Cougars...myth or reality?

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I feel a tad socially out of place hanging and partying with a group of twentysomethings at times.

Sometimes I feel old like the voice of reason.

Physically, I don't really feel old. I keep up in that dept. Except that my hearing is going and I can't see her clit with my contacts in


Hello NoSupport,

Do you think " you sometimes feel a little old" because society dictates you to behave in a certain way or is it because your body is feeling the wear and tear of your age?
 
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I feel a tad socially out of place hanging and partying with a group of twentysomethings at times.

Agreed. Being at different life stages is almost an unbridgeable gap. It can be done for weddings and funerals and family get togethers but not much else.
 

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Hi Scarlet!

What an interesting analogy " Attraction & Energy" I really like that notion, given that the laws of attraction is something one can't really understand until two individual's energy combine either into "combustion or bust" LOL .....Typical of the online dating world, you have this awesome connection online, then meet in person only to see things fizzle out, as the energy dissipates.

One quick question, are you currently dating this older gentleman? Is this a friends with benefits type of deal or an affair of the heart...( if I am asking a personal question, just tell me to buzz off) LOL

We are long time friends. I'd moved away and he was spending more time in another state with a previous relationship.
We are now back where we belong the place we came after leaving our hometowns (which are 75 miles apart), and the place that is most home to either of us.
We are more than FWB. Struggling to see what we can make it, this friendship and lovers space.

My hope is that we make the long haul together.
 

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Except ... I can't see her clit with my contacts in
LOL. :) Just let your tongue find it for you ;)
But you aren't wrong....
That's why I laughed to hard when I read that! ... I'm getting to that age (who am I kidding, I'm at that age) where suddenly everyone is printing things is very small fonts and I wish restaurants were brighter so I could read the menu without using my phone as a flashlight. But it's plenty of fun to find body parts by sense of touch whether through fingers, lips, or tongue. ;)
 

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Thanks for your response, it seems that setting out expectations is key. Hopefully you learned a thing or two about pleasing a woman :)
I learned a LOT about pleasing women from her. In fact we were playing around one evening and she asked me if i would like to learn a trick that any future woman would be thankful for. That evening i learned EXACTLY how to work a clit and make my tongue do wild things. My wife now and others are very pleased...lol.
 
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I have been on the cub side of cougar affair. Was heaps of fun and mad educational. Not just with the smexy times but about life in general and how to treat people, specific like, women.

My entire romantic/sexual history has had an age gap. The boy being closest in age to me. My exceptional boy proves to be many exceptions.

When I hit Cougar age I intend to go Daddy instead.;)
 

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When I hear the term “cougar” it’s not about age for me so much as it is the attitude.

Yes, a “cougar” connotates older, but how old? It’s tough to say because if you’re an 18 year old guy a cougar could be 27-30. If you’re a 25 year old guy then it’s 35-40...? It changes.

But as I said, for me it’s about the attitude. When I hear “cougar” to me it means a woman that has a healthy sexual appetite, but who isn’t afraid of being considered slutty or easy or anything else by societal conventions/definitions/norms. She knows what she wants and has no qualms about it.

Someone that is sexy and confident. To me that’s a cougar.
 
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The youngest guy I've ever dated was just 3 years younger than me, so I'm not an expert on cougarism. And I'm on the backside of 40, so I'm a bit older than you, if that colors my opinion to you.

But I find myself with men in their 20s and 30s quite often. They're my camping group, and it's a personal challenge to keep up with them! I'm more of the Momma figure in this arrangement although people have tried to make something of the situation of one woman to four or five guys in the woods. It does make me laugh when I hear someone saying something. None of those guys would except teasingly.

Like AE said, there's nothing wrong with dating younger guys unless you think it is. So don't think that way. Just enjoy yourself.
As always ,Ellie , the voice of reason . This is why i love reading your posts . What would we do without you ? Hope you had a great time on your trip .
 

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Men, if you come across a feline like this one RUN !!, no matter her age :D


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Love it . Looks just like my , sadly missed Puss .
 
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Don't like the word " cougar " much , and that goes for labels , pigeon holes , etc ,etc , of pretty much any kind , other than the accepted ,benign kind , like , teachers , nurses , sailors , soldiers , etc ,etc , . The term " cougar " , sounds almost derogatory , at least to me , which brings me to my point . No Woman should ever be derided for exploring her sexuality on her own terms
 

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Wow talk about a blast from my past, so lovely to see you again after all these years.....I am a bit of a food hedonist so I am envious of the food porn you have shared on your profile!! You are right that at times younger men "hold strange blend of optimism, idealism and an inability to accept shades of gray" I think that has to do with the levels of development, it just takes time for a person to move from one level to the other. I am not saying all young men fall into this category but most do.
Yeah, I just can't deal with that stage of development if I'm trying to develop family and partnership. I remember having that mindset myself, and I hold it against no one. It's just not compatible with me unless I'm just looking to get laid.
 

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Humans are so weird, needing to put labels on EVERYTHING. I've never viewed the term "cougar" as a negative, because it represents something that I don't disapprove of: A woman who is open and confident enough in her sexuality to date men who are significantly younger than herself. At the end of the day, you should be with those that you find attractive, and if society doesn't like it, hold up two middle fingers and carry on with your bad self. :)