

Older girls take better care of their bodies and have better tasting (and smelling) pussies.

Their hard bodies, constantly erect cocks and their eagerness to explore. I have had two younger guys in two weeks, and I am hankering for more.

And one of the best things about older chicks (30+ for me) is that they love cock and I have a hard time getting turned on by a girl who isn't into me and my cock.
 

Act2_Begins_Now

1st Like
Joined
Jun 9, 2007
Posts
487
Media
0
Likes
1
Points
163
Location
Pacific Northwest
Sexuality
99% Straight, 1% Gay
Gender
Female
Would you ladies say that particular men are cougar bait? I always seem to attract cougars, much more so than women my own age

My complete guess would be it could be any number of things. For those women that are comfortable and really enjoy casual sex, I would say the more eager and attractive you are ... the better. For those who perhaps have felt emotionally shorted the majority of their lives because they have been taking care of a husband and kids, I would someone who was kind, a listener, etc. would be attractive. That is what I have found with the younger men that I enjoy talking to, they engage my mind more.

I don't know I could go on and on.

Older girls take better care of their bodies and have better tasting (and smelling) pussies.

This comes as a complete shock to me.

And one of the best things about older chicks (30+ for me) is that they love cock and I have a hard time getting turned on by a girl who isn't into me and my cock.

I have often wondered even if the circumstances had been different in my life so that my 20s were more 'free' if I could have enjoyed it as much as I do now. I think there is something about a woman in her 40s is just, well assured. And with that comfortableness comes complete abandonement of day to day worries ... during intimate times at least.

*sigh* You are, of course, right. Way to burst my bubble! :wink:

In reality i suppose i can have sex with basically anyone. As a submissive, i crave being used.

Submissive is being used ~yikers~. Must remove from my signature line. When I use submissive to describe mysef, it is more like ... searching for one that I can have complete trust in and surrender.

Wow. deep thoughts for so early in the morning.
 

SpoiledPrincess

Expert Member
Joined
Dec 28, 2006
Posts
7,868
Media
0
Likes
119
Points
193
Location
england
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
It's because you can be very charming Blocko and we appreciate a charming guy.
I don't purposely go for younger guys but they go for me, I would much prefer to be being approached by hot guys my own age but for some reason men my own age don't hit on me as much. This is partly explained by the fact that there aren't many hot guys my age who aren't in relationships but I still can't figure out why if I'm in the pub the older guys avoid me while the younger guys can't stay away.
 

vancouvergirl

Experimental Member
Joined
Jun 14, 2007
Posts
53
Media
2
Likes
7
Points
153
Location
Vancouver, BC
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Female
Submissive is being used ~yikers~. Must remove from my signature line. When I use submissive to describe mysef, it is more like ... searching for one that I can have complete trust in and surrender. Wow. deep thoughts for so early in the morning.

Well, what you are describing and wanting IS submissive. Submissive is having complete trust in someone so that you can surrender. Whether you're a submissive/slave or "vanilla" (for lack of a better word - i know a lot of people hate that word).

If you surrender to a Sadist for instance, well then, you are going to be used for His pleasure. Ooooh, i love that. But of course, to each his own. I totally understand a non-bdsm person completely not comprehending that mindset.

If you surrender to another "vanilla" person . . . maybe there isn't 'being used' involved. I don't know. I'd have to think more about that.
 

Pumblechook

Just Browsing
Joined
Oct 16, 2004
Posts
334
Media
2
Likes
0
Points
161
Sexuality
99% Straight, 1% Gay
Well, what you are describing and wanting IS submissive. Submissive is having complete trust in someone so that you can surrender. Whether you're a submissive/slave or "vanilla" (for lack of a better word - i know a lot of people hate that word).

If you surrender to a Sadist for instance, well then, you are going to be used for His pleasure. Ooooh, i love that. But of course, to each his own. I totally understand a non-bdsm person completely not comprehending that mindset.

If you surrender to another "vanilla" person . . . maybe there isn't 'being used' involved. I don't know. I'd have to think more about that.

I don't think actual submissiveness has anything to do with being used. Submissive falls more into a yin-yang sense. There are naturally initiating things and naturally responding things. In this course of natural interaction is where "submissive" falls in.

Being used goes more along with terms like "naive," "too trusting," "gullible," "low self-esteem," or "lacking confidence." I do not think these relate to submissiveness at all - as it is a good quality. You fall into these other terms when you take submissiveness too far to the point that it is detrimental.