Could a Male be sexually taking advantage of????

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Say if you knew a girl and she came up to you and said, "I want to fuck you right now."

You're mind says no because she's just using you, but you body says yea because its sex. You say no and she continues to grab on you. You say no and she continues to strip you. You say no and she continues to kiss you.

I know that there is something called self-control, but.... it just won't work.... you don't feel in control.

Anybody else felt like that?
 

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On a serious note- statistics show 1 in 4 women are sexually abused
1 in 7 men.

however- undereported in men is expected due to the believed 'stygma'.

Had a very good friend in college who was sexually abused by his mother (while in college he came to terms on some of it)... From what he shared really horrific stuff- he said his worst fear? He truly thought NO ONE would believe him...

(even the above post show that slight bias..'men(boys) can;t ge abused! they would enjoy it' sexual abuse is abuse. period.

He once told me the 3 most wonderful words he ever heard was "I believe you"

Sad to see a really nice guy suffer like he did.
 

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You weren't taken advantage of, you were pursued aggressively and, although you resisted at first, you eventually acquiesced. I don't know if this is a veiled attempt to show how hot shit you are, but unless your mental or physical capabilities were impaired at all, no, you were not taken advantage of.
 

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Say if you knew a girl and she came up to you and said, "I want to fuck you right now."
She sounds like a ho' :rolleyes: probably a drunk ho.

You're mind says no because she's just using you, but you body says yea because its sex. You say no and she continues to grab on you. You say no and she continues to strip you. You say no and she continues to kiss you.

You're a horny 20 year old guy and a girl says she wants to fuck. Naturally, that is the time to discover you have a conscience. :rolleyes: NOT!

Unless you are drunk, stoned, been slipped a roofie, or she has beaten you and tied you up; is she your boss, in a position of power over you in some way? Did she threaten to kill a family member if you told anyone what she did to you? if you have sex with her it's not rape. It's just you being a horny 20 year old guy.


I know that there is something called self-control, but.... it just won't work.... you don't feel in control. Anybody else felt like that?
It's called hormones. :rolleyes: :duh: Man up and deal with it.

It is possible for a woman to rape or molest a man, but what you describe is not that.
 

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Say if you knew a girl and she came up to you and said, "I want to fuck you right now."

You're mind says no because she's just using you, but you body says yea because its sex. You say no and she continues to grab on you. You say no and she continues to strip you. You say no and she continues to kiss you.

I know that there is something called self-control, but.... it just won't work.... you don't feel in control.

Anybody else felt like that?

That sounds like either rape, or an extremely weak-willed bottom.
 

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Taking advantage can come from any person, male or female


Pete's my boy; he speaks truth.

I was date raped in college by a guy and I know that's not precisely the issue here, but my buddy is absolutely correct. Whether it be male or female, yes, a man can be taken advantage of against his better judgment or will, regardless of an erection or not. A physiological response is not an indication of an emotional willingness, trust me. A lot of other things can trigger that. And still leave the guy, in the end, feeling horribly taken advantage of or worse, violated.
 

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Say if you knew a girl and she came up to you and said, "I want to fuck you right now."

You're mind says no because she's just using you, but you body says yea because its sex. You say no and she continues to grab on you. You say no and she continues to strip you. You say no and she continues to kiss you.

I know that there is something called self-control, but.... it just won't work.... you don't feel in control.

Anybody else felt like that?

OK, same situation except you are in a commited relationship that you care deeply about. Other girl comes on to you and you say "no".
Wasnt there a movie about this? Micheal Douglas and Demi Moore. She was the boss and tried to take sexual advantage of him.
 

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no it's not rape. You reciprocated the advances and at no time did you tell her to stop or try to flee the area. it would be different if she drugged you with a sedative and a viagra and then tried it. otherwise i cant see rape, maybe sexual harrasment.

but either way you need to become more assertive.
 

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She sounds like a ho' :rolleyes: probably a drunk ho.

Well it might have been a ho-ish thing to do, I know she isn't a ho.

You're a horny 20 year old guy and a girl says she wants to fuck. Naturally, that is the time to discover you have a conscience. :rolleyes: NOT!

That might be a time to discover your conscience....

Unless you are drunk, stoned, been slipped a roofie, or she has beaten you and tied you up; is she your boss, in a position of power over you in some way? Did she threaten to kill a family member if you told anyone what she did to you? if you have sex with her it's not rape. It's just you being a horny 20 year old guy.

She did get us both drunk. Does it sound more wrong to you?

It's called hormones. :rolleyes: :duh: Man up and deal with it.

It is possible for a woman to rape or molest a man, but what you describe is not that.

I never said I was raped. It would be extremely wrong of me to say that I was. But I do feel that she took advantage of me.
 

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yes, she was pushy beyond what is ok.
she took advantage of the fact that you're a bit easy.
she's out of line and you need to learn to stand your ground.

a firm, loud, 'i said NO!' leaves people in no doubt.
...and they'll either say sorry or throw the mother of all tantrums.
 

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"Taking advantage" is a tricky term, because people usually don't entirely know what they want.

The religiously prudish would probably use that as a reason to "treasure" sex and all that, but I don't think that's necessarily a good solution. Instead, I would say that people should just take responsibility for their actions and think them through. Ultimately, the term "taking advantage" implies that only the aggressor should take responsibility, when in fact it falls on both parties. Obviously, the whole "it's the victim's fault" thing is not correct either, but that doesn't mean the victim was necessarily completely blameless.
 

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hello Nick8
In response to your I was date raped in college by a guy ´ could you give more details? Were you drugged or overpowered? Obviously this guy definitely had an obsession for you.
I was ´swooned´ over by a friend in college. Just the opposite. He asked me out on a date, paid for dinner, reserved a motel room, had flowers by the bed. Kind of surprised me that he would get so romantic. I wasn´t ÓUT´by any means - straight acting, athletic - guess he saw through me.
 

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I know that there is something called self-control, but.... it just won't work.... you don't feel in control.

Anybody else felt like that?

Not with a woman, no--quite the contrary. But with a man now and again--AND HOW...!!! :rolleyes: (But to coin a phrase, it does take two to tango.....)
 
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